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michel · Feb 21, 2007

jamaesi, you are not alone; you have your family here. I know that we can't do anything practical to help you, but we are behind you.

If you need to talk, throw punches, well, you know where we all are. I am so sorry that you should have to face all this on your own.:hug:

Peace · Feb 21, 2007

Sorry to hear that jamaesi! May Allah grant you patience and be with you to overcome this difficult time.

Peace

jacquie4000 · Feb 21, 2007

I am so sorry you are going through such a rough time. If you need to talk more we are willing to listen we may not be able to solve all the issues but it is nice to know so many people do care. You and your father are in my thoughts.

jamaesi · Feb 21, 2007

One of my sisters just called me and said he's in liver failure and that it probably won't be... much longer. There's nothing they can do for that for him. If he does get out of the hopsital it won't be for months.

Right now I'm trying to decide whether or not to agree to the DNR they're trying to put on him.

MysticSang'ha · Feb 21, 2007

My dear sweet jamaesi..........:flower2:

Despite all of this, you continue to remain strong and compassionate and perhaps the best person to actually call the shots as next of kin. I trust that with your strengths, this trying time will be less chaotic than if you were not involved.

It sounds like your father needs you and your mindfulness to the situation's needs. And you need others for your own sanity. I have faith that the RF community is a very good place to turn to as well as others in your local community. Your SO can be depended upon, too.

I hope you don't mind if I intend for my prayers to go in your direction for peace and clarity.

OM MANI PADME HUM :flower:

Peace,
Mystic

Hema · Feb 21, 2007

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I'm disgusted to hear about the rivalry over his property. I went to a funeral recently and my dad was talking to a man who sells foodstuff at the cremation site. He told my dad that he once saw a man who was carrying a casket with one of his deceased parents and he dropped it to slam his sister against the food van.

Your dad may not have made the best decisions but he is still your dad and it's good that you are there for him. You will be blessed. Remember that this material world is full of the duality of pleasure and pain. In God's realm, there is unending peace, love and joy. May his soul progress beautifully.

jamaesi · Feb 21, 2007

I just want to thank you all again for all the kind words and thoughts and prayers. I am so thankful for all of you.

All this just... waiting, just waiting is starting to wear on me. Waiting for his condition to change for better or worse, waiting as family and doctors call me with more news, waiting for new decisions I need to make, just waiting. I jump whenever my cell rings and just hope to G-d it's not what I'm dreading it is. I had my phone on silent all night so I could get a little sleep and when I woke up I just had so many missed calls to return and worry over.

ayani · Feb 21, 2007

oh, dear. Jamaesi, prayers for you. may God grant you grace, pateince, and fortitude through this. please dear, take care of yourself in this. thank you for checking in with us. :flower2: Allah Ma'aq.

jamaesi · Feb 22, 2007

My family has already gone to every bank in our city looking for his assets.

They found a college fund he made for me. I never even knew about it. It's in his and my name and they're trying to steal it. One of my sisters actually had a panic attack when she found out about it cause it was money she didnt have control over.
He's not even dead yet.

Here I am, having panic attacks because I'm so worried about him, and worried because the family keeps stressing me, worried because I have to make all kinds of decisions.
They're worried about a few dollars that might slip out out of their greedy hands.

MysticSang'ha · Feb 22, 2007

That is so sad that your family has taken it upon themselves to do battle. Find an estate attorney (best if your dad had one with a last will and testament), and hire one to protect your father's wishes. They can be of great benefit right now and will give you an outside and objective sense of protection given that you are going through an incredible emotional turmoil.

Don't let their greed get the best of you. You have enough on your plate. :hug:

Peace,
Mystic

jacquie4000 · Feb 22, 2007

It is so sad at a time like this your family is worried about money. I remember being in that situation with my brother on my father's death bed my brother was asking my dad for the family business, not even worried about my mother. I know it is hard to block out family memebers like that and not to get angry, I am sure you will do the right thing. My thoughts are truely with you.

maggie2 · Feb 22, 2007

Dear Jamaesi,

I'm so sorry to hear about your problems. It must be difficult to deal with and my heart goes out to you. Hang in there and know that many of us are sending lots of positive energy and prayers your way.

Katzpur · Feb 22, 2007

jamaesi said:
My father is currently in the hospital in critical condition with severe phsyical injuries. He probably... will not be making it.

I'm the next of kin (and the only one who isn't senile, out for his money and good, or both) and now the shot-caller and have to decide, christ, just about everything.

From what I've said about him here it's clear he wasn't the... nicest person. And now my entire family is taking this as a new event to fight over and they're already going through his will and things. It's disgusting. He's not even dead yet and they're acting like this.

Just when I thought things couldn't possibly get worse.

Oh, I'm so sorry. What an awful situation to find yourself in. My thoughts are with you!

Feathers in Hair · Feb 22, 2007

I admire the strength of anyone who has to go through such a situation, and especially with the added concerns about your relationship with him.

standing_alone · Feb 22, 2007

Katzpur said:
Oh, I'm so sorry. What an awful situation to find yourself in. My thoughts are with you!

Interesting how deaths can bring out the best and worst in people...

Like Feathers, I really admire your remarkable strength and morality in this situation, Jamaesi. *more hugs*

dawny0826 · Feb 22, 2007

You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.

michel · Feb 23, 2007

Any update jamaesi ?

Bastet · Feb 23, 2007

Talk about deja vu...

The best I can offer you is: :hug:

jamaesi · Feb 25, 2007

This has got to be some sort of miracle. He's now out of the ICU and out of critical/grave condition and stable in a normal room. He's probably even going to be discharged tomorrow or sometime this week. He's still not in good shape- but from going from probably not going to make it... to being awake and communicating and discharged far before they said he would be is just... amazing. He also has sworn that this is it and he will stop drinking. I'm just... so happy. I can't even express this. I'm crying again, haha. But it's good.

Thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers and support through this. :group:

lizskid · Feb 25, 2007

I am glad to hear this, your Dad is a lucky guy. Perhaps this time you've been given will help reconcile several things for you and your family. Praise be!

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