drummrguy14
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Hello...
I am a 19 year old student in Boston, with a serious girlfriend of 2 years back home in MN. I came out to Boston in the beginning of September, and the first time I got to see Laura since I left was over thanksgiving. Starting around October, we began having serious discussions about the lack of spirituality in our relationship. She is a very devoted Christian, and I have not found where I feel I belong. I believe very strongly in God and His presence in every thing in creation..."The Holy Spirit," but have not found a spiritual home anywhere.
Now, its not that I have anything against Christianity, or any other religion. I was rasied in a United Methodist home and am very comfortable in Church settings...I just never felt like what I was being told fulfilled my spiritual desires. So I have been trying to sort out my beliefs over the past 2 years or so. In talking about this with Laura, she became increasingly more doubtful, but yet still seemed to have hope. We had planned on trying to find a place of Worship where we both felt comfortable when I got home for winter break...
However, over the Thanksgiving break, she tearfully told me she wanted to break up becasue I did not know Jesus. This came as a total shock to me, and I am probably the most upset I have ever been in my life.
Now here is my dillema...this girl is everything I could ever hope for. Our relationship has been so amazing and wonderful. I feel like me and her are meant to be together, and she has always said she felt the same. But now, since I've been gone, she has been hanging around with a new group of people, all of whom are very devoted Christians as well. She said that being around them has made her realize just how much she wished Christ was a part of our relationship, and that she felt like she has to shut God out when we're together becasue I dont neccesarily believe what she does.
So now, I'm feeling very torn...Our love is too special and too amazing just to let it walk away, but she has basically said that the only way for us to have a future is If I accept Christ...but also that I can't do it for her, that I have to do it for myself becasue I truly want it.
I have no idea what to do at this point...I am comfortable in my beliefs right now, but always try to keep an open heart to God creating change in me, so I am not against the thought of being moved to Christianity...but to seek it right now doesn't feel right. Or maybe I am just not looking at it the right way? But, at the same time, I am willing to do anything for her...if she needs change in me to be happy, than I will do whatever I can. Still, she said I can't do it for her....
Ok, so its obvious how confused I am. Help!
I am a 19 year old student in Boston, with a serious girlfriend of 2 years back home in MN. I came out to Boston in the beginning of September, and the first time I got to see Laura since I left was over thanksgiving. Starting around October, we began having serious discussions about the lack of spirituality in our relationship. She is a very devoted Christian, and I have not found where I feel I belong. I believe very strongly in God and His presence in every thing in creation..."The Holy Spirit," but have not found a spiritual home anywhere.
Now, its not that I have anything against Christianity, or any other religion. I was rasied in a United Methodist home and am very comfortable in Church settings...I just never felt like what I was being told fulfilled my spiritual desires. So I have been trying to sort out my beliefs over the past 2 years or so. In talking about this with Laura, she became increasingly more doubtful, but yet still seemed to have hope. We had planned on trying to find a place of Worship where we both felt comfortable when I got home for winter break...
However, over the Thanksgiving break, she tearfully told me she wanted to break up becasue I did not know Jesus. This came as a total shock to me, and I am probably the most upset I have ever been in my life.
Now here is my dillema...this girl is everything I could ever hope for. Our relationship has been so amazing and wonderful. I feel like me and her are meant to be together, and she has always said she felt the same. But now, since I've been gone, she has been hanging around with a new group of people, all of whom are very devoted Christians as well. She said that being around them has made her realize just how much she wished Christ was a part of our relationship, and that she felt like she has to shut God out when we're together becasue I dont neccesarily believe what she does.
So now, I'm feeling very torn...Our love is too special and too amazing just to let it walk away, but she has basically said that the only way for us to have a future is If I accept Christ...but also that I can't do it for her, that I have to do it for myself becasue I truly want it.
I have no idea what to do at this point...I am comfortable in my beliefs right now, but always try to keep an open heart to God creating change in me, so I am not against the thought of being moved to Christianity...but to seek it right now doesn't feel right. Or maybe I am just not looking at it the right way? But, at the same time, I am willing to do anything for her...if she needs change in me to be happy, than I will do whatever I can. Still, she said I can't do it for her....
Ok, so its obvious how confused I am. Help!