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Neither a borrower nor a lender be

Mock Turtle

Oh my, did I say that!
Premium Member
Lest one fails to return or fails to receive back that which is lent - mostly money but might be anything of value. So a thread to moan about what you might have lost (or forgiveness sought for failing to return anything or damage done).

For me - a number of LPs (1960s, so vinyl of course) given into the safe-keeping :rolleyes: of someone, who played them to death, so as to leave many with annoying scratches and other damage - basically ruined. Only happened to be the first five Bob Dylan albums so not worth much now possibly but they were to me at the time! And I did take care of my records then - just out of respect. Fortunately he was so preoccupied with these that he failed to damage the rest - only about 60 LPs then - so I was grateful for not being away too long - and his narrow musical taste. Still, I did have some luck - like being given the Spring album (NE 6) by a friend - which is worth a lot more now, and I even offered it back but this was refused. I bought the Dylan albums after going along with a mate to the 1965 Albert Hall concert in London, so taken I was with Dylan. And I went the following year to the Freetrade Hall concert in Manchester, where someone shouted out the 'Judas' remark. This concert was bootlegged - which I have on CD.

More minor occurrences have been - having workmen use my power tools and wrecking them (moral: do it yourself), and another who failed to return some old LP catalogues - which were not available to buy again. I seem to have conveniently forgotten my misdemeanours. :oops:

How about you? Still fuming?
 
When I was younger, one of my friends used to borrow CDs off one friend and then sell them to another friend. So sometimes when you were speaking to your mate you'd find out the stuff you'd just been sold actually belonged to them and have to give it back.

Either that, or when you were out he'd go round to your house, tell your parents he'd left a CD in your room and ask to get it, then take it back to the person he borrowed it from.

Another friend would borrow stuff, then swap it with someone else and give you back something completely different than what he'd borrowed. So he'd take a video game and you'd get back a tennis racket or something. Often you hadn't even lent him anything in the first place, he'd just taken it from your house when you were out.
 

Revoltingest

Pragmatic Libertarian
Premium Member
I remember some folk used to use borrow to mean lend; "Go on, borrow me a fiver till Monday. That would be skill".

That's one way to get round it.
Reminds me of a grade school friend back in the 50s.
If his back needed scratching, he'd say...
"Itch me"
 

Polymath257

Think & Care
Staff member
Premium Member
I have had a policy on lending that I've found to be very useful. There are two rules.

1. Never lend more than you would give.
2. Never lend again to the same person until they pay you back.

By sticking to these, I never feel like I have been taken advantage of. If I would give the amount I loan, then I cannot be bothered by the amount if it isn't paid back. And if I am not paid back, then I know not to lend to that person again.

Easy!
 

Audie

Veteran Member
I never lend what I can't afford to lose.

Lending is one way to find out what
someone's character consists of. It
may prove a good investment.

Speaking of what one can afford to lose!

Luckily I do not get people asking to borrow
money from me, tho no doubt I could get
quite a circle of "friends" that way.

A few years ago I gave the equivalent of about
10,000 USD to a lady from the Philippines, who
had been working as a maid for my Mom.

I knew her story, her needs, and was confident
that she knew just what to do with the money.
She has business savvy but had no start up money.

Later, she tried to pay me back! What a woman.

Not sure what that has to do with lending.
 

Mock Turtle

Oh my, did I say that!
Premium Member
I suppose the internet has put paid to much of the strife in music borrowing or lending. Much has been available for free via various sources - legal and illegal (with myself owning up to a tiny bit of the latter) - and streaming has perhaps done the rest. :musicnotes:
 
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