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What is wrong with those people who dress to look sexy?

David1967

Well-Known Member
Premium Member
I'm actually the same. I hate to say this but a completely covered person (niqab) is sexy to me, whereas a totally nude beach ... meh. All in the eyes of the beholder.

Yeah. Funny how those nude beaches are full of people who really shouldn't be naked.........not that I ever looked or anything.:confused:
 

Sunstone

De Diablo Del Fora
Premium Member
It's a simple fact of biology that most humans compete with each other for mates. If you can't stomach that fact, you can't stomach human nature. Good luck to you!

The competition takes various forms. One of the more noticeable forms it frequently takes in societies that allow it is for people to dress sexy. When women (or even men) intentionally dress sexy, they are simply increasing their odds of attracting a pool of people from which to choose a suitable mate.

Dressing sexy is often criticized on the grounds that it attracts people who are only interested in you for sex. While there is a smidgen of truth to that (it certainly attracts at least some people who are sexually interested in you), the point is weakened by the fact that it fails to take into account at least two variables. First, it fails to take into account the fact the person who is dressing sexy isn't some passive cow who accepts whatever bull happens to show up horny to mount her. Even though she is dressing sexy to attract people, she is most likely exercising choice in who she picks to mate with, and she is free to choose a mate who has more going for him than the mere fact he's attracted to sexy women.

Second, it fails to take into account that the person who shows up attracted to the sexy woman (or man) is also exercising choice. "Sexy" might be just one of many things that person is interested in. They might also be looking for kindness, good humor, creativity, intelligence, rapport, or any number of other things. Just because someone wants their mate to be sexy doesn't mean they are superficial enough to only want their mate to be sexy.
 

Vinayaka

devotee
Premium Member
Yeah. Funny how those nude beaches are full of people who really shouldn't be naked.........not that I ever looked or anything.:confused:
But even if it is people who 'should' be nekkid, it still shouldn't matter one iota. Just because the restaurant is there doesn't mean you have to eat in it, or even look at the menu. The physical body is just that, the physical body. The whole idea is so externalized and instinctive. Surely the human can rise above such mundane matters.
 

Sunstone

De Diablo Del Fora
Premium Member
Yeah. Funny how those nude beaches are full of people who really shouldn't be naked.........not that I ever looked or anything.:confused:

In my experience of nudists, they are more tolerant and accepting of themselves and others than are most other people. I think it says a lot about their values that you would be highly unlikely to hear a nudist say of someone else, "That person really shouldn't be naked."

A friend of mine who is a Christian pastor went to a nudist resort and told me that the people she found there were so accepting and welcoming of each other that she believed they expressed "Christian love" better than her congregation did on a Sunday.
 

sovietchild

Well-Known Member
It's a simple fact of biology that most humans compete with each other for mates. If you can't stomach that fact, you can't stomach human nature. Good luck to you!

The competition takes various forms. One of the more noticeable forms it frequently takes in societies that allow it is for people to dress sexy. When women (or even men) intentionally dress sexy, they are simply increasing their odds of attracting a pool of people from which to choose a suitable mate.

Dressing sexy is often criticized on the grounds that it attracts people who are only interested in you for sex. While there is a smidgen of truth to that (it certainly attracts at least some people who are sexually interested in you), the point is weakened by the fact that it fails to take into account at least two variables. First, it fails to take into account the fact the person who is dressing sexy isn't some passive cow who accepts whatever bull happens to show up horny to mount her. Even though she is dressing sexy to attract people, she is most likely exercising choice in who she picks to mate with, and she is free to choose a mate who has more going for him than the mere fact he's attracted to sexy women.

Second, it fails to take into account that the person who shows up attracted to the sexy woman (or man) is also exercising choice. "Sexy" might be just one of many things that person is interested in. They might also be looking for kindness, good humor, creativity, intelligence, rapport, or any number of other things. Just because someone wants their mate to be sexy doesn't mean they are superficial enough to only want their mate to be sexy.

Wait, don't you see lots of wives who dress eroticly? From the offices to gyms. Why do they need to pick a mate if they already have one.
 

james bond

Well-Known Member
I think society has these unwritten rules about how sexy one can look depending on the situation. The most extreme seems to be in those Hollywood red carpet events. However, we can't allow that in middle school or high school. By college, one would be criticized by their own peers so it's left mostly to their social events instead of class time. When you get a job and such, then it's determined by written and unwritten rules at where you work. If one wants to be promoted to the executive level, then they have to figure out what is allowed. The more power, the more one can get away with, but we have sexual harassment legal cause to counter it. Both women and men dress sexy to attract the best mates, but that's not all I believe. How others respond is based on how much power one has during that situation. We all know the stereotype of the blue collar worker wolf whistling an attractive female that walks by. With women, it would based on numbers. If there 4 or 5 women to one male, then they may be the ones wolf whistling.
 

Vinayaka

devotee
Premium Member
Wait, don't you see lots of wives who dress erotic? From the offices to gyms. Why do they need to pick a mate if they already have one.
But they're not dressing erotic. They wouldn't be erotic to me, or to anyone else who has the maturity to see a little deeper than that. But clearly they are erotic to you, or you wouldn't notice it. So its not the wives who have the problem, its the people who might rudely stare at them. Just turn your eyes away, like civilised people do all over this planet.
 

Kirran

Premium Member
Hating something just shows attachment to the concept. A fairly negative attachment at that. A good penance is to partake of the activity until you learn to accept it.

You trying to get sovietchild into some yoga pants, or a low-cut dress?
 

Sunstone

De Diablo Del Fora
Premium Member
Wait, don't you see lots of wives who dress eroticly? From the offices to gyms. Why do they need to pick a mate if they already have one.

I can imagine all sorts of reasons, including habit or even vanity. But none of the reasons I can imagine would make dressing sexy immoral in my eyes. As far as I'm concerned a woman who dresses sexy -- whether married or not -- should have a medal pinned on her by the civic authorities for her public service in giving old men like me a reason to live.
 

Kirran

Premium Member
I know some people who find hijab very alluring, think it makes women look really cute. Is it the hijabis' fault that they look cute to those people, or is it an issue of those people?
 

sovietchild

Well-Known Member
Why would those wives dress seductively when they already have a partner? Do they deep inside want to decay people?
 

buddhist

Well-Known Member
Is it some kind of competition? A league where they compete with one another. Is it a form of arrogance, because they want to promote a message “I am better then you”? Or, is it something else? Center of attention? Why would a wife leave the house in the sexy clothing? Sometimes I even see little children age 8 imitating those people, wearing tight yoga pants or short dresses. Some others even go to the gym with yoga pants and no underwear what so ever. What are they promoting? What are they trying to archive?

What is wrong with those people who dress to look erotic?
What's wrong with those people who dress to look unsexy? Is it some kind of competition? A league where they compete with one another. Is it a form of arrogance, because they want to promote a message “I am better or holier then you”? Or, is it something else? Center of attention?
 

Sunstone

De Diablo Del Fora
Premium Member
Why would those wives dress seductively when they already have a partner? Do they deep inside want to decay people?

Why imply they have ugly motives -- such as "decaying" others -- when the motive might very likely be something much less obnoxious -- such as desire to please their husbands and others? Or because it gives them self-confidence to dress sexy? Or because they like the compliments they get? Is there nothing in your religion that warns you about having a dirty mind -- a mind that can only attribute the worse to others?
 
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