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Dating ,romance and sexism and men journal

Riders

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I think religious folks have targeted me because of my mental health issues as someone who is easy to witness too because hey I don't have many friends. Jon has social anxiety and other mental factors I won't go into. Talking to him I have got the same impression about him.
He says Christians have tried to get him to invite Jesus
into his heart, too many times and he thinks

Jesus is a space alien from a sci-fi movie who comes down to possess people and take over the world. I know some might think that's funny but just to be honest just asking an imaginary messiah friend into my heart also has a science fiction unreal fill to me too. Asking Jesus into your heart became popular in the 60s with the born again movement.

My Grandmother told me in the early 1900s they had to repent for their sins and convert to Christianity meaning a belief in Jesus and join the church as a reason to respond to the altar calls. Asking Jesus into your heart was made up by the born-again movement.
 

Riders

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So I am having a hard time staying on my food plan. But I am up walking around. I a taking 1 minute walks and walking back and forth to the bathroom. My sister thinks my apartment will be ready by November so I need to be up walking around and being mobile. I came up with some new ideas for food I may go by, I could a low-fat version of a sloppy joe sandwich with low-fat ground beef. I could also do a low-fat version of chicken ricearoni yummy!
 

Riders

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Well, I have not debated religion as much this year. I do not want to judge people and find myself coming off as judging. My life is messed up with obesity what right do I have to judge? Anyways I stayed on my food plan and exercised today. I only walked for 3 minutes but tomorrow I want to do more. I want to start walking for a minute and a half at a time and work my way up to 2 minutes this week! That would be good. I got to get in shape to move out of my apartment in November. Anyways, I start a new job tomorrow.

I don't ko what's wrong with e and holding jobs, but I have been job-hopping too much this year. Anyways, I left a good job when I thought I was going to the old folks' home. Instead of going back to it, I got another job. I am giving away 2-week trials to try a software application on web sights for businesses. We shall see if I can handle it. I get 30 dollars for every free trial I give away.
 

Riders

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Well, my sister announced my apartment on her property will be ready 10-31 yay!. I can get away from the possums in my house! I have allergies and they have been bad since I have been seeing the possums at night. The apartment is furnished. Sometimes I have issues with getting up off of certain furniture. She has a reclining couch for me to sleep on which is fine but I hope it's not hard for me to stand up off it. If I am not in shape enough to walk to the apartment from the front of her mansion,I am buying a walker with a place to sit down on it so I can sit and rest while walking if I need to. I am getting up tonight to exercise. I need to be walking more than I have and back on a food plan. It's just hard with everything going on.
 

Riders

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I plan on having John over in December to spend time with me at the new garage apartment. At one time a guy who was mentally challenged could only speak in 3-word sentences danced with me at an AA dance.. His Mm suggested we get a cute picture made together afterwards and I felt like she was trying to set me up with him. A couple of people who knew my Mom tried to suggest to me he might make a good friend.

Rocky brought him to meetings and he disrupted the meetings and my Mom had him kicked out at business meetings but he still came and probably still comes to dances. I don't have anything against dating someone who is mentally challenged but I could not understand one sentence he said to me. If I can't communicate and don't have things in common with the guy I won't go out with him. Rocky's son goes to church with her she's an evangelical Christian,I have nothing in common with him.

John is borderline mentally challenged and has Aspergers which means he is high functioning challenged. Yea he slurs his words sometimes but I understand him and we have things in coon including the way he feels about religion so.

So I am open to dating mentally challenged men if I can communicate with them and have things in common with them.
 

Riders

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ok I got 10 days to 2 weeks before I move out so I am getting ready. I got my walker through Amazon already. Even though I weigh between 340 and 350 I got on that would seat someone up to 500 pounds. I could have gotten one that seats someone up to 350 but I wanted to be safe so I got the larger one for 500 but it costs me a lot more. I just wanted to be safe though. So I got the larger one. It should be good it is expensive.

I am going to have John over but no making out, I know my sister won't want me to. But we will play scrabble eat pizza and watch movies which will be worth the time.

We should have a good time anyways. I think he'll be ok with that. Anyways can't wait to have company it'll be so nice. I will start back on my exercise tomorrow I have not felt well.
 

Riders

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The thing about John is he is on welfare and can't drive so when he takes a taxi to the Grapevine bus he has to pay for that and the taxi to my house and the taxi back to the bus stop. He may not be happy if he can't make out with me. So I am going to pay for his whole entire trip which will cost 50 bucks plus 20 for the pizza it's 70 dollars that way he does not have to spend money to come to see me. It may sound like a lot but it's really not I have spent over 120 to 140 on us going out to eat before and to The Lizard Lounge bar before.

I had myself a gigolo once he was a friend of mine so only charged me 75 for the hour but I had to pay for a hotel room and with gas and all it came up to almost 150.
I could be spending way more on men especially if he were a gigolo. But 70 bucks I can handle. I just got my fundraising job back anyway.
 

Riders

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Yea back on the gigolo topic they would only spend one hour with me and they aren't my friends like John is. I may end up spending a 100 on him with his transportation and all. But a gigolo would not charge prices from a few years ago, when I was with my gigolo friend,I only used his services once. It ended up being around 150 which was with a discount and a motel room.

