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Revoltingest

Pragmatic Libertarian
Premium Member
It takes a bit more than a post on RF to offend me, RevoltingOne. Perhaps I've been at this too long now. Then again, I cut my teeth on forums way back when in the days of BBS's.
I am a roiling cauldron of rage, & take offense at nearly everything.
But I choose to react calmly & indifferently 99.9999% of the time....ya oatmeal spill'n, slack jawed, hair style'n, channel changer!
 

YmirGF

Bodhisattva in Recovery
I am a roiling cauldron of rage, & take offense at nearly everything.
But I choose to react calmly & indifferently 99.9999% of the time....ya oatmeal spill'n, slack jawed, hair style'n, channel changer!
You say the sweetest things....

*wipes tear from eye*
 

Iti oj

Global warming is real and we need to act
Premium Member
That states the issue very succinctly indeed. Thanks for that comment.

I have no patience myself for rigid male gender roles of "thick skinned", "tough", "emotionally distant" or such, nor for those who wish to impose them on me, or treat me with contempt for not living up to their myopic ideals.

If someone lacks empathy and consideration, that's their problem, whether they see it or not. I don't have to deal with them any more than is strictly necessary.
Well said. I suffer from not matching the role too. Imagen what its like being the only non macho male at work. :*(
 

Mequa

Neo-Epicurean
Well said. I suffer from not matching the role too. Imagen what its like being the only non macho male at work. :*(
I can often get on well with "masculine" men, myself.

It's mean-spirited females I often go away hurt after interacting with. Then you get their defenders accuse me of being a "*****" or whatever, as if a "real man" should be more like Teflon in such circumstances.

Ironically I've even had that from "feminist" men. When I go away hurt from interactions with a mean-spirited woman, I'm too "thin-skinned", with a snarky attitude of contempt. If the women goes away hurt (or just plays the victim), I'm a victimiser. They think they are defending women's rights in doing that.

Hint: That's not what actual feminism teaches. What feminist theory asserts is that that "thick-skinned" role for men is part of patriarchy, and that the above attitudes are sexist. Some just don't get the memo.
(Incidentally, MRAs show identical concerns here about this toxic expected role for men, but attribute them to different causes e.g. gynocentricism and misandry.)
 

Iti oj

Global warming is real and we need to act
Premium Member
I can often get on well with "masculine" men, myself.

It's mean-spirited females I often go away hurt after interacting with. Then you get their defenders accuse me of being a "*****" or whatever, as if a "real man" should be more like Teflon in such circumstances.

Ironically I've even had that from "feminist" men. When I go away hurt from interactions with a mean-spirited woman, I'm too "thin-skinned", with a snarky attitude of contempt. If the women goes away hurt (or just plays the victim), I'm a victimiser. They think they are defending women's rights in doing that.

Hint: That's not what actual feminism teaches. What feminist theory asserts is that that "thick-skinned" role for men is part of patriarchy, and that the above attitudes are sexist. Some just don't get the memo.
(Incidentally, MRAs show identical concerns here about this toxic expected role for men, but attribute them to different causes e.g. gynocentricism and misandry.)
interesting. I'm the biggest feminist i know in real life i think. Online i can obviously find similar experiences but people just suck online.
 
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