So, the other day at work I was up in ICU (intensive care unit), and I was making my rounds. There was one patient I had who was an older woman. She seemed in a fragile state, and I was trying to get her diet order straightened out. She was on a clear liquid diet, but she was also vegan, so it was a little challenging to get her something she could have.
She was talking about her past experiences and how one time she did a water fasting that effected her in a negative way (she did it for more than 2 weeks). She dropped a lot of weight in an unhealthy way. I shared that just recently I also lost an unhealthy amount of weight, but that I turned that around and have been increasing my caloric intake and have been exercising to help gain that weight back again.
She asked me why I lost so much weight, and me being me, I told her.
I told her about how things have been stressful for me lately with my living situation and with work. She told me that I should go to church. I then told her that my situation has improved drastically and that things are going great. She said that I should still go to church anyways... Now, I should have left it at that. Hell, I should have left it a while back.
So I kind of chuckled a little and told her how she reminded me of my mom, and that she was always trying to get me to go to church, too. She said "Well, why don't you listen to her?" So, I told her that I don't believe, and that I haven't even told her that I don't believe yet. She then said "She doesn't even know? Oh dear..."
She looked mortified. I could tell she was disturbed by that notion...
I can't talk about that stuff when I'm at work, and I'll never make that mistake again. Still, when that situation was unfolding, I was cringing inwardly while in the back of my mind my brain was screaming out "What are you doing?! Stop talking!" I just couldn't stop, though.
Then later on, long after that whole situation, it dawned on me... I think the reason I did keep talking was because she did remind me so much of my mom. I think there was a part of me that was testing the waters to see what would happen if I did ever come clean to my mom with the information that I was an atheist...
I know she suspects that I've strayed away from god. She talks about getting right with christ every time I see her. For every holiday she gives me books related to christianity. For christmas, she gave me a book about christian near death experiences.
My mom would also respond in the same way that patient did; mortified. She'd also begin to fear for my soul, though I think she's already doing that... It really sucks that I can't just be honest with her and tell her how I feel about things.
I love the truth. My life is shaped by my search for it. I hate that I have to lie, but I will if I have to. It's not what I want, though.
She was talking about her past experiences and how one time she did a water fasting that effected her in a negative way (she did it for more than 2 weeks). She dropped a lot of weight in an unhealthy way. I shared that just recently I also lost an unhealthy amount of weight, but that I turned that around and have been increasing my caloric intake and have been exercising to help gain that weight back again.
She asked me why I lost so much weight, and me being me, I told her.
I told her about how things have been stressful for me lately with my living situation and with work. She told me that I should go to church. I then told her that my situation has improved drastically and that things are going great. She said that I should still go to church anyways... Now, I should have left it at that. Hell, I should have left it a while back.
So I kind of chuckled a little and told her how she reminded me of my mom, and that she was always trying to get me to go to church, too. She said "Well, why don't you listen to her?" So, I told her that I don't believe, and that I haven't even told her that I don't believe yet. She then said "She doesn't even know? Oh dear..."
She looked mortified. I could tell she was disturbed by that notion...
I can't talk about that stuff when I'm at work, and I'll never make that mistake again. Still, when that situation was unfolding, I was cringing inwardly while in the back of my mind my brain was screaming out "What are you doing?! Stop talking!" I just couldn't stop, though.
Then later on, long after that whole situation, it dawned on me... I think the reason I did keep talking was because she did remind me so much of my mom. I think there was a part of me that was testing the waters to see what would happen if I did ever come clean to my mom with the information that I was an atheist...
I know she suspects that I've strayed away from god. She talks about getting right with christ every time I see her. For every holiday she gives me books related to christianity. For christmas, she gave me a book about christian near death experiences.
My mom would also respond in the same way that patient did; mortified. She'd also begin to fear for my soul, though I think she's already doing that... It really sucks that I can't just be honest with her and tell her how I feel about things.
I love the truth. My life is shaped by my search for it. I hate that I have to lie, but I will if I have to. It's not what I want, though.