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Something I keep realizing

Unveiled Artist

Veteran Member
Call me a liar if ye absolutely must, but I'm realizing that I don't really have issues with the people I talk to on RF just with what they say. In other words, when I talk about various topics I don't use their views and opinions against them. Each conversation is unique. Each "like" and "funny" has its place.

In real life I have what they call facial blindness (prosopagnosia) due to brain surgery and epilepsy. I wasn't diagnosed but they picked it up on my, what, four hour neuropsyche test. Anyway. I remember teaching ESL class (don't ask) and for some reason I can't remember faces. Students (they were adults) would feel offended or saddened because I'd talk to them but when I see them again for a second to a minute I can't figure who they are. I thought it was just me. Then I met this one guy (I walk a lot) and known him for a good two or three years off and on and he was the ONLY person who picked up on it. He told me when I see him he waits a minute (a good one) till my brain catches up with who Im seeing and then he says hello. I wish others can do that but they just see me stare at them before it clicks-maybe when they start speaking or their hairdo or something. It gets frustrating, really.

On RF it's somewhat like that. There's no term for it (maybe just emotional indifference) but I treat every person the same until (not before) they say something that I disagree with heavily or whatever the case may be. I wonder if you can have "reading blindness" or whatever you may call it. In person, the emotional indifference has to do with my brain and trauma but on social media its just with what is said not who says it.

It really makes me wonder (again) if I feel this way why not others. If we judge strangers/people by who they are not what they say, what does that say about the person who judges? Since they are strangers, it's all opinion.. but why live with such an opinion of others unless it gives you an emotional high that you "get others back."

I don't know. This is a vent.
 
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Aupmanyav

Be your own guru
All you people who have these difficulties and still manage, are brave. Kudos for your bravery.
 

74x12

Well-Known Member
Call me a liar if ye absolutely must, but I'm realizing that I don't really have issues with the people I talk to on RF just with what they say. In other words, when I talk about various topics I don't use their views and opinions against them. Each conversation is unique. Each "like" and "funny" has its place.

In real life I have what they call facial blindness (prosopagnosia) due to brain surgery and epilepsy. I wasn't diagnosed but they picked it up on my, what, four hour neuropsyche test. Anyway. I remember teaching ESL class (don't ask) and for some reason I can't remember faces. Students (they were adults) would feel offended or saddened because I'd talk to them but when I see them again for a second to a minute I can't figure who they are. I thought it was just me. Then I met this one guy (I walk a lot) and known him for a good two or three years off and on and he was the ONLY person who picked up on it. He told me when I see him he waits a minute (a good one) till my brain catches up with who Im seeing and then he says hello. I wish others can do that but they just see me stare at them before it clicks-maybe when they start speaking or their hairdo or something. It gets frustrating, really.

On RF it's somewhat like that. There's no term for it (maybe just emotional indifference) but I treat every person the same until (not before) they say something that I disagree with heavily or whatever the case may be. I wonder if you can have "reading blindness" or whatever you may call it. In person, the emotional indifference has to do with my brain and trauma but on social media its just with what is said not who says it.

It really makes me wonder (again) if I feel this way why not others. If we judge strangers/people by what they say not who they are what does that say about the person who judges? Since they are strangers, it's all opinion.. but why live with such an opinion of others unless it gives you an emotional high that you "get others back."

I don't know. This is a vent.
Social media has made society more judgmental and know it alls. They let other people judge them and so they judge you by the same thoughtless standards. Following the crowd is to surrender your own mind and will over to others. So we've become anchorless like waves on the sea driven and tossed by every passing wind.

So their opinion doesn't matter anyway because it's not well thought out. Find someone you really know, trust and respect for good reasons. Their opinion of you matters. They'll probably tell you the truth because they love you. If you don't have anyone like that then just try to assess yourself and be fair. Just don't ever surrender your sense of self worth over to others.
 

VoidCat

Pronouns: he/him/they/them
How do you accommodate to it?
I tell people when I meet them I might not recognize them cuz of facial recognition issues. I also use things like hair and such to recognize folk. It's not as bad as full face blindness if I see them a for a long time I might start to recognize them but I might get confused if they were standing next to a person who looks similar even if it's not very similar.
 

Unveiled Artist

Veteran Member
I tell people when I meet them I might not recognize them cuz of facial recognition issues. I also use things like hair and such to recognize folk. It's not as bad as full face blindness if I see them a for a long time I might start to recognize them but I might get confused if they were standing next to a person who looks similar even if it's not very similar.

This is exactly me. A lot of times tone of voice triggers recognition. Maybe if they have some unique feature about them. I tell them I'll forget so you have to remind me (three, four, five times). I read some can't recognize their own face and loved ones.
 

Unveiled Artist

Veteran Member
I have a heck of a time remembering names and often faces of people I don't see all that often.

Haha. Can you imagine not recognizing faces that you do?

I can't imagine what it would be like as I age. Memory processing issues have always been my downfall.

How do you cope?
 

VoidCat

Pronouns: he/him/they/them
This is exactly me. A lot of times tone of voice triggers recognition. Maybe if they have some unique feature about them. I tell them I'll forget so you have to remind me (three, four, five times). I read some can't recognize their own face and loved ones.
I can't recognize voices well until I've heard them several times and I easy get them confused with other folks voices
 

sun rise

The world is on fire
Premium Member
Haha. Can you imagine not recognizing faces that you do?

I can't imagine what it would be like as I age. Memory processing issues have always been my downfall.

How do you cope?

I cope by not using names while feeling embarrassed and by practicing using names whenever I remember. Before I retired, I'd casually walk by a cubical and look at the name before starting to talk to the person.
 
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