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A Sad Day

Discussion in 'The Social World' started by PureX, Aug 28, 2019.

  1. PureX

    PureX Veteran Member

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    My mom is laying in a hospital bed struggling to take her last breaths. Alzheimer's has destroyed her mind to the point where she would no longer eat or drink; perhaps she simply forgot how, or why. Her body will quit trying to hang on in a day or so.

    But really, she's been gone for a while, now. Only little sparks of her consciousness flashing, here and there. I took her for a ride in the car last Friday. She enjoyed it. She didn't recognize anything, but it was a beautiful day and we drove along the lake shore, through vineyard country. She was at peace with her unknowing.

    I miss her, already. She was a good mom, and a good woman. When my dad found someone else, and left her, she never once said anything bad about him to us kids. And later, as hard as it must have been for her, she would not shun or exclude him and his new wife from family events. She never made us choose between them. And she never scorned his second wife. She accepted, and forgave, because that's what love does.

    She was not an educated woman. We were driving at night once, years ago, and when I made some remark about the moon, it became clear from our conversation that she had no idea that it was orbiting the Earth. Or what "orbiting" even meant, really. But she was wise, and kind, and generous, and good humored. Always willing to talk about anything, and always willing to listen.

    I hope her body gives up the struggle, soon. It's time for her to be free of it. What a sad thing to have to say.

     
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  2. Revoltingest

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  3. sun rise

    sun rise "Let there be peace and love among all"
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    Your mom clearly had the most important thing a human can have: a good heart.
     
  4. Vinayaka

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    Alzheimer's got my Mom as well. (over 20 years now, I think) My heart goes out to you, and your words hit home. It's death over 5 years, not a few months, and it is mostly relief when she goes. Cherish the bright times. Peace, peace, peace.
     
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  5. Guitar's Cry

    Guitar's Cry Verisimilitudinous

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    I wish you the best, PureX. She sounds like a wonderful mom!
     
  6. Deeje

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    What a beautiful tribute to your Mom. What better legacy could she have left for her children. So many could take a leaf out of her book. What a beautiful heart. :sparklingheart:

    May her final breath be a peaceful exit. :(
     
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    Sapiens Polymathematician

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    Thank you for sharing an exemplar for all of us who are in similar circumstances.
     
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    Its a nasty disease :( But it sounds like she have experienced a good life and shared that with those around her, at least that is something. I wish you and your family the best in a rough time.
     
  9. Ellen Brown

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    I am sorry for your pain. May she be in comfort soon.
     
  10. Milton Platt

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    Both my mother and mother-in-law had a difficult death. You have my deepest sympathy as someone who has walked a mile in your shoes.

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  11. RedDragon94

    RedDragon94 Feeling Fine I guess

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    I often wonder what it will be like to say goodbye to my parents when it's their time. Will I be strong enough to live with myself?

    Edit: (You know, alone.)
     
  12. PureX

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    Her ordeal is over.
     
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