Wherever you attend your faith service, does your spouse or partner attend with you?

Deidre said:

While it'd be great to share my beliefs with a life partner, it wouldn't be a dealbreaker if the person didn't share the same beliefs or left the faith say in the middle of the relationship or something.

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I hope that's true... and mutual. I listen to an atheist call-in show - I can't remember how many times I've heard people call in with some variation on "my significant other and I both used to believe, but now I don't and it's breaking us up. How do I save my relationship?"

So you believe that going to church together was in part the cause of your divorce?

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Yes. Going to that church, anyway. Some of the homilies had content that I found objectionable and my ex didn't. Learning that my then-wife had no issue with some of the nasty stuff there brought things to light that probably would have surfaced eventually anyhow, but our church experience was definitely a catalyst.

That and my ex-wife's insistence that I go despite my objections (and the way she'd end up sobbing at the thought of my immortal soul when I didn't).

At home my wife do her prayers alone and I do mine alone, but I did invite her to join me. It is totally up to her and because she respect my privacy (as well as keeping in mind that my spiritual practices takes some time) she has decline. I do go with her to church as she is Christian (liberal, she does not expect me to be Christian or agree with everything and I also don't expect her to change her believes), but so far she haven't been to temple with me yet (I do hope she will come with me at least once as I would love to show her that part of my life). I understand that something different can be very daunting, especially Hinduism lol... My wife did agree to go with me to a Baha'i fireside, though that is not my faith I enjoy these meetings a lot

My wife attends for holy days and occasionally for Shabbat morning.
While she loves the sense of community and connectedness, she doesn't get the same satisfaction from regular prayer that I do.

Deidre said:

While it'd be great to share my beliefs with a life partner, it wouldn't be a dealbreaker if the person didn't share the same beliefs or left the faith say in the middle of the relationship or something. So you believe that going to church together was in part the cause of your divorce?

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It has been an unusual blessing that my husband is extremely tolerant but not spiritual, given the fact that I have changed my path so many times.

When asked what why it has not been hard on him, he replied "It is all the same."

At first I thought process come and demonstrated little comprehension for spiritfual beliefs. However quickly I realize that he knows more than many who consider themself religious. He stated, they all basically say the same 'truths' in diff ways.

"...this is the TRUTH/only way... Treat people with kindness, live an honest life, love the Lord, your God, dont be materialistic.."

Thus not all relationships with differing belief systems fail. He is fine I take my daughter to church. Granted Id love to one day find a place we can both go...

All in Gods time

Deidre said:

I've been seeing a guy now, since ending my engagement, and he is a moderate Christian. He wants to become stronger in the faith, and we went to church today together, and it was so awesome to be there with him, and seeing others who are dating or married together with their partners. It just felt like a very connected place. Just wondering if you attend your places of worship, with your significant others?

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Nice question.

So, I don't tend to go to the mosque all that often, basically on Fridays for the (obligatory for men, not for women) Friday middle-of-the-day prayer. Since that is a working day for me, and I work away from home (and my wife), we don't go to the mosque together too often (except when we are on holiday, or visiting somewhere). In any case, in the vast majority of mosques, men and women pray separately (my wife identifies as a woman and whilst I identify as genderqueer, and personally wouldn't be bothered either way, I look like a man so it's most straightforward for me to pray with the men - would likely create a bit of a stir otherwise!). But whenever we are at home together (evenings, weekends, holidays, etc.) we will tend to pray our (five times) daily prayers together.