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Cuddling buddies

Discussion in 'Sexuality' started by Riders, Aug 9, 2020.

  1. Riders

    Riders Well-Known Member

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    My texting only guy friend is interested in a cuddling buddy partnership where I get to give him hand jobs and lots of nice hugging and kissing etc...…….cuddling buddies. Being sexual with him, if I decide to do it,some folks won't agree with me but I may decide to go with it. He says he can handle my sexual boundaries I have. I am lonely. what do you think about a friendship that's physical and not a long term relationship to be married etc?
     
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    oldbadger Skanky Old Mongrel!

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    @Riders .... Hello.... :)
    You only get one shot at life, so I reckon that you must do what you want to do, and feel like doing.

    If your friendship starts to go wrong for you, just end it.
    If it works, live it! :)
     
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  3. Riders

    Riders Well-Known Member

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    Thanks.
     
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    I can only speak for my self here, and I know my rules is more strict then many others, so for me sexual activity happens only with a girlfriend I am in a relationship with. No friends with benefits for me.

    But if you feel comfortable with it then you do what feels right for you.
     
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    ChristineM "Be strong" I whispered to my coffee.
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    It's your life to do whatever you want with. So long as you are both happy then what's the problem? Set boundaries before you start (if you have any) and If it does become a problem then let it go, no harm done.
     
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    Sounds reasonable, imo, there's nothing wrong with wanting physical contact
     
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    I think you are a grown person, and if this is what you want to do, do it.

    The biggest precaution I would mention is make sure all parties are being honest. Is he being honest with his intentions? Is this all he wants, and is he really okay with the boundaries drawn? I don't know the person, so I can't make the call here. But, from what you know of him, do you find his intentions to be transparent?

    And, from another perspective of honesty, are you being honest with yourself? Is a mainly physically relationship okay with you? Are you going to be okay with how things went should the physical relationship end? Again, not knowing you personally, I can't answer this for you, but you may want to ponder on it a bit before rushing in. If you find you are okay with this, there's no reason to hold back.
     
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    :D Easy to forget, when one is a "pleaser".

    One quote I always remember
    "You were given this life, and you are free to implement it, how you like"
     
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    I think these are good questions. I am not worried about me. I am not ready for a relationship. However I do question weather he is being honest or not. I hope for my safety that he is. It could be unsafe if I have someone over here who might want to break my boundaries.

    I have not heard from him though on setting a date. He says he's interested but he could back out. There's no date yet so we will see. After being bored out of my mind from Covid it sure would be nice to have some company.
     
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    I hope for your safety he is as well. If you question his intentions at all, it may be best to wait until you are assured of his sincerity. Better to be a bit bored than find yourself in a dangerous situation.
     
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    I may not have to make up my mind anyways. He still has not tried to set a date to meet. So I don't know if he's chickening out or what. I don't know what I'm gonna do if he wants to meet, I may take that into consideration and chicken out. It's just hard being stuck at home with this covid.
     
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    It really can be. I'm sorry you're struggling with this. :(

    I hope you're able to navigate the situation and come out with something you're happy with.
     
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    He decided not to and became verbally abusive with me so I broke up with him.
     
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    Good call on your part!
     
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    But I didn't stick by it.I did with that last guy.But I put a new add up.This time asking for makeout partner.

    We made out and I gave him a hand job.He kept my physical boundaries and was pretty nice to me.

    So officially I have a cuddling buddy!

    He's 72 years old 19 years older then me and walks slow.But he's a nice guy.

    I'm keeping him.he will be a nice friend for me.
     
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    Well it didn't work out with Paul.He had to drive two hours to get out here. So he's not coming anymore.

    I got a new guyfriend cuddling buddy his name is Steve.He came by today and took me to Jackinthebow yay!

    He got me out of the house he says we might do that again or go out to eat .That's nice I got to get out of. My house and had some fun.

    We will be having fun he says we may play Scrabble and some games.
     
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    We brok up.his friend in Houston is moving out sense the hurricane and staying with him temporarily.I think I'm gonna take a break from cuddling.
     
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    Someone usually catches feelings, and then ...it's game over. I say usually, because I've known ''friends with benefits'' arrangements that on occasion, work out. But, it was never something for me. I'm married now, but when I was dating, I had to be in love before having sex. Be careful with your heart. :sunflower:
     
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    Please refer to my last journal entry.
     
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    You seem to know your boundaries. Whatever they actually are don’t compromise them. You are a person of merit. You never need to “settle” for less than you deserve.
     
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