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Does the old testament contain good advice on how to maintain a marriage/relationship?

lewisnotmiller

Grand Hat
Staff member
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I think you'd have to judge it by it's times, not modern times. In that sense, I think there are some good teachings in it.
People seeing it as timeless and perfect advice confuse me though.
 

Brickjectivity

Turned to Stone. Now I stretch daily.
Staff member
Premium Member
Its part of a system and does not have a how-to section about how to maintain a good marriage. Instead you have to learn about the entire system. Its a good bit of work, and if you don't do it for yourself then other people will be telling you what to think about it. You'll become a mark for charlatans possibly. There are plenty.
 

Hockeycowboy

Witness for Jehovah
Premium Member
There are some fantastic proverbs, that can help any relationship; like Proverbs 15:1;

Proverbs 1:5;

Proverbs 5:15-19 (enjoy your wife only, and no others);

Proverbs 6:26-35 (especially starting w/ vs.29; notice the last part, about a husband's anger);

Proverbs 10:19;

Proverbs 12:4 (it goes for both spouses.);

Proverbs 12:16;

Proverbs 12:18;

Proverbs 14:29;

Proverbs 15:18.

There are so many more that can apply!

Check out Proverbs 31, the whole chapter.

Take care!
 
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wellwisher

Well-Known Member
Men and women are different from each another. They differ by an entire chromosome and not a few genes. Men and women were designed, by nature, to be complements and not clones of each other. Social and political science has lied to everyone saying that men and women are the same. This created unnatural behavior for both men and women, which caused the breakup of marriage and family. Unnatural does not mesh as well. It doubles resource needs which is about money.

In terms of brain function, females tend to use the brain more side to side. While men tend to use the brain more front to back. Men are more visually orientated, while women tend to be more verbally orientated. Using the brain from back to front and front to back uses the occipital and frontal lobes; sight. Side to side is more connected to the temporal lobes; listening and talking. When natural men and women merge in marriage, the team can become more than the sum of its parts. They teach and complete each other.

In biblical times the husband was to lead the wife. The reason for this is connected to occipital and frontal lobe being more universal. Whereas, the side to side or temporal lobes are more temporal and faddish. The biblical idea was the bigger or long term picture needed to come first. The wife controlled most things, day to day, but when changes or long term patterns needed to dominate, the male brain needed to have more say.

As an example of this natural brain priority; say we gathered people of all languages in a room. There are an estimated 6500 languages on earth. What we do is place an object on a table in the center of the room and ask everyone to say what it is, in their own language; "black cat". Each will make sounds in their native language that sound different from each other. Language is not universal. The sounds of spoken and written language is subjective and can be any sound and still work.

On the other hand, each person in the room will also be asked what they see, but without spoken language. We can test this by each person being asked to match what they saw, to a dozen photos. Visual is a universal language, since the letters of this alphabet, is light at certain wavelengths that all brains interpret the same.

The more visual nature of the male brain, makes their brains work more in line with the universal language of sight. Woman, as a whole, have better memories. This is connected to the needs of spoken language, which is not universal. Men tend to be more creative and more pioneer because they see patterns that exists before words are given. Then they name it. Most prophets are men because the frontal lobe is needed for this dynamics.
 

sense12

Member
Its part of a system and does not have a how-to section about how to maintain a good marriage. Instead you have to learn about the entire system. Its a good bit of work, and if you don't do it for yourself then other people will be telling you what to think about it. You'll become a mark for charlatans possibly. There are plenty.
Thanks for your comment.what do you think these charlatans are promoting?
 

Brickjectivity

Turned to Stone. Now I stretch daily.
Staff member
Premium Member
Thanks for your comment.what do you think these charlatans are promoting?
A charlatan works for profit and influence. They promote whatever they feel people will buy -- like a crooked senator does. A charlatan makes you believe in themselves, and there is an uneven relationship. You are trusting them all the time. I think the slang term is 'Confidence man'. There is always a confidence man about, and when you start asking for answers there will be one available to sell you information that they don't have. They aren't necessarily promoting anything, but they are trying to get a meal out of you.
 

Skwim

Veteran Member
Does the old testament contain good advice on how to maintain a marriage/relationship?
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Well, I know god looks favorably upon marrying one's half sister,

Gen. 20: 12
12 And yet indeed she is my sister; she is the daughter of my father, but not the daughter of my mother; and she became my wife.

So if you're not married and have a half sister you may want to consider it. And don't forget whores. They're said to have special skills that make for a good relationship.

Hosea 1:2

And the Lord said to Hosea, Go, take unto thee a wife of whoredoms and children of whoredoms: for the land hath committed great whoredom, departing from the Lord.
And heck, if your marriage doesn't work out you can always kick her out and remarry

Deuteronomy 24:1-5
24 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.

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Saint Frankenstein

Wanderer From Afar
Premium Member
I'm sure Judaism has good things to say about it. Look up what rabbis have said about it. You don't want to call it the "Old Testament", though. Maybe @Tumah can help.
 

sense12

Member
Its part of a system and does not have a how-to section about how to maintain a good marriage. Instead you have to learn about the entire system. Its a good bit of work, and if you don't do it for yourself then other people will be telling you what to think about it. You'll become a mark for charlatans possibly. There are plenty.
thank you
 
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