How would you judge your childrens grades?

Some men's brains are hardwired that way. They worry about you making costly mistakes in life, so they criticize when they are concerned. Somehow they believe if they give out a compliment, it will go to your head and you will rush out and make a mistake or not try as hard as when he was rough on you.

The truth be told, it probably has something to do with how he was raised.

Most likely, if your step father did not care about you, he would say nothing at all.


The other side of the coin is, perhaps he really doesn't care and is jealous of your successes.

The other side of the coin is, perhaps he really doesn't care and is jealous of your successes.

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jealous of one's own kids?

first time i heard about this

vandervalley said:

jealous of one's own kids?

first time i heard about this

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Hardly this happens more than you think.

Maths is often a problem subject...
However you need a reasonable grade in maths to progress very far in science.

What you need to think about is the end Target...
What do they want to do in life
What subjects and grades do they need to achieve to reach that target.

It may be maths and science are not the important things in their life... but they may be vital...
It all depends on the target.

The more an all rounder you are the wider the target can be.

However a D in Math is not good enough... with decent coaching it could easily be an A or even a B

The aim should be for them to equip them selves, so that their final career is achievable.

Terrywoodenpic said:

Maths is often a problem subject...
However you need a reasonable grade in maths to progress very far in science.

What you need to think about is the end Target...
What do they want to do in life
What subjects and grades do they need to achieve to reach that target.

It may be maths and science are not the important things in their life... but they may be vital...
It all depends on the target.

The more an all rounder you are the wider the target can be.

However a D in Math is not good enough... with decent coaching it could easily be an A or even a B

The aim should be for them to equip them selves, so that their final career is achievable.

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Like I said this was not my son's problem per se but if you want to know what my son wants to be

God help me........An anesthesiologist. He has wanted to be this since 4th grade.

With the other good grades and depending on the science, it if it was something like basic biology I'd wonder if it was a learning disorder with the math. If it was something like chemistry or a science with lots of math, I'd wonder if it was just a lack of effort. I'd be sure to talk to my child about math, meet with the teacher and see what they had to say, and possibly see a doctor or other specialists.

Part of my learning/hearing disorder is a problem with math, I even have number dyslexia. I should also have problems with reading and language, but I think because it went undiagnosed so long and I had no idea why I couldn't hear or speak or understand as well as other children, I taught myself how to read and write at a very young age. The written word was something that was there, something I could understand, something that my hearing couldn't infer with.

God help me........An anesthesiologist. He has wanted to be this since 4th grade.

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A very respectable career.

Reverend Rick said:

Some men's brains are hardwired that way. They worry about you making costly mistakes in life, so they criticize when they are concerned. Somehow they believe if they give out a compliment, it will go to your head and you will rush out and make a mistake or not try as hard as when he was rough on you.

The truth be told, it probably has something to do with how he was raised.

Most likely, if your step father did not care about you, he would say nothing at all.


The other side of the coin is, perhaps he really doesn't care and is jealous of your successes.

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I'm talking about my father-in-law. And I really don't care why he acts like this. There's no excuse for his severe lack of interest. I know it has nothing at all to do with the way he was raised. All of his siblings seem to have their heads screwed on straight.

jacquie4000 said:

Like I said this was not my son's problem per se but if you want to know what my son wants to be

God help me........An anesthesiologist. He has wanted to be this since 4th grade.

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Here you have to qualify as a doctor first then specialize.

Terrywoodenpic said:

Here you have to qualify as a doctor first then specialize.

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I am just thinking 8 to 10 years of college right now........:cover:

I would want to know how the rest of the class did in maths. If everyone else got Es for example, he did pretty well.

And just remember, that a portion of science, (esp. physics) also has a fair amount of math, it's not like he can't do it to get an A. It could be the math teacher...

But my main focus would be "well done for your Science, History and English"

jealous of one's own kids?

first time i heard about this

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I have concluded my parents are jealous of me in many, many aspects of life. From my skills at various tasks, intelligence, and even being a non-conformist.

History and English.