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The Female Privilege Checklist

Revoltingest

Pragmatic Libertarian
Premium Member
There's a fun Male Privilege Checklist I ran across recently.....
The Male Privilege Checklist

It seems unfair that females are so often ignored.
They endure the wage gap....but we can fix the checklist gap!
So I ask my fellow posters to add cromulent signs of female privilege to my scan effort.
(And feel free to have fun. Gender politics is usually far too serious.)

The Male Privilege Checklist

1. My odds of being hired for a job, when competing against female applicants, are probably skewed in my favor. The more prestigious the job, the larger the odds are skewed.

2. I can be confident that my co-workers won't think I got my job because of my sex — even though that might be true.

3. If I am never promoted, it’s not because of my sex.

4. If I fail in my job or career, I can feel sure this won't be seen as a black mark against my entire sex's capabilities.

5. The odds of my encountering sexual harassment on the job are so low as to be negligible.

6. If I do the same task as a woman, and if the measurement is at all subjective, chances are people will think I did a better job.

7. If I’m a teen or adult, and if I can stay out of prison, my odds of being raped are so low as to be negligible.

8. I am not taught to fear walking alone after dark in average public spaces.

9. If I choose not to have children, my masculinity will not be called into question.

10. If I have children but do not provide primary care for them, my masculinity will not be called into question.

11. If I have children and provide primary care for them, I’ll be praised for extraordinary parenting if I'm even marginally competent.

12. If I have children and pursue a career, no one will think I'm selfish for not staying at home.

13. If I seek political office, my relationship with my children, or who I hire to take care of them, will probably not be scrutinized by the press.

14. Chances are my elected representatives are mostly people of my own sex. The more prestigious and powerful the elected position, the more likely this is to be true.

15. I can be somewhat sure that if I ask to see "the person in charge," I will face a person of my own sex. The higher-up in the organization the person is, the surer I can be.

16. As a child, chances are I was encouraged to be more active and outgoing than my sisters.

17. As a child, I could choose from an almost infinite variety of children's media featuring positive, active, non-stereotyped heroes of my own sex. I never had to look for it; male heroes were the default.

18. As a child, chances are I got more teacher attention than girls who raised their hands just as often.

19. If my day, week or year is going badly, I need not ask of each negative episode or situation whether or not it has sexist overtones.

20. I can turn on the television or glance at the front page of the newspaper and see people of my own sex widely represented, every day, without exception.

21. If I'm careless with my financial affairs it won't be attributed to my sex.

22. If I'm careless with my driving it won't be attributed to my sex.

23. I can speak in public to a large group without putting my sex on trial.

24. If I have sex with a lot of people, it won't make me an object of contempt or derision.

25. There are value-neutral clothing choices available to me; it is possible for me to choose clothing that doesn't send any particular message to the world.

26. My wardrobe and grooming are relatively cheap and consume little time.

27. If I buy a new car, chances are I'll be offered a better price than a woman buying the same car.

28. If I'm not conventionally attractive, the disadvantages are relatively small and easy to ignore.

29. I can be loud with no fear of being called a shrew. I can be aggressive with no fear of being called a *****.

30. I can ask for legal protection from violence that happens mostly to men without being seen as a selfish special interest, since that kind of violence is called "crime" and is a general social concern. (Violence that happens mostly to women is usually called "domestic violence" or "acquaintance rape," and is seen as a special interest issue.)

31. I can be confident that the ordinary language of day-to-day existence will always include my sex. "All men are created equal…," mailman, chairman, freshman, he.

32. My ability to make important decisions and my capability in general will never be questioned depending on what time of the month it is.

33. I will never be expected to change my name upon marriage or questioned if i don't change my name.

34. The decision to hire me will never be based on assumptions about whether or not I might choose to have a family sometime soon.

35. Every major religion in the world is led primarily by people of my own sex. Even God, in most major religions, is usually pictured as being male.

36. Most major religions argue that I should be the head of my household, while my wife and children should be subservient to me.

37. If I have a wife or live-in girlfriend, chances are we'll divide up household chores so that she does most of the labor, and in particular the most repetitive and unrewarding tasks.

38. If I have children with a wife or girlfriend, chances are she'll do most of the childrearing, and in particular the most dirty, repetitive and unrewarding parts of childrearing.

39. If I have children with a wife or girlfriend, and it turns out that one of us needs to make career sacrifices to raise the kids, chances are we'll both assume the career sacrificed should be hers.

40. Magazines, billboards, television, movies, pornography, and virtually all of media is filled with images of scantily-clad women intended to appeal to me sexually. Such images of men exist, but are much rarer.

41. I am not expected to spend my entire life 20-40 pounds underweight.

42. If I am heterosexual, it’s incredibly unlikely that I’ll ever be beaten up by a spouse or lover.

43. I have the privilege of being unaware of my male privilege.
What I have so far......

1) I have the privilege of being unaware of my female privilege.....but acutely aware of male privilege.

2) I'll outlive my brother or husband by nearly a decade.

3) If a kindergarten teacher, no one will wonder if I'm a pedophile.

4) If I strike my husband, & call the cops, I know they'll arrest him.

5) If I divorce my husband, I'll get the kids, the house, & the money.

6) If I lose an election, it's never my fault....I can blame those sexist men.

7) I can expect men to hold the door for me, & to pay for my dinner.....unless they're Scottish.

