Poll for Heterosexuals—Please!

Radio Frequency X said:

I think the poll results are rather optimistic.

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Could be, but for me it's realistic because I've done them all with no discomfort.




Peace,
Mystic

i see noithing wrong with people making the choice to be homosexual my friend sitting next to me is gay and i ahve no problem with him. my ex best friend was a lesbian and the cause of us not being friends anymore has nothng to do with her being that way. its only the fact that some people take it and use it as a shield.

then there are people who are condecending towards gays and thats just stupid. ahte crimes arent going to stop people from being who they are.

sorry its just a touchy subject for me i have a lot of friends that get talked about for being gay.

Now that this thread has near-effectively dwindled off, I would like to make some closing remarks to summarize the obvious. With the apparent concerns over nudity, is it any wonder that people are still struggling with sexuality overall?

Thank you all for your comments. As promised, I did not bash anyone on this thread, at least, I don't think I did. I appreciate you all for taking the poll and your responses. Hopefully, it has allowed us all to see at least one aspect of what is hindering progress in the way of acceptance of gays in the military and other areas of our daily lives.

Thank you again.

You know you could really expand this poll to four times the questions, straight same sex, gay same sex, straight opposite sex, gay opposite sex.

yuvgotmel said:

Now that this thread has near-effectively dwindled off, I would like to make some closing remarks to summarize the obvious. With the apparent concerns over nudity, is it any wonder that people are still struggling with sexuality overall?

Thank you all for your comments. As promised, I did not bash anyone on this thread, at least, I don't think I did. I appreciate you all for taking the poll and your responses. Hopefully, it has allowed us all to see at least one aspect of what is hindering progress in the way of acceptance of gays in the military and other areas of our daily lives.

Thank you again.

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The results are amusing (in a way). Both my wife and I were separately brought up in environments where nudity (or nakedness - strange how the second description sounds less "Sexual"? ) was the status quo.

Neither I -nor my wife ever saw our parents naked; both of us had a past of being exceedingly shy in public about this whole matter (as a boy, I hated changing rooms at school) - and that was unisex school.

So, when we became parents, we vowed that we would have total uninhibited nakedness in our house - as an ambiance for our children, so that they would not turn out being inhibited.

We still behave that way (though they both carefully cover themselves up); they seem to accept it and it doesn't seem top bother them in the least. I hope we did the "right" thing; alas, there are no manuals for parenthood.

Mine was mostly due to not being comfortable with doing these things with anyone rather than what there sex is.

Shopping for clothes

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Wouldn't really bother me.

Eating at a restaurant (dinner for two)

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Have done this with gay coworkers, but not on an intimate scale. Just lunch. I would not do this on an intimate scale, because my wife is the only one that gets intimate dinners .

Work in the same office

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Done this many times. Pretty much every job I've been in, I've worked with gay coworkers.

Allow that person to baby-sit your child (in your absence)

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Well, this is a difficult one. If I new I could trust the person, then I wouldn't have a problem with it, but that goes for anyone.

Drink from the same cup

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Gross. I barely drink from the same cup as my wife.

Undress in front of that person

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Same as above. I don't like undressing in front of anyone.

Shower/bathe with that person

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Same as above.

Talk openly about sexual issues or other intimate medical problems

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Just don't think it's appropriate with anyone unless you are in a serious relationship.

Camping in the woods with one tent

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I only sleep with my wife.

Allow that person to give you a medical examination (if they are a doctor)

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Sure. They are a professional, and know what they are doing.

Walk around the park, woods, or any secluded area

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I guess I wouldn't have a problem with this. Although secluded area to me implys that we'd be going somewhere to get away with each other. If that's the case, then no.

Sleep in the same room together (different beds)

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I only sleep with my wife. Plus, I'm uncomfortable with sleeping with anyone. It's a comfort thing.

