Spiderman
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not totally correct though.I'm not trying to be insulting. But you are an addict (as you have revealed on here in the past) and one thing that is true about addiction: is that our emotional development stops at the point in life where the addiction takes control of us. Because addictions are all about AVOIDING the very pain and difficulties in life that would otherwise teach us how to grow up, and mature, and become positive functioning adults.
- Your ARE mentally challenged. Seriously. Just not in the way you're thinking.
I have spent many hours associating with addicts of all sorts, both active, and sober, and I can tell you without any doubt in my mind that this is overwhelmingly the case. And it was true for myself, as well. My drinking finally took over my life by my late teens/early 20s, and by the time I finally quit drinking at 35 years old, I had not advanced in terms of emotional maturity at all since the drinking took control of me. I had never learned to date, properly, or to function socially at adult gatherings, or how to function as an adult in a work environment. I felt, thought, and acted in nearly every way like a teenager. Because in all those years of drinking I had ignored and avoided all the unpleasant experiences in life that would have taught me how to become a functional adult.
I mean no offense to you, but take a good look at yourself, and at your behavior, and how and where you live, and compare it to the other adults in the world that are your age. See how they have long since put away all those childish things and ideas that you are still "playing with". See how they have learned to become an integral part of lots of different social systems: marriages, families, careers, communities, and so on.
I'm just saying ... retardation applies to a lot more than just one's I.Q.
I'm basically sober most of the time now. And I have actually grown a lot in some ways like self-control and not wanting to avoid pain and suffering.
I have grown more prudent in my dealings with people and social interaction.
I have grown more humble, I don't look at porn, I don't lust like I used to, I don't fornicate, I don't harrass people, I try to keep a pure heart, I try to avoid anger, I don't really covet anything but spiritual graces, I'm not jealous except for jealous of God and the Saints, I'm less lazy and work odd jobs, I'm more charitable.
So I have grown despite being an addict. So some of your statement is false. But in that context, I'm retarded, and I think everyone agrees with you.
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