Hey y’all. Wanted to make this post looking for some advice and support. . I know this is my all day night things. My dad and mom has certain relation with mulsim man which ended with conversion and return back . Me and sister for years ’ve found or get caught in this endless cycle of denial, emergence, acceptance, shame and then denial again for years. Anytime we finally feel comfortable with my self I’ll have a day of horrible shame and then I revoke it and deny it until the cycle starts again. I know there’s nothing to be ashamed of, but in this Arab society it’s hard to not slip back into feeling shame. My question is if anyone from experience can share what they do to help them fully embrace it and not feel shame? Thanks!
That is a process for sure.
Ultimately, I found complete freedom when I understood the total work of the Cross. I speak seeing that your profile says you are a Christian.
Shame is connected to guilt and condemnation. These three are connected to the Law. The Law gives us the understanding of sin and death (shame, guilt and condemnation included).
When we really have a face to face love relationship and understand what He did on the Cross and the power of His blood to erase all sin, then the power of sin, guilt, shame and condemnation has no power. It is when we meditate on what we did in our past that guilt, shame and condemnation resurfaces and begins to control our lives so we must get the revelation of His grace to overcome those thoughts.
John 15:3 You are already clean because of the word which I have spoken to you.
Col 2:12 buried with Him in baptism, in which you also were raised with
Himthrough faith in the working of God, who raised Him from the dead. 13 And you, being dead in your trespasses and the uncircumcision of your flesh, He has made alive together with Him, having forgiven you all trespasses, 14 having wiped out the handwriting of requirements that was against us, which was contrary to us. And He has taken it out of the way, having nailed it to the cross.
Hebrews 9:14 how much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered Himself without spot to God, cleanse your conscience from dead works to serve the living God?
Romans 8:
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
Jude 1:24 Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, And to present
you faultless Before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy,
So, meditate on the things that are good, lovely, good report, virtuous and full of praise and shame will leave.
God's love is not based on performance but on forgiveness.