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What does death of a loved one feel like for you?

Spiderman

Veteran Member
I've had friends and family just disappear from my life or die, but I can't really say I've lost a loved one, just been separated from or rejected by people I like, and that really hurts sometimes.

Does death of a close person in life feel like that?

I think when my dad dies it will hurt a bit because him and I communicate regularly via phone, and he was almost always there for me, and I'd always count on him to hold on to things for me like phone numbers and ID and birth certificate.

Other then that, I have not found myself needing family, and loss of friends or family to death would not leave me in more agony than I'm already in probably. I have no family who lives in the state and don't ever see them, so it is hard to have any attachment to them and it's not like they really care about me.

It seems, for a lot of people, death of a loved one can cause extreme grief that can stay with a person. Was that how it was for you?
 
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SomeRandom

Still learning to be wise
Staff member
Premium Member
At first it was pure shock. It didn't register properly for me until a week later. During the day, I'd distract myself. During the night I'd cry myself to sleep. It took over a month for me to come out of what was seemingly a shocked daze.
It was just an intense feeling of sadness and anger sustained over a long period.
The grief lessens over time, but it never really leaves.
 

sooda

Veteran Member
At first it was pure shock. It didn't register properly for me until a week later. During the day, I'd distract myself. During the night I'd cry myself to sleep. It took over a month for me to come out of what was seemingly a shocked daze.
It was just an intense feeling of sadness and anger sustained over a long period.
The grief lessens over time, but it never really leaves.
Yes. Good description.
 

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
I've had friends and family just disappear from my life or die, but I can't really say I've lost a loved one, just been separated from or rejected by people I like, and that really hurts sometimes.

Does death of a close person in life feel like that?

I think when my dad dies it will hurt a ecause him and I communicate regularly via phone, and he was almost always there for me, and I'd always count on him to hold on to things for me like phone numbers and ID and birth certificate.

Other then that, I have not found myself needing family, and loss of friends or family to death would not leave me in more agony than I'm already in probably. I have no family who lives in the state and don't ever see them, so it is hard to have any attachment to them and it's not like they really care about me.

It seems, for a lot of people, death of a loved one can cause extreme grief that can stay with a person. Was that how it was for you?

Oh ... this is real spooky - I am not on the pc at this time of day so I could have missed this thread ...

Anyway, I was half-planning a thread just called Death.

I am facing your situation probly sooner than I would have hoped and then I found this article about what dying people want most -

Seven Keys to a Good Death

All of my best wishes to anyone currently grieving!
 

Spiderman

Veteran Member
Rejection is a great opportunity to grow more humble as well as be aware of what constant people are going through.

I'm sure every mother and father deals with this with their children as well.
 

Deeje

Avid Bible Student
Premium Member
Death feels wrong because it wasn't supposed to happen....we have no program for death...only life. When Jesus raised the dead, he gave them back to their families.....we were never meant to be separated or estranged from them.

So, no matter how many loved ones we lose, it never gets easier. The closer they are to our heart, the worse their absence from our life is felt. It leaves an emptiness that no one else can fill.
 

Spiderman

Veteran Member
Death feels wrong because it wasn't supposed to happen....we have no program for death...only life. When Jesus raised the dead, he gave them back to their families.....we were never meant to be separated or estranged from them.

So, no matter how many loved ones we lose, it never gets easier. The closer they are to our heart, the worse their absence from our life is felt. It leaves an emptiness that no one else can fill.
death was supposed to happen because God created a tree that he knew Adam and Eve would eat from, and he invented and willed that they would have died.
 

whirlingmerc

Well-Known Member
death was supposed to happen because God created a tree that he knew Adam and Eve would eat from, and he invented and willed that they would have died.

The first time I hear, I often cry which is unusual for me.

For close relatives like my brothers it was like a kick in the stomach and it felt terrible
but time helped allot For a young person dying it feels all wrong but time also helps.

It might be easier for me than some because I trust in God no matter how hard it feels. It still hurts.
 

Deeje

Avid Bible Student
Premium Member
death was supposed to happen because God created a tree that he knew Adam and Eve would eat from, and he invented and willed that they would have died.

Why would he do that? He gave them free will, but they had to learn how to drive it. As you know, our will can get us into trouble if we can't control it.
 

whirlingmerc

Well-Known Member
Why would he do that? He gave them free will, but they had to learn how to drive it. As you know, our will can get us into trouble if we can't control it.

Even Jesus wept sympathetically at the funeral of Lazareth with Lazareth's emotional sister Mary
 
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