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JustGeorge said:

I'm so sorry for your loss!

How old are yours now?

My oldest is from a previous relationship. My middle one is 8; I do like having them spaced decently apart in age. They can be fairly helpful with each other.

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Thank you. A beautiful story of my wife having a hidden desire to know what they were (boy - girl). A woman in her 80's (I think) was in the hospital, didn't know about it and said, "I dreamt that I was in Heaven with my husband, saw my mom and dad... and interestingly, saw 2 boys that looked like your eldest but a little older. (She had no idea we had lost two during pregnancy)

42, 40 and 38 - with 11 grandchildren 4 - 4 - 3 respectively.

KenS said:

Thank you. A beautiful story of my wife having a hidden desire to know what they were (boy - girl). A woman in her 80's (I think) was in the hospital, didn't know about it and said, "I dreamt that I was in Heaven with my husband, saw my mom and dad... and interestingly, saw 2 boys that looked like your eldest but a little older. (She had no idea we had lost two during pregnancy)

42, 40 and 38 - with 11 grandchildren 4 - 4 - 3 respectively.

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I'm happy your wife got the answers she needed. I can't imagine the pain, and I hoped that eased it a little for her.

You've got a full family!

JustGeorge said:

A very long drive.

I'm in the Midwest, and I had a gaming buddy on the East Coast. I'd become close with the friend through the years(though it was always mutually platonic between us), and daily phone calls were pretty normal.

My husband was a friend of his mom's(he had been abandoned at a young age, and she had served as a 'fill in mom' at times). He happened to stop by one night when I was on the phone with the friend. Slyly, my buddy asked if he wanted to see a picture of who he was talking to. Against my will, he showed him one of my better pictures, and my husband-to-be took the phone from him and proceeded to make a fool of himself. Luckily, I enjoyed the opportunity for a comedy act he was throwing at my feet, and we bantered back and forth for awhile. He called back every night for a month, until I drove from Iowa to NC to see him(he had no car, or license). We got engaged that night, and married a month later.

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This reminds me of a friend of mine and her blind intersex boy/girlfriend(depends on the mood of said partner. Said person has no preference on what you call them both work for them literally impossible to misgender.).

They been living with each other for 3 years now. But they met online. And the intersex person moved in the very same day of talking to my friend.

It was funny cuz I've been talking to the two of them for a while now been at least a month through video chat and I remember this convo happening:

Me: (says something i can't remember at this point but it wasn't related to the following words)
Friends partner: Can we keep them?
Friend: no
Friends partner: why not? They so cute.
Friend: cuz they aint a possession to be had. Besides i already told them if they want to move out the group home they welcomed here and they said they don't want to move to South Carolina.
Friends partner: that sucks.
Me: *Listening to this whole exchange with amusement* Yeah im not going to move in with y'all. I'm comfy here.

JustGeorge said:

I'm happy your wife got the answers she needed. I can't imagine the pain, and I hoped that eased it a little for her.

You've got a full family!

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Yes... each child beautiful each in their own way.

Loosing the two was difficult. Hiccups in life. Remember me breaking down when I told my mother that we lost the second child.

It was surreal. He passed while she was on the toilet, too small to know what gender, fear, a flurry of emotions . For me it was almost like my mind went blank (maybe for protection?) as I flushed the toilet.

I don't think I have ever talked about it.

KenS said:

Yes... each child beautiful each in their own way.

Loosing the two was difficult. Hiccups in life. Remember me breaking down when I told my mother that we lost the second child.

It was surreal. He passed while she was on the toilet, too small to know what gender, fear, a flurry of emotions . For me it was almost like my mind went blank (maybe for protection?) as I flushed the toilet.

I don't think I have ever talked about it.

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Someone I know had a boy when she was younger. Special needs. He had a terminal disease that slowly caused the muscles to die, and no child during the time with said disease lived past the age of two. Ultimately he died before his first birthday.

Losing a kid can be rough.

RayofLight said:

Someone I know had a boy when she was younger. Special needs. He had a terminal disease that slowly caused the muscles to die, and no child during the time with said disease lived past the age of two. Ultimately he died before his first birthday.

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Can't imagine. In my faith, we believe the children continue to grow and we will see them again... without all the defects and diseases.

KenS said:

Can't imagine. In my faith, we believe the children continue to grow and we will see them again... without all the defects and diseases.

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(hugs)
Im sorry for your lost and what you've been through losing your two kids

RayofLight said:

(hugs)
Im sorry for your lost and what you've been through losing your two kids

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Thank you Ray!!

KenS said:

Yes... each child beautiful each in their own way.

Loosing the two was difficult. Hiccups in life. Remember me breaking down when I told my mother that we lost the second child.

It was surreal. He passed while she was on the toilet, too small to know what gender, fear, a flurry of emotions . For me it was almost like my mind went blank (maybe for protection?) as I flushed the toilet.

I don't think I have ever talked about it.

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Yeah, hiccups happen. They still hurt, though.

I can see why you'd go blank for that... What else can you do?

KenS said:

Can't imagine. In my faith, we believe the children continue to grow and we will see them again... without all the defects and diseases.

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May your eventual reunion with your lost children be joyous.