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Attaining peace in the midst of extreme anxiety, depression, lonliness and utter hopelessness

Discussion in 'Religious Debates' started by Subhankar Zac, May 15, 2016.

  1. Subhankar Zac

    Subhankar Zac Hare Krishna,Hare Krishna,

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    Lets just say someone is going through the most horrendous time of his entire life.
    For 1.5 years, things went down south so bad that words can't describe how he feels.
    This person flew back to his home in a very remote state 1.5 years ago and since then whatever could have gone wrong, went worse than all expectations.
    His home is the most unpleasant place for him in the world.
    His parents follow their regular and continous routine of screaming and yelling at each other and often even physically assaulting.
    (No force on earth has been able to stop them nor will they try. It's a hopeless condition) Still due to cultural norms, refrained from getting a divorce.
    He has only one friend here with whom he talks occasionally.
    He had another very good friend but had to pay the price of being friends with a psychopathic homophobic rape loving racist Casteist Hindu supremacist who already several counts of attempted murder before but a rich father, he was beyond the laws. He was punched badly without any reason for being gay and for being of a lower caste.
    Once before too he was assaulted by thugs in the city for simply being out in the streets after 10:30 pm.
    Also the friends he'd actually talk to live in different states now and because of terrible signal range here, calls are rare and internet very very slow.
    Now he simply stays in his room. Never goes out of his room except for meals.
    For 1.5 years, he'd rarely talked to anyone expect maybe a few friends once a month. Can't talk to his parents as he hates them now and feels massively uncomfortable going near them.
    Just like a solitary confinement, in his room without anyone to actually sit down and talk to for over a year. He cries on his own msny times and had many bad effects on his health as a result of this issues. Often would wake up to terrifying nightmares and simply cry for rest of the night.
    Now he's trying meditation and etc but his mental state is so beyond repair that it's impossible to fix it living in this region.
    He got into a good business school in Mumbai which he'll be travelling to in next month. He managed to score well to pass the test and secure admission there, even though it's hell for him there.
    Continual suppression of his anger has made him resentful and highly skeptical of people. Not to mention very bad temperament on the smallest things and this quality to absorb all forms of negativity from the news.
    Watching the news had a particularly bad impact on him, seeing innocent people being hurt and still unable to do something about it makes him feel both furious and guilty for being so helpless.
    Stress and anxiety still challenges his health. Hairfall and other issues causing because of anxiety about the future. It will be challenging for him to work through his studies after this impact of returning to his home state, but perhaps he can opt for proper help there.
    Meditation does help for a bit but then again after a while it's all yelling and screaming in his home.
    Fear of his anger and hate for this entire scenario has gotten him concerned of his actions in the future. To control it, he tries to be kind with animals, insects and even plants as restraining practice to keep this evil side of him at bay.
    Still, with just one month to go to a new place and far from this, is there any way that he can be helped?
    I know its no Mosul or Tripoli, still, it's a very terrible condition like in jail with one window open, no one to talk to much and past events scars him against other people.
    Also it has made him jealous of other people though secretly he regrets having these emotions.
    His past school life wasn't any better either. Since birth he was scared by the yelling and screaming of his parents.
    He was actually comparatively happy in his college with his friends, though at times he'd get pissed and lash out still was a much better condition. He was the funniest in his group and made his friends laugh and a good time. Though he's angry sometimes, still he hurts none, not even picking a leaf from any plant.
    So any advice that can give him some calm and relief for the moment and help him keep it all together?
     
  2. DawudTalut

    DawudTalut Peace be upon you.

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  3. Aupmanyav

    Aupmanyav Be your own guru

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    I am an advaitist Hindu pagan and a strong atheist.
    "Mātrā-sparśāh tu kaunteya, śītoṣṇa-sukha-duḥkha-dāḥ;
    āgamāpāyino'nityās, tāḿs titikṣasva Bhārata.
    " BG 2.14

    O son of Kuntī, the nonpermanent appearance of happiness and distress, and their disappearance in due course, are like the appearance and disappearance of winter and summer seasons. They arise from sense perception, O scion of Bharata, and one must learn to tolerate them without being disturbed.
    You have all answers in BhagawadGita.
     
  4. Subhankar Zac

    Subhankar Zac Hare Krishna,Hare Krishna,

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    Doesn't help.
    A building cannot be built on a shaky ground, at least not the base.
     
  5. wizanda

    wizanda One Accepts All Religious Texts
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    First off it sounds like he is being trained up to be a saint.... Those who have it the hardest, learn the most from it.
    'So what doesn't break you, makes you stronger.'

    'Seek first the kingdom of God, and all things will be open to you'... or in other words, if you learn that everything that happens can be turned to good, when you trust God has a master plan, and often those who've had the most troubles, find the greatest joy later.

    Some of the most successful people started off from similar beginnings.

    A pearl has a similar life, being battered back and forth, it slowly learns to find a perfect hard center, that smooths over time.

    When you meet other people, you will find many of them had it worse, and you're not the only one experiencing things like it.

    Learn to be within unconditional love of God, when all the strife is going on, then that will never leave you, and though you might think you're weak in the world, you'll a have core that is more determined then most. :innocent:
     
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