Time to say goodbye RF :)

Hey everyone.

I have decided to leave the forums. This may not be permanent but it feels like it right now. I at least need to give it a try and see if it makes a difference. So I don't know if or when I will be back.

It's been great here but I really need to prioritise and focus on sorting my (offline) life out. Its a real mess and has been for many years though I have finally start to see a light at the end of the tunnel. My Depression has eased up enough that it seems possible and is at least worth a try. Being on here has given me some space but my life won't get any better unless I make the effort. It won't be easy as the odds are pretty stacked against me as well. So I've got some tough choices ahead and need to focus and put all my effort into that. It may turn out to be easier than I think but I just have to keep trying whatever I can and see what works.

RF is a place to hide from all the stuff I need to do so I can stay in denial about how little is really going on. ultimately, that's not a good thing and isn't healthy. I want my life to be more than simply logging on here at 5am to see what choas is brewing round here (as entertaining as that is). As much as I like this place, I need to move on, embrace life and see what happens; Dare myself to be more than I am now.

If I see you around it will probably be quite a while but I can't make any gaurentees. Eitherway, I wish all the best for everyone here.

Kind regards,
Laika.

Yo, Laika, the world's brutal, bro, so wear some kinda jacket. Do your thing, though, man! I wish you the very best!

Laika said:

Hey everyone.

I have decided to leave the forums. This may not be permanent but it feels like it right now. I at least need to give it a try and see if it makes a difference. So I don't know if or when I will be back.

It's been great here but I really need to prioritise and focus on sorting my (offline) life out. Its a real mess and has been for many years though I have finally start to see a light at the end of the tunnel. My Depression has eased up enough that it seems possible and is at least worth a try. Being on here has given me some space but my life won't get any better unless I make the effort. It won't be easy as the odds are pretty stacked against me as well. So I've got some tough choices ahead and need to focus and put all my effort into that. It may turn out to be easier than I think but I just have to keep trying whatever I can and see what works.

RF is a place to hide from all the stuff I need to do so I can stay in denial about how little is really going on. ultimately, that's not a good thing and isn't healthy. I want my life to be more than simply logging on here at 5am to see what choas is brewing round here (as entertaining as that is). As much as I like this place, I need to move on, embrace life and see what happens; Dare myself to be more than I am now.

If I see you around it will probably be quite a while but I can't make any gaurentees. Eitherway, I wish all the best for everyone here.

Kind regards,
Laika.

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Congratulation Laika

You could defeat the addiction to Internet, face the real life now !!
Well done friend

I will miss ya pal. Be good.

May you have fair winds and following seas, my friend. Remember, there are many here who will be glad for you to return, even if only from time to time...so that we may hear your wit and wisdom, and dole out some our own to you. So don't be a stranger!

Hopefully in the future RF won't feel like a place to ignore your problems.

Laika said:

Hey everyone.

I have decided to leave the forums. This may not be permanent but it feels like it right now. I at least need to give it a try and see if it makes a difference. So I don't know if or when I will be back.

It's been great here but I really need to prioritise and focus on sorting my (offline) life out. Its a real mess and has been for many years though I have finally start to see a light at the end of the tunnel. My Depression has eased up enough that it seems possible and is at least worth a try. Being on here has given me some space but my life won't get any better unless I make the effort. It won't be easy as the odds are pretty stacked against me as well. So I've got some tough choices ahead and need to focus and put all my effort into that. It may turn out to be easier than I think but I just have to keep trying whatever I can and see what works.

RF is a place to hide from all the stuff I need to do so I can stay in denial about how little is really going on. ultimately, that's not a good thing and isn't healthy. I want my life to be more than simply logging on here at 5am to see what choas is brewing round here (as entertaining as that is). As much as I like this place, I need to move on, embrace life and see what happens; Dare myself to be more than I am now.

If I see you around it will probably be quite a while but I can't make any gaurentees. Eitherway, I wish all the best for everyone here.

Kind regards,
Laika.

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Having been here for over 1 year, you're now no longer permitted to quit.
You may take a vacation, but you're required to return.
You may cut back, but you're required to post at least occasionally.
If you don't, then.....
@Quagmire will hunt you down, & make you the subject of cartoons.
@4consideration will hunt you down, & throw haggis at you.
@Wirey will hunt you down, & become your wing man.
@beenherebeforeagain will hunt you down, & rub you with shaved gerbils. (We ran out of weasels.)
@Quetzal will hunt you down, & offer terrible psychotherapy.
@Terese will hunt you down, & have her way with you. (It involves Crisco & leather jackets.)
@Brickjectivity will hunt you down, & unleash the purple rain!
@Rowan will hunt you down, claw up your sofa, & leave cat treats in your shoes.
@BSM1 will hunt you down, & wear your pants on his head!
I will hunt you down, & recite limericks.

Revoltingest said:

@Quetzal will hunt you down, & offer terrible psychotherapy.

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Guilty as charged.

Laika said:

Hey everyone.

