Epic Beard Man
Bearded Philosopher
My question is geared towards men since this is a men’s issues section. I was think about a social issue many men who are childless face when they are involved with women with kids. So my question on this matter is how would men deal with the potentiality of favoritism of having a child with a woman who already has one?
In other words you’re in a relationship with a woman who let’s say for purposes of this discussion has one child yet she wants another. Let’s say you eventually have a close relationship with her child but you set boundaries because the child’s father is in his (pretend this is a male child) life. You two are not married but your relationship is serious and she becomes pregnant. You now have become a first time father, something that you’ve always wanted is there a potential to show favoritism to that child that will be born?
Now of course some will say when you are involved with someone with a child and you are bonded, you automatically take over the role. I disagree. Not everyone has the innate ability to be a parent and certainly with some women having psychiatric issues which leads them to harm their child most certainly is indicative that all women do not have parenthood innate in them. With that being said there is something about having a child with your genetic imprint as opposed to a child that doesn’t and who has a father that is involved in that child’s life so I wonder if favoritism would be the outset of feelings and if so is it wrong? Why? Why not?
In other words you’re in a relationship with a woman who let’s say for purposes of this discussion has one child yet she wants another. Let’s say you eventually have a close relationship with her child but you set boundaries because the child’s father is in his (pretend this is a male child) life. You two are not married but your relationship is serious and she becomes pregnant. You now have become a first time father, something that you’ve always wanted is there a potential to show favoritism to that child that will be born?
Now of course some will say when you are involved with someone with a child and you are bonded, you automatically take over the role. I disagree. Not everyone has the innate ability to be a parent and certainly with some women having psychiatric issues which leads them to harm their child most certainly is indicative that all women do not have parenthood innate in them. With that being said there is something about having a child with your genetic imprint as opposed to a child that doesn’t and who has a father that is involved in that child’s life so I wonder if favoritism would be the outset of feelings and if so is it wrong? Why? Why not?