This seems the wrong venue (as opposed to PM) to air interpersonal difficulties, but I'll
reiterate that when I ended our friendship, I was clear that we'd still converse.
Tis not aggression to respond to posts which call to me, so you're not a victim here.
Nope. But I will call out passive aggressive behavior when I see it.
You repeatedly & clearly made a vile false accusation of "gaslighting" you.
Ref....
I found this unacceptable, & defriended you.
That's all it is. Now we're just 2 acquaintances on RF
You should accept that there can be vigorous disagreement, & yet both sides are honest.
Vile false accusation. Pfft. Totally true. You've been called out repeatedly from more than just a few people for being dismissive, condescending, explaining to feminists what feminism really is or should be, but the worst were the attempts to "innocently" tell women how not to get raped....that one I repeatedly and fairly mentioned to you how disrespectful and harmful that is to do. Especially with survivors of sexual assault. When you continued with that rhetoric in spite of my reminders that it IS indeed harmful, your response was always how wrong I was, and that my advocacy in rape crisis centers was wrong and that you were more right.
So the gaslighting comment was nowhere near false. It's very true. Your attempts at painting my perspective as false, as detrimental to rape victims and potential rape victims and targets was where first blood was drawn, rev. I called it out. You called my response abusive. Sad, but typical.
I requested PM conversation, you refused saying you wanted to keep it out in the open. Well here we are again. And I would remind you that calling somebody out for gaslighting is NOT a rule violation. Gaslighting is indeed a cruel dismissal of - in our case - repeated and somewhat apologetic attacks on my experience as a rape survivor (often times reminding me of how careful you tried to dismiss my perspective of it all), dismissal of my explanations of what actually helps survivors and targets, and dressing your attacks all as mere pragmatic suggestions for women on how not to get raped. It most definitely was gaslighting.
You telling me repeatedly that it's nothing but beneficial to coach women on being "pragmatic" when the vast majority of people male and female are raped by people they know and trust. It happened to me. And your advice if I were to consider it would have extremely harmful and detrimental and nowhere near any help to what happened.
So look. I'm not asking to be friends again. I want to know if you're understanding what is going to happen again. Look, being anti-feminist is not a rule violation. I get that. Saying somebody is gaslighting another person is not a rule violation. So let's make that very clear. You think I was cruel and vile? Your "advice " to me was cruel, brah.
Oh and conspiracy of staff being complicit? LOL... No...just staff doing their job and deciding through consensus what is the appropriate action to take on any consensual decision of rule violations.
But please feel free to think that. Staff gets attacked every now and then by people who don't get their way by thinking we are all Christian or Muslim or Jewish megalomaniacs, we are atheist supremacists, and now we are all feminist supremacists according to your complaint. It's cute, but so so wrong.
I guess the door is opened now. I'm ready. I still think arm wrestling would be more fun. But it is what it is.
Gosh golly...it would be great if the majority of the people in this thread could actually stick to the OP. Y'all have plenty of opportunities to hate on feminism in the dozens of other "feminism sucks" threads.