I have decided to leave the forums. This may not be permanent but it feels like it right now. I at least need to give it a try and see if it makes a difference. So I don't know if or when I will be back.

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You are leaving honorably.

Laika said:

It's been great here but I really need to prioritise and focus on sorting my (offline) life out. Its a real mess and has been for many years though I have finally start to see a light at the end of the tunnel. My Depression has eased up enough that it seems possible and is at least worth a try. Being on here has given me some space but my life won't get any better unless I make the effort. It won't be easy as the odds are pretty stacked against me as well. So I've got some tough choices ahead and need to focus and put all my effort into that. It may turn out to be easier than I think but I just have to keep trying whatever I can and see what works.

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Space for the space doggie. I like it.

Laika said:

RF is a place to hide from all the stuff I need to do so I can stay in denial about how little is really going on. ultimately, that's not a good thing and isn't healthy. I want my life to be more than simply logging on here at 5am to see what choas is brewing round here (as entertaining as that is). As much as I like this place, I need to move on, embrace life and see what happens; Dare myself to be more than I am now.

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Its good to hear you are pruning your activities though, and I hope I do see you again sometime. On a personal note I have found out that if I learn a little or refresh something I've learned then I feel good about the day. Almost anything is good enough to make the day worth while. Doing 20 push-ups or going over your Geography can be amazingly good for your day.

Laika said:

If I see you around it will probably be quite a while but I can't make any gaurentees. Eitherway, I wish all the best for everyone here.

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We will slog on through the mire of our own waste. You go take a shower.

Don't be a stranger. We'll leave the light on for you...

Good luck in the real life!

Good luck with your self improvement! Come back and say hi when you're ready.

Best wishes, Laika! Depression's one hell of a thing. Glad to see you focused on dealing with it.

Take care my friend

Laika said:

I have decided to leave the forums. This may not be permanent but it feels like it right now. I at least need to give it a try and see if it makes a difference. So I don't know if or when I will be back.

It's been great here but I really need to prioritise and focus on sorting my (offline) life out. Its a real mess and has been for many years though I have finally start to see a light at the end of the tunnel. My Depression has eased up enough that it seems possible and is at least worth a try. Being on here has given me some space but my life won't get any better unless I make the effort. It won't be easy as the odds are pretty stacked against me as well. So I've got some tough choices ahead and need to focus and put all my effort into that. It may turn out to be easier than I think but I just have to keep trying whatever I can and see what works.

Laika.

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Travel safe. May you find the peace that comes from wholeness, the wholeness that comes from peace.

Please just take a brief vacation and mind break.
We'd LOVE to hear from you again.\

Group hug!

I hope that things improve for you and that you return, as I'll miss your contributions here. Take care.

Sad to see you go, Laika. We've had some good discussions, and you'll be missed.

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Please just take a brief vacation and mind break.
We'd LOVE to hear from you again.\

Group hug!

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I took a mind break a couple months ago.
Read JAIL!

No, not jail.
Rehab for addiction. Alcoholism is an inherited trait among males on both sides of my
family and killed both dad and mom.
I miss 'em like a hemorrhoid.
"Respect thy mother and father" the Book says.
In therapy I learned, "if they deserve respect".
When I was 5 my momma beat me 'till I bled.
When sis was 13 dad raped her.
She's still drinking and never got into therapy.
Poor thing.
She HATES me to this day and I
think it's possible because I remind her of "daddy" in some unknown to me way.

In therapy I learned how to "parent" my inner child, the one so terribly emotionally crippled.

I finally quit medicating with prescription drugs and alcohol before those things
killed me.
Now I'm a great dad to my 15 year old fine son. He says so anyway. ( I'm 69 .)
I leave my sister alone as I can't help her and pray one day she will come to grips with
a most awful and personal of all crimes.
I have shadowy recollections of mommy dearest playing with my "inky" when I was
asleep as a child.
The shrink says that is "most likely. Now what are you going to do about that?"
Nothing is the answer. It was what it was and the shrinks say many positives must
have come from somewhere else I might have become Chester the Molester
myself.
Perhaps my experiences is what motivated me to hunt down and jail child
abusers when I was a cop.
I put one nasty away for 40 years to life.
Being as "it" was in it's 40's at the time he was jailed he likely did die in the joint
with a very sore rectal problem.
Hard core criminals in prison often have kids and child abusers get the dickens.
Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww bad play on words! Sorry.(think about it)

Recall Akron Ohio's Jeffery Dahmer? The corrupted mind that invited homosexuals
to dinner and ATE THEM?
He was assassinated in prison in front of many in the lunch line and no one
including guards saw a thing.
Sad huh? NOT!
Ball bearings in a sock to the head will do a nice job.
My shrink was his fathers shrink the father wrote a book called
https://www.amazon.com/Fathers-Story-Lionel-Dahmer/dp/068812156X.
Jeffery's basic problem was his mother who corrupted his mind in awful ways.
Teach your children well.

Best of luck, Laika! I hope to see you here again at some point. Either way, best wishes with your life and what you are trying to get sorted out.