Trust

Noun:
A firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.

An ephemeral quality that is easier lost than regained.

What do you do to regain the trust of another you have broken it in?

What do you look for, when the people, websites and institutions around you cannot be trusted or shattered your Trust?

How is that broken Trust repaired? Can it ever be fully mended?

I think not, even if reconciled, the one who has broken another's trust, will almost always be looked at warily, distastefully and never completely be trusted as before, regardless of later actions.

Such a good song, album, and band.

Trust is an often harsh lesson to learn. When others lose our trust and show that they are unreliable, we better learn how to rely on ourselves, though.

I try never to fully give my trust. That's just signing up for disappointment. Even the best of us have off days/weeks/months/years.

When a person does violate the amount of trust I've given them, I adjust my expectations of their actions, and perhaps to the degree I interact with them to reflect that.

Trust, like respect is earned. Once broken there is no glue strong enough to fix if again. The cracks may be taped over but they are still cracks.

I am told that it is foolish to trust those who have deceived one, but I disagree.

Nothing worldly is of such value that I’d be willing to abandon my trust in another, simply to keep hold of it.

The only thing of value, at risk of being taken from me by another’s deceit is in fact my trust in others. And I will not give it up.

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Hermit

The Hammer said:

What do you do to regain the trust of another you have broken it in?

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I don't. I had a former friend who I thought was a friend with whom, now, I think because of my actions (long story) I lost her trust. I don't try to regain her and other people's trust because that would make me seem like I depend on them to feel better about myself. If they are my friends and understand where I come from then I'd say they'd would still have trust just know my behaviors don't always speak louder than words.

The Hammer said:

What do you look for, when the people, websites and institutions around you cannot be trusted or shattered your Trust?

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I don't think I had anyone or thing shatter my trust; at least developing a strong definition of the word.

The Hammer said:

How is that broken Trust repaired? Can it ever be fully mended?

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If using my friend as an example, it hasn't. She lost trust in me so if I'm toxic to her, I wouldn't expect her to regain my trust.

I don't use the word trust really. If I don't feel safe around you, it's a foregone conclusion.

So far what I am seeing and hearing is that trust is essentially irreparable.

So the goal should be to never betray another's Trust? And if you do, expect the permanent consequences.

The Hammer said:

So far what I am seeing and hearing is that trust is essentially irreparable.

So the goal should be to never betray another's Trust? And if you do, expect the permanent consequences.

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It depends.

I may not trust a friend to go to the store with my cash, but that might have various reasons, like they may steal it, not buy what's requested, or lose the money, but that all stems from various personality issues. If they're a thief, I probably wouldn't trust them to come into my home and let the dogs out when I'm gone. I might if they're the type that 'thinks they know best', unless it was so bad I could expect them to refuse to give the dogs dog food and instead served them twinkies. For the forgetful/losing things type, I wouldn't see a problem, but I'd be sure to send reminders and have everything laid out for them.

I try to look at the intent behind the action.

JustGeorge said:

It depends.

I may not trust a friend to go to the store with my cash, but that might have various reasons, like they may steal it, not buy what's requested, or lose the money, but that all stems from various personality issues. If they're a thief, I probably wouldn't trust them to come into my home and let the dogs out when I'm gone. I might if they're the type that 'thinks they know best', unless it was so bad I could expect them to refuse to give the dogs dog food and instead served them twinkies. For the forgetful/losing things type, I wouldn't see a problem, but I'd be sure to send reminders and have everything laid out for them.

I try to look at the intent behind the action.

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Sure there are varying degrees of trust that extend into multiple areas of life and not all areas all the time (not a one size fits all). It's why I called out multiple facets (a person, webpages, or institutions).

But the gist still feels the same, if I don't trust someone with my money or to care for my dog, for whatever reason, this is bound to typically not change, as people do very little to change/correct themselves; even going so far as to double down and back, when confronted on the reasons why there is distrust in the relationship to begin with.

So, once trust has been lost, the ability to be regained is relatively improbable.

JustGeorge said:

I try to look at the intent behind the action.

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Can't look at the intent behind an action, when the people or institutions deny any action ever occured.

The Hammer said:

Noun:
A firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.

An ephemeral quality that is easier lost than regained.

What do you do to regain the trust of another you have broken it in?

What do you look for, when the people, websites and institutions around you cannot be trusted or shattered your Trust?

How is that broken Trust repaired? Can it ever be fully mended?

I think not, even if reconciled, the one who has broken another's trust, will almost always be looked at warily, distastefully and never completely be trusted as before, regardless of later actions.

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The subsequent trustworthy acts of the one who caused your trust to be broken, can continue to mend your trust over time, but I’m not exactly sure it would return to the same state it was initially.

Jeremiah Ames said:

but I’m not exactly sure it would return to the same state it was initially

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Which goes back to my earlier point of, don't break someone's Trust, because once you do, there is no going back. Even if some trust returns as you say, there will always be an aire of skepticism and questioning of their actions from then on out.