8) If I choose to be a homemaker, no one will call me "Mr Mom".

9) I have the privilege of avoiding the draft without being called "draft dodger".
 
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Rival

se Dex me saut.
Staff member
Premium Member
I have the privilege of often being mistaken for a man on RF, while others know I'm a girl. So I come to experience both male and female online privilege. Hot damn.
 

Samael_Khan

Goosebender
Men and women can never be equal because men can't physically have the privilege of carrying a child in their womb for nine months and then giving birth. I imagine that is an irreplaceable privilege that tops all others.
 

Revoltingest

Pragmatic Libertarian
Premium Member
I have the privilege of avoiding a deadly spider and/or snake and not being called a "coward" for not killing them on sight.
Very helpful in bloody Australia, mate!!
I have the privilege of living in a country where not everything is out to stab, poison or kill me.
(I'm not manly enuf to live in Australiastan.)
 

Flame

Beware
I have the privilege of being able to have my hair long or short. Men with long hair are routinely mocked though I like it.

True, I was required to have short hair when my female coworkers could have any length they liked.
 

Liu

Well-Known Member
In reaction to one privilege in the other thread:
I remember hearing about a study showing that teachers normally give girls better grades than boys.
It was found out by having a sample of teachers grade a bunch of essays, with different student's names written on the essays.

However, also the actual name influenced the grade given, independent of sex/gender.

Another privilege is, on pretty much any job advertisement I ever read it said something like "females are especially encouraged to apply" - even though in my field of study (languages and literature), females are about 95% of students and at least 80% of lecturers, more among the younger ones.

I even read 1 or 2 advertisements were it clearly said that females would get better chances. Lucky me that I'm still a female on the paper.

Also, regarding transwomen, they have the privilege that if they say they are trans, people will also assume that they are transfemale.
Me as a transmale can rather expect to be assumed to be a transfemale as well.
 

Shadow Wolf

Certified People sTabber
I have the privilege of living in a country where not everything is out to stab, poison or kill me.
I don't know if I should say that's funny or a winner. Living here, the local insects, arachnids, serpents, and wildlife in general aren't going to kill you, can't kill you, or will flee so fast all you'll see is a blurry streak bolting off. But in Australia, with crocs and gators, wild bores, snakes big enough to eat an adult human, and that some mammals there even have venom, it makes me wonder if living in Australia is more deadly than living in a battlefield?
 

Simurgh

Atheist Triple Goddess
Well, Revoltingest, there has to be an answer to your list of course. else, i would lose my feminist club membership.
You wrote:
1) I have the privilege of being unaware of my female privilege.....but acutely aware of male privilege.

What would that “female privilege” consist of? Being yelled at by MALE construction workers (i.e. baby sit on my face) and then cussed out when you ignore them????

2) I'll outlive my brother or husband by nearly a decade.

Great, especially since the face of old age poverty is female. Yup, sign me up for that.

3) If a kindergarten teacher, no one will wonder if I'm a pedophile.

Sure, but if you want to work in high school or academia, old boy network privileges apply. For accurate info google gender based pay disparity in academia.

4) If I strike my husband, & call the cops, I know they'll arrest him.

Not true, when in doubt, both get arrested. Look it up by state

https://www.americanbar.org/content...Violence Arrest Policy Chart.authcheckdam.pdf

5) If I divorce my husband, I'll get the kids, the house, & the money.

Might have been true 20 years ago. It’s much more complicated than you make it seem. Besides, if I put your *** through law school, played secretary, hostess, bookkeeper, housekeeper, laundress, babysitter, cook, therapist and sex worker—all unpaid , for twenty years until you trade me in for a younger model, then you owe me BACK-PAY. You are simply presented with wages due statements. Pay up, poor little whiney boy.

6) If I lose an election, it's never my fault....I can blame those sexist men.

And rightly so!

7) I can expect men to hold the door for me, & to pay for my dinner.....unless they're Scottish.

If I don’t want you to pressure me into sex—you “paid” for me after all, I am smart enough to either pay for dinner, pay my half at least, and open my own door. FYI few men open doors anymore anyhow.

8) If I choose to be a homemaker, no one will call me "Mr Mom".

No, as a female who plays her gender role no one will fawn over me. It’s expected. But my husband is such a domestic hero who not only stays home because his wife makes more money and its cheaper for the man to take over unpaid domestic labor. You are right. I was the *****, but my husband who raised our kids was a drool worthy specimen of true manhood. Go figure.

9) I have the privilege of avoiding the draft without being called "draft dodger".

Draft? That antiquate practice of a by-gone era? It reflected the patronizing attitude of males in general to keep women out of the military and para-military organizations until they no longer could. Since the military is extremely conservative, the draft still exists in its ancient form. That is not the fault of young women who want to make the armed forces a career, but that of the old men who run the system. Once they are willing to get with the new millennium, they can either abolish the draft or include women. See comment about politics and voting.
 

Liu

Well-Known Member
@Simurgh Can you dissect the 3 privileges I listed as well, please? ;)

And here's another one:

There are a lot of safe-space for females (e.g. sports/swimming clubs, or even libraries only for women). A leftist group on a university I know even has sometimes events only for people identifying as female.
Granted, until some decades ago that was pretty different, but I don't know of any equivalent all-male spaces in the society I live in.
 
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