A lot of general knowledge books -
The Nine Questions People ask about Judaism,
The Complete Book Jewish Observances,
Judaism - The Eternal Covenant, plus quite a few more.
Books on Jewish history, thoughts, and experiences -
Night,
This Is My God,
A History of the Jewish Experience.
And, of course, references and texts.
I'm looking forward to the reading.
I think
Your People, My People: Finding Acceptance and Fulfillment as a Jew by Choice by Lena Romanoff is pretty good. It targets those who are married to Jews but it has good stuff for the rest of us too.
I also liked
The Wisdom of Judaism: An Introduction to the Values of the Talmud. It's just a short, simple overview of a few of the values found in Talmud. It's an easy read.
The Idiots Guide to Talmud isn't too bad either for those who are new to Talmud.
Conversion to Judaism and
Questions and Answers on Conversion to Judaism by Epstein are helpful. You may not want to read both as I saw many similarities. They are pretty simplified but I thought he had some good tidbits on things like Jewish identity, etc.
I also liked
Embracing the Covenant by Rabbi Berkowitz
Prayerfully Yours by Dr. Avraham Twerksi is the book that set me out on this path. I really like Dr. Twerski and plan to read more of his books when I can find them (I try to get what I can at the library)
The Jewish Book of Why by Alfred Kolatch includes things I never read in many of the basic Jewish intro books. Some things were just plain odd and I'm not really sure I needed to know. But there was some interesting background information. I have no read the second book.
I have read some others but these are some that stood out to me. I have about 50 more on my Wishlist. Yesterday I bought
The Guide for the Perplexed but I think it's of those things that will take me a LONG time to read.
I've only gotten through the very beginning of
God in Search of Man (Abraham Joshua Heschel) and
The War Against the Jews (Lucy Dawidowicz) but I think both have value. I know that even just the first few chapters of
The War Against the Jews gave me a background of Germany I hadn't known about. I would say for me it's a bit different to read (it's wordy and contains a good deal of German words) but it's important.
Do you blog or keep a journal? I think it's a great idea for those who are on the path to conversion to keep a written record of what they are thinking, feeling and doing. It's good not only for you but for those who come after you. Many of the books and blogs out there are written by Converts were who married to Jews. You are in a different position where your wife is not Jewish nor does she want to convert. You may have insights that are helpful to others in the future. You also have children who are older but not old enough to be out on their own. That adds another dynamic that may be of interest to other potential converts. I also find it can help sort out your thoughts a bit. Anyway, it's just an idea.