syo
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Are you serious?No. "I."
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Are you serious?No. "I."
Yes. You speak for yourself, not "we."Are you serious?
My advice....So, there is this likeable Cambodian immigrant who lives with me who often approaches me and wants to always go on walks with me, interrupt me while I'm praying or meditating or on the computer.
When we went for a walk today he said, "We should hold hands".
I laughed and told him "no, I'm not into holding guys hands".
I actually don't technically know if the man is gay. It seems clear he is at least bisexual, but I don't feel like asking him.
Bottom line is, I know what rejection feels like. It hurts. I don't want to put him through that kind of pain.
But I need to establish healthy boundaries. He keeps talking about how he wants to take me places when we get out.
It does make me uncomfortable.
I do actually have street smarts, and am not naïve. I'm actually quite cynical when it comes to friendly people, and don't trust them.
At the same time, I ask myself "What would Mother Teresa, Buddha, Gandhi, Saint Francis of Assisi, or Jesus do"? I also need to be conscious of not hurting people, and sometimes you have to be nice/charitable, even when being nice has consequences.
I'm sure when people see me hanging out with this guy a lot, they already probably wonder if we are doing something gay. I really could care less what they think.
I feel he is a suffering person and to a certain extent I'm supposed to relieve his suffering to please the Kami, because he says it makes him very happy hanging out with me. Do unto others what you would have them do unto you.
But I need to establish boundaries as well. Let me know if you have any thoughts. Thanks!
Good luck. You'll need it.He is a recovering drug addict in rehab who hasn't been sober very long and he says he is suffering and appears to be... END OF STORY!
And I can see his face change and he looks more happy when we hang out.
That's terrible! I forgive you!My advice....
Use protection so you don't get pregnant.
You know that buddha and jesus and gandi and teresa are the law right? if i speak openly to send them to hell people can sent me to court right? or fanatics kill me right?Yes. You speak for yourself, not "we."
Where do you live?You know that buddha and jesus and gandi and teresa are the law right? if i speak openly to send them to hell people can sent me to court right? or fanatics kill me right?
Tell him you have this disease ......So, there is this likeable Cambodian immigrant who lives with me who often approaches me and wants to always go on walks with me, interrupt me while I'm praying or meditating or on the computer.
When we went for a walk today he said, "We should hold hands".
I laughed and told him "no, I'm not into holding guys hands".
I actually don't technically know if the man is gay. It seems clear he is at least bisexual, but I don't feel like asking him.
Bottom line is, I know what rejection feels like. It hurts. I don't want to put him through that kind of pain.
But I need to establish healthy boundaries. He keeps talking about how he wants to take me places when we get out.
It does make me uncomfortable.
I do actually have street smarts, and am not naïve. I'm actually quite cynical when it comes to friendly people, and don't trust them.
At the same time, I ask myself "What would Mother Teresa, Buddha, Gandhi, Saint Francis of Assisi, or Jesus do"? I also need to be conscious of not hurting people, and sometimes you have to be nice/charitable, even when being nice has consequences.
I'm sure when people see me hanging out with this guy a lot, they already probably wonder if we are doing something gay. I really could care less what they think.
I feel he is a suffering person and to a certain extent I'm supposed to relieve his suffering to please the Kami, because he says it makes him very happy hanging out with me. Do unto others what you would have them do unto you.
But I need to establish boundaries as well. Let me know if you have any thoughts. Thanks!
in greece.Where do you live?
None of that. Simply that your opinions are only your opinions. You are not speaking on behalf of others; whether that be concerning Jesus, Tom Hanks or lemon meringue pie.You know that buddha and jesus and gandi and teresa are the law right? if i speak openly to send them to hell people can sent me to court right? or fanatics kill me right?
I'm repeating.None of that. Simply that your opinions are only your opinions. You are not speaking on behalf of others; whether that be concerning Jesus, Tom Hanks or lemon meringue pie.
When I was in jail in 2015, there was a man everyone hated because he harmed a child.Good luck. You'll need it.
You approached the man because it was what you wanted. The man didn't harass you begging you to hold hands.I decided to be his friend
Boundaries are always good. Set small ones. If they can't follow a simple boundary such as no holding hands then don't allow them around you. Folks who can't obey simple boundaries like that that are easy and hurt no one wont obey big ones. They show they don't care about you or how you feel. Thus if they dont obey these small boundaries after talking with them several times and come up with excuses that aren't reasonable you should reject their friendship. Be kind but tell them until they respect you and your boundaries they are not to be in your life. I know it may seem extreme but if someone can't follow simple boundaries that are easy then they don't care about you. They won't respect big boundaries that are very important and needed for your health. End of story. They might even be dangerous. I wouldn't hang with folk like that
This man asked me once to hold his hand. I said no and he respected it.You approached the man because it was what you wanted. The man didn't harass you begging you to hold hands.
Yes.I'm repeating.
Are you serious?
Good. You have every right to defend yourself thereIf he starts invading physical boundaries after I ask him not to, he's gonna get hit.
Tough love.
Good.This man asked me once to hold his hand. I said no and he respected it.
So, there is this likeable Cambodian immigrant who lives with me who often approaches me and wants to always go on walks with me, interrupt me while I'm praying or meditating or on the computer.
When we went for a walk today he said, "We should hold hands".
I laughed and told him "no, I'm not into holding guys hands".
I actually don't technically know if the man is gay. It seems clear he is at least bisexual, but I don't feel like asking him.
Bottom line is, I know what rejection feels like. It hurts. I don't want to put him through that kind of pain.
But I need to establish healthy boundaries. He keeps talking about how he wants to take me places when we get out.
It does make me uncomfortable.
I do actually have street smarts, and am not naïve. I'm actually quite cynical when it comes to friendly people, and don't trust them.
At the same time, I ask myself "What would Mother Teresa, Buddha, Gandhi, Saint Francis of Assisi, or Jesus do"? I also need to be conscious of not hurting people, and sometimes you have to be nice/charitable, even when being nice has consequences.
I'm sure when people see me hanging out with this guy a lot, they already probably wonder if we are doing something gay. I really could care less what they think.
I feel he is a suffering person and to a certain extent I'm supposed to relieve his suffering to please the Kami, because he says it makes him very happy hanging out with me. Do unto others what you would have them do unto you.
But I need to establish boundaries as well. Let me know if you have any thoughts. Thanks!