Geoff-Allen
Resident megalomaniac
Hope you are all well or heading towards being well ...
Here's a psych blog I found - some good advice at least in my humble little opinion -
For a taste -
“Once X happens, only then will I be or feel Y.”
At some point in our lives — we’ve all done this. And as we learn to heal and move the hell on from this divorce, we may still fall into what I call the X-Y Trap. We say to ourselves that it will take a certain external situation (what I call the X) in order for us to achieve an internal state (what I call the Y). While this occurs in everyday situations, the X-Y Trap loves to linger during the divorce process. Do any of these phrases sound familiar?
“Once the papers are signed, then I will be happy.”
“I’ll be happy again when I find a new partner to be with. Somebody who will be so much better than my ex-spouse.”
“When I move out of this house with all its memories and ghosts, I’ll be happy.”
“As soon as I quit feeling so overwhelmed, then I can work on being happy.”
How to Stop Sabotaging Your Own Happiness
If that isn't enough for you - try your favourite search engine ...
Wishing you all the best!
Here's a psych blog I found - some good advice at least in my humble little opinion -
For a taste -
“Once X happens, only then will I be or feel Y.”
At some point in our lives — we’ve all done this. And as we learn to heal and move the hell on from this divorce, we may still fall into what I call the X-Y Trap. We say to ourselves that it will take a certain external situation (what I call the X) in order for us to achieve an internal state (what I call the Y). While this occurs in everyday situations, the X-Y Trap loves to linger during the divorce process. Do any of these phrases sound familiar?
“Once the papers are signed, then I will be happy.”
“I’ll be happy again when I find a new partner to be with. Somebody who will be so much better than my ex-spouse.”
“When I move out of this house with all its memories and ghosts, I’ll be happy.”
“As soon as I quit feeling so overwhelmed, then I can work on being happy.”
How to Stop Sabotaging Your Own Happiness
If that isn't enough for you - try your favourite search engine ...
Wishing you all the best!