Riders
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I am a liberal person. However the whole 90 day fiance thing is a reality tv show based on those who want to marry a foreigner from another country in 90 days so they can get their visa and fall in love and meet in 90 days. I wouldn't do the tv show thing, I don't trust people that much definitely would be a problem if someone was using me to come tot he usa.
My sister married an illegal alien from Mexico but they're marriage turned out well. I think it can but I am not sure about marrying someone who came to america unless they have been here for awhile maybe I would.
Put it this way, I don't travel would not be interested in going to another country it scares me. I know I'm a universalist it would seem that type of thing would be my thing.
The thing about folks who are from other religions weather it be Jewish Christian Muslim Buddhist from other countries, a lot of them are very ultra conservative , America is very liberal compared to other countries. Youd think id be interested in going to other religions being Universalist.
I went to a Buddhist Temple that's been in North Dallas for over 40 years.I went to a class 12 years ago when I weighed 345 pounds. I went ot a class the teacher an older chinese man from china he looked at me and asked why I wanted to learn about meditation. I started to talk he said let me be blunt is it because of your obesity and his eyes just a bout popped out like he hadn't ever seen anyone as big as me.
He did give me some really good advice.I was glad I went but I could just tell from his mannerisms and the way eh spoke to me hat he was really conservative and not use to being around big big ladies.
Later on one of my Buddhist monk friends on line recommended that temple to me and said be careful the leaders are very chinese and very old fashioned conservative. Yes I've already gone and I am very aware of that.
I went to Zen meditation several months ago. My temple director too me home same thing she was very very chinese and very traditional and she asking me a lot of questions, about my weight and my sisters and weather or not I lived with my family how close I was to my sisters etc.I get it, I was not offended so much but I recognize again the very traditional conservative back ground that they come from.
However I don't mind going to a Zen temple with conservative leaders, it didn't really bother me the conversation because she did not force her beliefs on me. As a rule even though the leaders of Zen temples maybe ultra conservative, you go meditate maybe chant and talk but as a rule politics are not discussed nor personal values, you go to meditate mainly and leave.
So if I had not taken a ride form her I would not have even gotten into the conversation with her and sense she doesn't force her ways on me it doesn't bother me.
But that being said back tot he topic, yea I watch the show and I see many folks form other countries on there who's values are very different then ours and I think I would be nervous about getting involved with someone who came from an uber ultra conservative traditional back ground.
Marrying someone from a different religion is scary too.
Its odd that a Universal lady like me is so nervous about that but like I said many cultures are very different then us. I mean I went to the Hare Krishna Temple in Dallas 12 years ago maybe 3 times. It was beautiful.
The service the music is awesome the flowers the rituals the vegan food was good, they serve a free dinner at their classes and service Kirtan ISCON!
But like on my 3rd visit the teacher was teaching looking at me saying that if I had visited a few times i needed to start going every week and maybe more 2 or 3 times if possible. Those of us who had visited a few times b=needed to start coming regular not just visiting got onto me about it.HE also reached at me about being vegetarian and losing weight.Tobecontinued
My sister married an illegal alien from Mexico but they're marriage turned out well. I think it can but I am not sure about marrying someone who came to america unless they have been here for awhile maybe I would.
Put it this way, I don't travel would not be interested in going to another country it scares me. I know I'm a universalist it would seem that type of thing would be my thing.
The thing about folks who are from other religions weather it be Jewish Christian Muslim Buddhist from other countries, a lot of them are very ultra conservative , America is very liberal compared to other countries. Youd think id be interested in going to other religions being Universalist.
I went to a Buddhist Temple that's been in North Dallas for over 40 years.I went to a class 12 years ago when I weighed 345 pounds. I went ot a class the teacher an older chinese man from china he looked at me and asked why I wanted to learn about meditation. I started to talk he said let me be blunt is it because of your obesity and his eyes just a bout popped out like he hadn't ever seen anyone as big as me.
He did give me some really good advice.I was glad I went but I could just tell from his mannerisms and the way eh spoke to me hat he was really conservative and not use to being around big big ladies.
Later on one of my Buddhist monk friends on line recommended that temple to me and said be careful the leaders are very chinese and very old fashioned conservative. Yes I've already gone and I am very aware of that.
I went to Zen meditation several months ago. My temple director too me home same thing she was very very chinese and very traditional and she asking me a lot of questions, about my weight and my sisters and weather or not I lived with my family how close I was to my sisters etc.I get it, I was not offended so much but I recognize again the very traditional conservative back ground that they come from.
However I don't mind going to a Zen temple with conservative leaders, it didn't really bother me the conversation because she did not force her beliefs on me. As a rule even though the leaders of Zen temples maybe ultra conservative, you go meditate maybe chant and talk but as a rule politics are not discussed nor personal values, you go to meditate mainly and leave.
So if I had not taken a ride form her I would not have even gotten into the conversation with her and sense she doesn't force her ways on me it doesn't bother me.
But that being said back tot he topic, yea I watch the show and I see many folks form other countries on there who's values are very different then ours and I think I would be nervous about getting involved with someone who came from an uber ultra conservative traditional back ground.
Marrying someone from a different religion is scary too.
Its odd that a Universal lady like me is so nervous about that but like I said many cultures are very different then us. I mean I went to the Hare Krishna Temple in Dallas 12 years ago maybe 3 times. It was beautiful.
The service the music is awesome the flowers the rituals the vegan food was good, they serve a free dinner at their classes and service Kirtan ISCON!
But like on my 3rd visit the teacher was teaching looking at me saying that if I had visited a few times i needed to start going every week and maybe more 2 or 3 times if possible. Those of us who had visited a few times b=needed to start coming regular not just visiting got onto me about it.HE also reached at me about being vegetarian and losing weight.Tobecontinued