Whatever the intention of adults may be when they are reinforcing feelings of guilt in children, it presents only negative manifestations. Such negative manifestations include panic, fear, [tag-ice]introversion[/tag-ice], sleeplessness, shame, lack of initiative, and loss of self-esteem.
When you use guilt as a way to prod children of any age into doing or acting how you want them to, or to feel bad for something that is already over, you are taking a huge step to helping them become anxious thinkers. Anxious thinkers are filled with the physical manifestations of anxiety.
Although using guilt on your children will grant you the temporary quick-fix to a troubling situation that your son or daughter is causing, this guilt is felt within the child and works fast to internalize feelings of [tag-tec]anxiety[/tag-tec]. Have you ever played the “feel bad game” with your child? Most of us have at one point or another. To an adult it is very innocent and with no harmful intentions, but to the child it the start of guilt and worry.
Understanding Guilt and its Effects on Children - Parenting Tips and Advice
Do you feel using guilt is a useful tool to correct behavior?
At some point in my life a decided to never feel guilt. I go about life doing the best I can, not intending harm. If I make a mistake, I accept that and make whatever amends I can to that person, not out of guilt but because if I made life more difficult for someone, I take the responsibility to help fix things.
I don't use guilt on my kids. What I try to do is show actions have consequences. When we choose to do something we have to be ready to deal with the consequences. No real need to make kids feel guilt or use guilt to control behavior IMO.
Am I wrong? Is guilt a necessary part of the human psyche which allows one to be a good upstanding citizen?
Do you feel guilt. If so do you think this feeling of guilt is necessary for you to be a good person?
When you use guilt as a way to prod children of any age into doing or acting how you want them to, or to feel bad for something that is already over, you are taking a huge step to helping them become anxious thinkers. Anxious thinkers are filled with the physical manifestations of anxiety.
Although using guilt on your children will grant you the temporary quick-fix to a troubling situation that your son or daughter is causing, this guilt is felt within the child and works fast to internalize feelings of [tag-tec]anxiety[/tag-tec]. Have you ever played the “feel bad game” with your child? Most of us have at one point or another. To an adult it is very innocent and with no harmful intentions, but to the child it the start of guilt and worry.
Understanding Guilt and its Effects on Children - Parenting Tips and Advice
Do you feel using guilt is a useful tool to correct behavior?
At some point in my life a decided to never feel guilt. I go about life doing the best I can, not intending harm. If I make a mistake, I accept that and make whatever amends I can to that person, not out of guilt but because if I made life more difficult for someone, I take the responsibility to help fix things.
I don't use guilt on my kids. What I try to do is show actions have consequences. When we choose to do something we have to be ready to deal with the consequences. No real need to make kids feel guilt or use guilt to control behavior IMO.
Am I wrong? Is guilt a necessary part of the human psyche which allows one to be a good upstanding citizen?
Do you feel guilt. If so do you think this feeling of guilt is necessary for you to be a good person?