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Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
(Zukav) happiness authentic needs -

Develop Authenticity: 20 Ways to Be a More Authentic Person

Being authentic means that you act in ways that show your true self and how you feel. Rather than showing people only a particular side of yourself, you express your whole self genuinely. That means to succeed in being authentic, you first have to know who your true self actually is. And this requires self-awareness, mindfulness, and self-acceptance.

More at that blog!
 
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
As children, we were conditioned to believe that a “spiritual person” is always kind, compassionate, and saintly. In adulthood, we continue to repeat this story to ourselves, and sadly, it can cause us tremendous suffering. The Saint Bypass is a reflection of extreme “black or white” thinking, promoting the underlying belief that spiritual people can’t have dark sides because that would make them “unspiritual.” This type of bypass is essentially avoidance of one’s Shadow Self (dark side) by overcompensating with the guise of a sweet, heavenly, exterior. Self-sacrifice is a major symptom of this type of bypassing.

Read more here -

What Is Spiritual Bypassing? (Beware of These 10 Types) ⋆ LonerWolf

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If you have any close friends or family members (who you have a healthy, respectful relationship with), talk to them about this topic. Ask them if they have noticed any spiritual bypassing tendencies within you. Brace yourself (and your ego) by taking a slow, soft, deep breath for their response. If at any point you feel overwhelmed with an emotion like anger or defensiveness, thank them and tell them that you need a minute or two to process what they’ve told you.

Feedback from other people (who genuinely care about our wellbeing) is invaluable

All the best!

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Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
Last week, John Welwood, the prominent psychotherapist and author in the transpersonal-psychology field, passed away. Among other things, Welwood coined the term “spiritual bypassing,” and this might be a good time to honor him and his offerings.

In his classic book, Toward a Psychology of Awakening, which was one of my textbooks during my doctoral program, he defined spiritual bypassing as using “spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep personal, emotional ‘unfinished business,’ to shore up a shaky sense of self, or to belittle basic needs, feelings, and developmental tasks.” The goal of such practices, he claimed, was enlightenment.

Comes from here - a LOT of this document are now just interesting sites rather than a script for the first show! :)

What Is Spiritual Bypassing?

Cheers!
 
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
You cannot avoid your pain because you cannot avoid yourself. Anything you try to avoid will haunt you. It will return again and again until it is so large that you cannot avoid it. The thing about spiritual practice, is that we turn to it because we are in pain and we want to feel better. But then all too often, we wind up using spiritual practice as a substitute for facing our psychological issues. When we do this, our spiritual progression is halted. We cannot move forward on our path of spirituality by lying to ourselves any more than we can reach our destination on a map, if we are unwilling to admit to where we are first. For this reason, true spirituality must incorporate the practice of shadow work and if we want to progress, we must face our psychological wounds. If you want to feel better and enjoy your life more, dare to face your pain. Dare to be… Authentic.

Comes from this site -

Spiritual Bypassing

Well worth a visit ... Teal Swan self love?
 
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
Self love is the trump card. It is the root around which everything grows. It is the apex of our journey here. And in truth, it is the only practice. Love transforms everything unlike itself. What this means is, when a person takes on the practice of self love, they are committing to the re-surfacing and peeling back of everything that is unhealed and unloving about them. You cannot complete this journey to self love without moving through the processes of awareness, truth, equanimity, forgiveness, self-reliance, trust, responsibility, gratitude, realization, compassion, unity, freedom, letting go, joy and boundless love. It is the spiritual journey through which all other journeys are realized.

Most of us were taught indirectly growing up that self love was selfish and conceited. We were taught that self deprecation was virtuous, we were taught this by adults who confused humility with prostration. It is for this reason that we must learn for ourselves what self love is and what self love isn’t.

From that site -

Self Love: The Lesson Through Which All Other Lessons Are Realized

Enjoy your evening!
 
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
If ego is the primary obstacle separating us from Divine wisdom and true purpose, then transcending ego is the ultimate goal for our development. The biggest challenge is that for most people, ego has been in charge since childhood, governing decisions, building strength, and gaining trust. The ego and the higher self cannot exist in the same space at the same time, so they are in competition for your attention. Once you choose to put your higher self in the game, you need to move the ego aside and balance the playing field so your higher self has a fighting chance of scoring some points in your life.

Transcending Ego

All the best!
 
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
Ravi Shankar happiness

Relationships –

This is something that disturbs everybody, and there are many questions about it. I have three pieces of advice, one for men, one for women and one for both.

First, for women – never step on the ego of a man. A man should not be pressurized to prove himself at home.

Second secret is for men – don’t step on the emotions of women.

Third, advice for both – do not question the other’s love for you. Don’t keep asking, “Do you really love me” or say, “You don’t love me!” This sort of complaining, demanding for love is not good. Demand destroys love, in you and in the other person too.

I want each one of you to be magnanimous; come from a space of, “I’m here for you!” Just imagine, when both say these words, there is so much harmony. When both want to grab, there is disharmony. When we move from the joy of getting to the joy of giving, we have matured in life, and this is a sign of success.

happiness Archives - Wisdom by Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Also -

What is Ego? 5 Simple Yet Powerful Ways to Transcend the Ego for Good

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Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
So, let’s get to the nitty gritty. Most often, when we have an uncomfortable or stressful feeling about our life circumstances, we bury it beneath watching TV, having some food or a drink, gossiping with the neighbors, working out at the gym, whatever. We may not even acknowledge we have a problem, and even if we do, we hope it will go away rather than doing anything about it - after all, things are as they are, what can we do to change them?

There's little recognition that the real source of our problems and anxieties, or lack of purpose and fulfillment, and maybe lack of meaningful relationships in our lives - the real source lies within us. We have the power to take responsibility for what is within our control and to realize - rather than resist - what is not and let that go

The Need for Personal Development ~ by Peter Shepherd

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