I think many children are losing manners/etiquette - whatever you want to call it, way to behave etc! I do think children should be given freedom to express their own opinions and develop their own ideas to an extent (however youll find that whatever the child is like the parents are like!) especially when the parents are no good and the child is going down the "good" path!
I was smacked at as a child, never did me any harm! and it also meant mum could say "Dont do that or youll have a smack" great deterent! nowadays they just say dont do that to which the child replies "why?"
It is a difficult one! personally I would prob say some smacking wasnt out of the question if the child had repeatedly done something. However part of me wonders, as as I have got older, I have my own opinions and generally disagree with my mum quite a bit. But thats ok now I am 21 (well it isnt in her eyes "mum always right"!
), but why cant it be alright when the child is youngr, where is the boundary!
Its also hard as so many people have different ideas on what is right and what is wrong. I have a friend who readily swears in front of her kids - the kids now swear back! That has never been done in my family!
So how do you determine right from wrong?
Some cheekiness is cute in a kid, shows a sense of character. My 4yr old cousin had a great one the other day when she forgot to say pls after asking for some choc from my aunt. My aunt said "Tonia, what do you say?" to which she replied, "Please, DARLING (in an sarcastic voice - shes 4!) may I have some choc?" I mean the child is 4! where on earth she came up with that I dont know, but we all laughed!!!