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Just came out

Shadow Wolf

Shadow Wolf

Certified People sTabber
I just came out to my parents as trans. It wasn't nearly as hard as I had worried it would be (but, then again, I took one-and-a-half xanny bars to keep myself calm and more collected and not let my anxiety cause me to slur and stumble my words), but it does seem it is going to be hard for my parents to adjust to (to be expected).
But how I feel so much better. I feel as if a tremendous and very dark weight has been removed from my shoulders. I don't feel I have to hide, that I don't have to pretend, I feel a sense of tranquility coming on and a diminishing anguish.
There will be the issues of working around my mom saying "but you're a boy," and distancing myself from Jenner, but right now I don't feel it's a struggle to smile.
I also have to mention just how awesome Star Trek: The Next Generation is, because by chance were I was at on the series on Netflix, the episode the Outsider, and episode that deals with transgender issues, just so happened to be playing while I was discussing this.
 
Laika

Laika

Well-Known Member
Premium Member
Shadow Wolf said:
I just came out to my parents as trans. It wasn't nearly as hard as I had worried it would be (but, then again, I took one-and-a-half xanny bars to keep myself calm and more collected and not let my anxiety cause me to slur and stumble my words), but it does seem it is going to be hard for my parents to adjust to (to be expected).
But how I feel so much better. I feel as if a tremendous and very dark weight has been removed from my shoulders. I don't feel I have to hide, that I don't have to pretend, I feel a sense of tranquility coming on and a diminishing anguish.
There will be the issues of working around my mom saying "but you're a boy," and distancing myself from Jenner, but right now I don't feel it's a struggle to smile.
I also have to mention just how awesome Star Trek: The Next Generation is, because by chance were I was at on the series on Netflix, the episode the Outsider, and episode that deals with transgender issues, just so happened to be playing while I was discussing this.
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Best wishes Shadow Wolf. That's a really brave thing to do and you should be proud of yourself. I really hope things work out. :)
 
Demonslayer

Demonslayer

Well-Known Member
YmirGF said:
How about SunlightWolf, instead of ShadowWolf as now you are no longer crouching in the shadows.
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LOL, I like it!

Way to go ShadowWolf. It's a better world we live in today where more and more people are accepting of whatever people are, gender or orientation-wise. No one should have to live a lie, and these days there is no need to.

Well done!
 
beenherebeforeagain

beenherebeforeagain

Rogue Animist
Premium Member
Yay! Sorry it took so long and so much emotional toil, but now it's out there and things will get better! (You should have seen how long and the effort it took me to air the problems and deal with them with my ex-wife...and yet, afterwards, when I gave up on expectations and trying to make things happen, that's when things finally fell into place...). Especially now that you've got your job, too!
 
Shadow Wolf

Shadow Wolf

Certified People sTabber
Thanks everyone! I actually woke up today feeling happy, and sleeping last night didn't feel like this mandatory ordious battle of thing I have to do. My nephews noisiness isn't even getting on my every last nerve (except for this morning while my mom was still in bed).
YmirGF said:
How about SunlightWolf, instead of ShadowWolf as now you are no longer crouching in the shadows.
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Nah. The sunlight tends to bother and strain my eyes. Plus there are no stars to look upon and the beauty of the night sky while the sun is out.
beenherebeforeagain said:
Especially now that you've got your job, too!
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Yup! My first day back is August 4th. And it's going to be a challenge because it's a morning shift, and I haven't been up in moving that early in nearly a year (not unless my insomnia has had me up that long).
 
Quagmire

Quagmire

Imaginary talking monkey
Staff member
Premium Member
Shadow Wolf said:
I just came out to my parents as trans. It wasn't nearly as hard as I had worried it would be (but, then again, I took one-and-a-half xanny bars to keep myself calm and more collected and not let my anxiety cause me to slur and stumble my words), but it does seem it is going to be hard for my parents to adjust to (to be expected).
But how I feel so much better. I feel as if a tremendous and very dark weight has been removed from my shoulders. I don't feel I have to hide, that I don't have to pretend, I feel a sense of tranquility coming on and a diminishing anguish.
There will be the issues of working around my mom saying "but you're a boy," and distancing myself from Jenner, but right now I don't feel it's a struggle to smile.
I also have to mention just how awesome Star Trek: The Next Generation is, because by chance were I was at on the series on Netflix, the episode the Outsider, and episode that deals with transgender issues, just so happened to be playing while I was discussing this.
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See? There is a God, and He watches Star Trek too. :thumbsup:

Congrats SW. :)
 
Revoltingest

Revoltingest

Pragmatic Libertarian
Premium Member
Shadow Wolf said:
I just came out to my parents as trans. It wasn't nearly as hard as I had worried it would be (but, then again, I took one-and-a-half xanny bars to keep myself calm and more collected and not let my anxiety cause me to slur and stumble my words), but it does seem it is going to be hard for my parents to adjust to (to be expected).
But how I feel so much better. I feel as if a tremendous and very dark weight has been removed from my shoulders. I don't feel I have to hide, that I don't have to pretend, I feel a sense of tranquility coming on and a diminishing anguish.
There will be the issues of working around my mom saying "but you're a boy," and distancing myself from Jenner, but right now I don't feel it's a struggle to smile.
I also have to mention just how awesome Star Trek: The Next Generation is, because by chance were I was at on the series on Netflix, the episode the Outsider, and episode that deals with transgender issues, just so happened to be playing while I was discussing this.
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I know the real purpose of this post is fishing for frubals.
It worked....you got mine!
Congratulations!

It was difficult to find the right celebratory confection.
Here you go....
th
 
U

Unveiled Artist

Veteran Member
Shadow Wolf said:
I just came out to my parents as trans. It wasn't nearly as hard as I had worried it would be (but, then again, I took one-and-a-half xanny bars to keep myself calm and more collected and not let my anxiety cause me to slur and stumble my words), but it does seem it is going to be hard for my parents to adjust to (to be expected).
But how I feel so much better. I feel as if a tremendous and very dark weight has been removed from my shoulders. I don't feel I have to hide, that I don't have to pretend, I feel a sense of tranquility coming on and a diminishing anguish.
There will be the issues of working around my mom saying "but you're a boy," and distancing myself from Jenner, but right now I don't feel it's a struggle to smile.
I also have to mention just how awesome Star Trek: The Next Generation is, because by chance were I was at on the series on Netflix, the episode the Outsider, and episode that deals with transgender issues, just so happened to be playing while I was discussing this.
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B-e-autiful! Congrads. Takes a lot of courage to do that, I know :)
 
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