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Featured Are you afraid of letting strangers live in your home?

Discussion in 'General Religious Debates' started by Conscious thoughts, Apr 19, 2021.

  1. Conscious thoughts

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    I chosen to add this in the religious debate because i do believe non belivers and believer alike will answer differently (maybe) or maybe i am wrong :confused:

    But, Are you afraid of letting a stranger in to your home if you know it is a homeless person? Does it matter what social status the person have?
    Does it matter if the person have a religious belief or not?

    (please be nice to people who may disagree with your own views )
     
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    Yes.

    When I was 18 or 19, I invited a stranger in. I believed he was a friend of my roommates(its what he told me). So I invited him to wait for them. They wouldn't be long. I then returned to doing the dishes.

    Jerk crept up on me. I won't go into details, but if I hadn't just happened to be washing a knife when he snuck up, and if the back door(which was restraining the dogs)had been any farther from the kitchen, I would have had some real problems.

    Luckily, I was able to direct him to his way out, with the help of a snarling cocker spaniel. But I am very cautious about who I let into my home now. Social status matters none. I must have built enough of a trust level with the person that I know they will not harm me, and, hopefully not steal from me.
     
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  3. Conscious thoughts

    Conscious thoughts Veteran Member

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    I can understand your fear because of what you experienced
     
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    Shadow Wolf Rival's Wife

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    It doesn't matter who they are, if I don't know them they don't stay. Rich or poor, lives in a castle or lives on the street, they're gonna have to find somewhere else to stay.
     
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    I think it is like being a life guard. Sometimes you swim out to save someone, but they panic mindlessly trying to use you as a flotation device. Sometimes this happens to drowning people who cannot help what they are doing, and they will grab you and drown both of you in panic, not consciously. When that panic happens you, a lifeguard, must let yourself sink, so that they release you. The panicking person will mindlessly release you since you are no longer floating. You wait for the panicked person to tire, and then you can drag them back to dry land.

    A homeless person may, analogous to a panicking swimmer, be in a state of desperation. They may not value your life or your feelings. They may be willing to pull you down, mindlessly, not thinking clearly; or they may be ready to go back to dry land. They may allow you to pull them to shore. Then it is safe to decide to save them, but that is a decision you make at your own risk.
     
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  6. sun rise

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    When I was in school, I picked up some hitchhikers and let them stay overnight in our place. But we had very little and we were young.

    But today sadly I don't trust my judgement enough to have a sense of who might be OK and who would not be OK.

    Religion has nothing to do with it unless the person would start ranting about my beliefs.
     
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  7. Aupmanyav

    Aupmanyav Be your own guru

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    What someone says on internet and what someone does in reality can be very different.
    No. There are millions of homeless people, whatever status, whatever religion. They are not my responsibility. That is Allah's doing. If they act according to Quran, Allah will take them in his heaven after al-Qiyamah - "Some faces that Day shall be Nadirah (shining and radiant)".
    Surah-Al-Qiyamah, Quran al-Kareem, 75.22. ;)
     
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  8. Conscious thoughts

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    So if i say my home is open for those who need a shelter for a night or two, it is not my real view?
     
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    No, it does not matter.
    I will not let any stranger in our home to stay.
    When I was a teenager I helped some seamen who had sunk their tender while trying to get out to their ship. I let them get warm and stay the night. One of them stole my Father's gold cuff-links from a drawer.

    So I would call for help for a cold hungry stranger, I would give the price of a dinner, but no stranger can stay here.
     
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    I am not a fan of letting anyone in my home, let alone them staying...
    This includes and is not limited to family and friends and complete strangers,,,
     
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  11. Aupmanyav

    Aupmanyav Be your own guru

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    May be or may be not. Only Allah knows.
     
  12. Conscious thoughts

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    Yes Allah knows :)
    PS...I know too ;)
     
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    I’d offer them something to eat or drink. But they ain’t coming in my home. Gotta be careful these days
     
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    I have had strangers stay at my home, sometimes even when I wasn't there.
    I have been scolded for my naïve image of humans, here and in RL, but I've yet to make an experience to teach me otherwise.
    I think religious affiliation wouldn't matter (or at least shouldn't) and I won't ask for it. But I'd get suspicious when a person is overtly religious. I had that teaching experience with such a person in the allegorical sense of letting them in my "home" (Living History group).
     
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  15. Conscious thoughts

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    Seems like we have similar experience :)
     
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    Afraid? No. Why would I be afraid of a roommate? Of course, I would try to rule out the axe murderers.....
    I just choose to live alone, now I have the option. I have my reputation as a recluse to maintain, after all.
     
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  17. Mock Turtle

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    It's not about fear but more about reality. The issue is, how much trust should you give a stranger, especially for example when those one might know for some time have abused such trust, such that it can be dangerous to do so for unknown individuals - as mentioned by others. It's a basic law of behaviour seemingly (for many) that we trust others until they first betray us and then we will probably behave differently. Perhaps some know this and take advantage, hence it takes some good understanding of behaviour (and personality types) to assess the likelihood of a stranger doing so, especially when they might have entirely different values to oneself - and which might be expected, given the circumstances many find themselves in. We might look at Les Miserables here and the stolen silver - his need being greater. So it all depends upon why the stranger has such needs as to whether I would let a stranger live in my home, especially if I thought there was a high probability of theft occurring.
     
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    I can not speak for others, but personally i find it so that, if a person who i let in to my home did steal from me, it is on them not me. It is their choice to be honest or dishonest, their choice to steal or not steal.
    An object or money can always be replaced in my view.

    If they were to harm me, yes i am the one who would suffer from it there and then, but it is still on them what they chose to do. And it is my choice to have that trust in others
     
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    Well it's true that the monetary value might not be that important, but some things we treasure not for such. And as mentioned, some might be capable of inflicting harm on one so perhaps that might be more a consideration for many than anything else. It probably would be for me.

    PS Their religious beliefs wouldn't really bother me - unless such involved blood sacrifice. :oops:
     
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    I am not afraid. I just do not want strangers around.

    CIao

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