Greet that person with a hug at a social gathering

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Don't think I would have a problem with this, but I am typically a non-touchy person. So, it would have to be a good friend. For a long time, when I was younger, I wouldn't even hug my mom.

Hire that person for private home lessons (for things like piano, dance, art, singing, etc.)

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Kind of the same thing as the doctor question. They are a professional.

Agree to stay in the same hotel room for a work-related business conference

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No. I always have a room to myself when I'm on work related travel. The main reason is because when I'm away from home and my wife while on business travel, I don't sleep at all. I'd drive someone crazy. Plus, I have overly sensitive ears, so if I try to sleep, any noise (snoring, loud breathing, etc) prevents me from falling asleep.

None of the above checkboxes apply to me. I do not normally undress in public (locker room situation are an exception) but that doesn't have anything to do whatever other people around are homosexuals or not. I posted this to show that I have answered at all since there is no "none of the above" checkbox to vote with.

Sunstone said:

You get to do that in the Marines? Oh, why didn't I join when I was younger!

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Yea...you would've had the pleasure of showering with a whole platoon of men!!

Jeez..you missed out!

All those guys 'swingin it around'!! :drool:

I picked the shower/bath thing as the thing which would make me the most uncomfortable, tho, I played 3 varsity sports in high school, and have always been a member of Gyms/Health Clubs, so there is a good chance I have showered with a gay man in the past and it seems I bear no ill effects from the experience.

In all honesty, if the man just happened to prefer sex with other men, but was otherwise a "manly man" for lack of a better way of putting it, I probably would not care at all about any of the activities. I will admit to being very uncomfortable around effite, flamer type gays, and I cannot exactly put my finger on why it bothers me so much, but it does. I would not want to do any of the activities listed with an effiminate flaming type guy, but then I wouldn't want to do any of those activities with Fran Dresher either.

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I guess it all depends on your exposure to such things. my best friend Kyle is gay and ive known him for 5 years i cant say ive showered with him nor would i, but i have gotten dressed with him in the room. it diddnt bother me, but nuditity doesnt bother me as it would other people.

What a bunch of prudes Americans are. Do you have something to hide that gay or opposite sex persons are not already aware of?

Seyorni said:

What a bunch of prudes Americans are. Do you have something to hide that gay or opposite sex persons are not already aware of?

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Please, please don't start that. I am so sick of being lumped in with all the other negative stereotypes of my country, and I can't remember a single instance in my life where I ever prefaced a sentence "What's wrong with you Europeans, Australians, Asians, etc." If we're going to be courteous and not paint everyone in any given religion with the same brush, then maybe it would be a good idea to do the same with nationality.

Seyorni said:

What a bunch of prudes Americans are. Do you have something to hide that gay or opposite sex persons are not already aware of?

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Well I am a prude; it isn't because of the reasons you have given above...........

I just don't much like people bursting out in laughter when I strip...............

Sorry Nanda. I didn't mean to offend.
My statement was a generalization, obviously, and as such, does not apply to any particular individual.

I do, however, think there are clearly observable, general cultural differences in attitudes toward sexuality and nudity between Americans and, say, Germans or Frenchmen, and the Continent seems none the worse for its liberality.

I would love them no less but to bathe with them there wouldnt be enough room in my bath!!!!!!~

I voted Shower /Bathe with that person .
I has nothing to do with sexual orientation though , I don't shower or bathe with anyone other than my wife . Just a personal choice .

With the exception of a few notables, I've done almost everything on the check list.

I showered with a gay kid during football. I was/am one of the few people he trusts to keep the secrets.

And don't get me started on sharing cups in football and a group of wild teenage girls.

GeneCosta said:

And don't get me started on sharing cups in football and a group of wild teenage girls.

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Simultaneously?

You didn't list "nothing" in there. None of those items would bother me at all.

Seyorni said:

What a bunch of prudes Americans are. Do you have something to hide that gay or opposite sex persons are not already aware of?

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No, it's what they are aware of is that I would rather keep private.