@Eddi,
It's not optimistic
it's a legitimate skill to recognize the consensus reality and adapt to it as needed.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Consensus_reality
The idea is, in a clinical setting it's normal and natural to label symptoms and develope a diagnosis. The consensus of those people is one thing. But in other settings, among your friends we accept your beliefs and their trajectory. For us, your friends, it's a different consensus.
The challenge becomes adapting to the different consensuses. It's a skill.