These days it would probably be 150 to 200 an hour plus a motel room which would be about 250 in the end.If I were to take a sugar baby instead it's, even more, it's like 3 or 400 or 500 an hour. It's expensive. He takes ubers though which is cheaper. But he has to go from Grand Prairie to MEsquite by dart bus and take a taxi to the bus then one to my house and one back to the bus and one on the way home from the bus. It's expensive but I can handle it. It'll be worth it to have him there all day.

Were gonna play scrabble and maybe some other games and eat pizza and watch a movie.
 

Riders

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Well, it's official. My sister says she and her husband discussed it and there will be no men over here not even platonic friendships. So John and I won't be spending time together. They believe in dating to get married. my Guy friend Darrel says after I get used to walking around with my walker a lot he can take me out to eat. I hope so. I am tired of being stuck inside tired of the covid! I have not had a booster shot yet though, I am hoping my first Johnson and Johson will be enough to protect me.

I would like to be able to get to the United Methodist Church this year, I think my sister will see to it that I get to go to church after I am walking better. I would like to go to my Mom's AA meeting too we shall see. My diet is not going well, But hopefully my walking will be soon, I have a physical therapist.
 

Riders

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Well, my niece-in-law Ashlyn seems to b taking over my whole life including grocery shopping and helping me stay on my low carb diet which I don't know that I have to stay power to stay on it. I may end up fighting with her if my cravings get too much. She's kind of pushy and we like each other but she wants to take over my whole life especially when it comes to my medical and diet plans. We will see how this works out. i don't know yet.
 

Riders

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Well, I get one cheat meal a week and 2 12 ounce cans of coke a week. So it's not too bad. I hope I am losing weight. I got to get up and start trying to walk today. I am getting physical therapy. But I want to walk without the walker. I'm hoping to be able to get out and go to a church service at the United Methodist church by April.
 

Riders

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I am down to 330 which is good. I thought I was up over 350 I must have lost a little bit. I don't know that I feel well enough to go out for my birthday on the 12th. I need to walk more and practice walking more which I will be with my physical therapist. I am still using a walker so I don't think I am gonna get out till I can walk without a walker. I am still going to OA it must be working, but I have not been to many meetings this week I need to go.
 

Riders

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My sister gave me 100 dollar amazon card for my birthday. I used it to buy a Cubii. It's a stepping machine you put under your feet while sitting to exercise. I hope it helps I have been lazy about walking around this week. I didn't even get out to eat out for my birthday. I need to start getting out. Going to the United Methodist church is my first goal. Hopefully, they'll allow me to be me without trying to get me saved like they said they would last time I went 3 years ago. It's hard for me to trust the church.
So we will see how tolerant they are with non-Christians as they said.
 

Riders

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I have been listening to watching facebook Hindu group have their service they record on facebook from time to time. It is nice but i am not Hindu but I do like the usic and message and chanting in it. Sometimes I read the literature.
 

metis

aged ecumenical anthropologist
I have been listening to watching facebook Hindu group have their service they record on facebook from time to time. It is nice but i am not Hindu but I do like the usic and message and chanting in it. Sometimes I read the literature.
IMO, that's good as I believe it's wise to get out of our comfort zones at times and experience things that are different.
 

Riders

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I have lost 7 pounds down from 330 to 323. I eat no sweets or cokes but outside of that, I eat what I want. I eat 2 or 3 small meals a day and so I eat fewer calories so am losing weight. But I still eat bad carbs and high fats just in small portions.I have a physical therapist and hopefully one of these days I'll be able to walk without a walker.
 

Riders

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So I have lost 12 pounds in the past 3 weeks down from 330 to 318. I am just eating 2 meals a day plus 2 cans of coke which I count as a meal. But my skin is getting red and irritated around the wound area where my wound was. I felt out of it Sunday so I ate a piece of cake from my nephew's birthday party. I think my blood sugar was low. So I a getting glucerna nutritional shake for blood sugar. It's low in carbs but high in protein.

I eat high-fat stuff and carbs, the difference is I eat a small amount now, 2 small meals. My nurse says I need more protein. This is why I don't do strict food plans like low carb diets which allow nothing but vegetables and meat. My wound would come back because it's not enough food, I have to eat enough food or my wound comes back. I need to lose this weight now so my weight doesn't get high enough that I have to have that awful surgery. YUCK!!
 

Riders

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So I weighed yesterday and I am down to 316 yay me! It's 14 pounds for the month down from 330. But I did a no no yesterday. I drank a large chocolate shake from JAck in The Box and only had the 2 cans of coke and 1 nutritional supplement drink with it but no real food. My sister was spitting mad preaching at me about vegetables and nutrition today. I won't pull that again with the shake. I was worried she might try to make me eat low carb as she does.

She eats vegetables and meat only, it's way too strict for me. No, she's ok with my diet but did suggest I try to eat more nutrition. I may switch to low fat and eat the frozen lean cuisine, at least they are low in fat and calories.I am still eating beanie weenie but I might get some turkey weiners for it.
 

Riders

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Well, I weighed today and I gained a pound back. I'm up to 315. So I still have 15 pounds off. But I am starting over in Over Eaters anonymous with my abstinence. Abstinence is days that you refrain from compulsively overeating. I had a month. But I believe I've been drinking too many cokes and protein shakes, I was having 2 or 3 cokes a day and 2 shakes a day. So now I'm having 1 coke a day and 1 shake a day. Today I'm only having 1 shake. So I will weigh tomorrow and the next few days to see if it makes a difference.

I am going to OA meetings and working with a sponsor. I am on the 7th step.
 
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