• Welcome to Religious Forums, a friendly forum to discuss all religions in a friendly surrounding.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:
    • Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
    • Our modern chat room. No add-ons or extensions required, just login and start chatting!
    • Access to private conversations with other members.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon!

Please pray for me

Ellen Brown

Ellen Brown

Well-Known Member
Musicfan said:
I get angry at people because they bully me. And I don't know how to stop getting angry.
Click to expand...


Feel free to PM me. I am in Portland, Oregon, USA.

I get the feeling that you are not yet in High School. Please do not take extreme action in this situation. Perhaps you'd want to think about the idea that bullies feel inadequate, and don't do it because they are better but they are simply angry themselves and want to feel better. Perhaps you'd want to mention this to your parents. I was bullied when I was very young but did not feel I could get support from my parents. There was so much Hell at home, I mostly felt that what happened at school was a vacation from what happened to me at home.

I hope that you will reach out.
 
Nakosis

Nakosis

Non-Binary Physicalist
Premium Member
Musicfan said:
I get angry at people because they bully me. And I don't know how to stop getting angry.
Click to expand...

I used to get real angry too. I was really though more mad at myself for allowing myself to be bullied. However what I did was become very covert. Instead of confronting them face to face, I'd be friendly, helpful whatever. Really mister nice guy. Then manipulate the people around into becoming critical of them. Once I did it so well the person was devastated. Crying, miserable, telling me all of their problems being the only "friend" they had left.

I ended up feeling really bad about it. I realized the bullies, bullying type really have fragile egos. Maybe that's why they end up bullies to hide how fragile they really are.

Anyway, I stopped doing that. I mean I wanted to get back at them but not cause them to become an emotional wreck. Now, I just kind of feel sorry for them. People trying to bully me now I find funny. Occasional though it gets too much and it's really better to cuss them out with all the anger you can muster. It's kind of weird. Once they know you ain't going to be bullied, they get friendly. Maybe decide to go find some easier prey. Bullies prey on your fear, not your defiance.
 
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
Musicfan said:
I know that I get cussed out and threatened and my feelings are hurt because I feel like I have no friends
Click to expand...

Hi there!

It is a real challenge NOT to get angry when other people are being obnoxious - it's a great opportunity to grow if you are able to do so.

Here's an article that may be of some use -

Your Guide to Defusing Anger - Mindful

You could also google the phrase "coping with anger" - quite a few sites look worthy of a visit.

Wishing you all the best!

Hang in there!
 
Ellen Brown

Ellen Brown

Well-Known Member
Nakosis said:
I used to get real angry too. I was really though more mad at myself for allowing myself to be bullied. However what I did was become very covert. Instead of confronting them face to face, I'd be friendly, helpful whatever. Really mister nice guy. Then manipulate the people around into becoming critical of them. Once I did it so well the person was devastated. Crying, miserable, telling me all of their problems being the only "friend" they had left.

I ended up feeling really bad about it. I realized the bullies, bullying type really have fragile egos. Maybe that's why they end up bullies to hide how fragile they really are.

Anyway, I stopped doing that. I mean I wanted to get back at them but not cause them to become an emotional wreck. Now, I just kind of feel sorry for them. People trying to bully me now I find funny. Occasional though it gets too much and it's really better to cuss them out with all the anger you can muster. It's kind of weird. Once they know you ain't going to be bullied, they get friendly. Maybe decide to go find some easier prey. Bullies prey on your fear, not your defiance.
Click to expand...


Wow, I think that is the best answer like ever!
 
nPeace

nPeace

Veteran Member
Nakosis said:
I used to get real angry too. I was really though more mad at myself for allowing myself to be bullied. However what I did was become very covert. Instead of confronting them face to face, I'd be friendly, helpful whatever. Really mister nice guy. Then manipulate the people around into becoming critical of them. Once I did it so well the person was devastated. Crying, miserable, telling me all of their problems being the only "friend" they had left.

I ended up feeling really bad about it. I realized the bullies, bullying type really have fragile egos. Maybe that's why they end up bullies to hide how fragile they really are.

Anyway, I stopped doing that. I mean I wanted to get back at them but not cause them to become an emotional wreck. Now, I just kind of feel sorry for them. People trying to bully me now I find funny. Occasional though it gets too much and it's really better to cuss them out with all the anger you can muster. It's kind of weird. Once they know you ain't going to be bullied, they get friendly. Maybe decide to go find some easier prey. Bullies prey on your fear, not your defiance.
Click to expand...
I was agreeing with you all the way, until...
it's really better to cuss them out with all the anger you can muster.
Click to expand...
I understand that things can cause us to lose control, but I think one who is in control of their emotion, is a true conqueror - not conquered.

I think this is what @Musicfan seems to want - to deal with it without getting angry. Anger to a level is not all bad, but at another level, it's not good in many ways.
I like the advise given in scripture.
The one who is slow to anger has great discernment, But the impatient one displays his foolishness. A calm heart gives life to the body,. . .(Proverbs 14:29, 30)
Ephesians 4:26, 27, 31; Colossians 3:8

This video was shared with many young ones and has help them with some practical tips.
Youths Helped to Deal With Bullying at School
Witnesses’ Video Helps Parents Address National Health Concern: Bullying

Otherwise, I agree with 99% of what you say. ;)
 
nPeace

nPeace

Veteran Member
Musicfan said:
I know that I get cussed out and threatened and my feelings are hurt because I feel like I have no friends
Click to expand...
You sound just like someone I was quite close to while they were growing up. I think my advise helped a bit, but that's all - a bit is not what we are looking for, but it is enough to help us through.
I think to this day they are still grateful for that help though.

In life, we all face challenges, one form or another, but I think it helps us build character.
Having someone to share our feeling with is an important factor, in getting us through, and from what you are saying, I think you have the best person already.
He won't let you down. Just don't give up on him, and you'll be fine. ;)
 
S

suncowiam

Well-Known Member
Musicfan said:
I get angry at people because they bully me. And I don't know how to stop getting angry.
Click to expand...

Are you absolutely sure you're being bullied?

Can you give an example?

Sometimes, we perceive things not as they really are but through our tinted glasses. We train ourselves to be instinctive of certain thoughts before we're able to rationalize what really happened.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top