Karolina
Member
That's where I am currently. I've been a seeker on and off all my life. I've researched most religions multiple times, and I've always returned to the faith community I was brought up with. Last year, after three years of being very dedicated to making my faith work for me, I just woke up one day and realized that it didn't. That I had been faking it, hoping to make it ("fake it till you make it" was a mantra we used in the military for presenting a good attitude).
Again I've returned to delve deeper into several religions, and again I'm coming up unconvinced. I read somewhere there are three components to one's religions identity: beliefs, practices, and fellowship with others who share these beliefs and practices. Well, I enjoy the practices of my original faith, but I can't reconcile the beliefs. Yet whenever I find a religion whose beliefs jive with me, I can't stay bc their practices don't hold any meaning for me. The dilemma I'm left with is, where then can I get that fellowship that would make me feel like a full fledged member of a religious group?
In the past I've envied insular groups like the Amish or Mormons or Hasidic Jews or Muslims (in the US). But I know that's not where I belong.
For many people I know, they simply disagree privately with the beliefs of their religion and don't think anyone has to know about it, or they're even unapologetically vocal about it. I'd like that to be me. But it irks me that I can't find everything I need in one group, that I have to compromise one way or another. I've actually brought this up with a therapist!
Anyone else settled on staying with an imperfect match after a period of seeking? Any advice for making that work?
Again I've returned to delve deeper into several religions, and again I'm coming up unconvinced. I read somewhere there are three components to one's religions identity: beliefs, practices, and fellowship with others who share these beliefs and practices. Well, I enjoy the practices of my original faith, but I can't reconcile the beliefs. Yet whenever I find a religion whose beliefs jive with me, I can't stay bc their practices don't hold any meaning for me. The dilemma I'm left with is, where then can I get that fellowship that would make me feel like a full fledged member of a religious group?
In the past I've envied insular groups like the Amish or Mormons or Hasidic Jews or Muslims (in the US). But I know that's not where I belong.
For many people I know, they simply disagree privately with the beliefs of their religion and don't think anyone has to know about it, or they're even unapologetically vocal about it. I'd like that to be me. But it irks me that I can't find everything I need in one group, that I have to compromise one way or another. I've actually brought this up with a therapist!
Anyone else settled on staying with an imperfect match after a period of seeking? Any advice for making that work?