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How to kill lust from my mind?

ratikala

Istha gosthi
namaskaram Rohit ji

its hard to find a guru these days, i can't find a one even if i want. my motive is to follow teachings of bhagwad geeta about sex, and nothing else

yes unfortunately in this age of kailyuga it is hard to find a reputable guru , but in the bhagavad Gita sri krsna clearly says ....''now hear O son of Prtha , how by practicing yoga in full consciousnessof me with mind attatched to me , you can know me in full , free from doubt ''. ch ..7 v ..1

krsna then promices to reveal himself to Arjuna ....as this knowledge is here for all to read in the form of the Bhagavad Gita even if we have no guru if we are fully prepaired to surrender to Sri krsna's instructions then Sri Krsna becomes our Guru as he speaks to us through the Gita .

rohit60221023 i dont have any guru, its just that i read somewhere over the net about the benefits of becoming a yogi so i chose to become one.
to become a yogi is possible for anyone , a yogi is simply one who has devoted them selves to god realisation , so to desire to overcome lust is a nececary stage for any aspiring yogi , ...in the 18th chapter Sri krsna speaks about this very thing , ...

''That which in the begining may be just like poison but at the end is just like nectar and which awakens one toself realisation is said to be happiness in the mode of goodness''...''that hapiness which is derived from contact of the sences with their objests and which appear like nectar at first but like poison at the end is said to be in the mode of passion '' v ...37-38


here krsna explains that the renunciation of sence pleasures which appear to be like nectar and seem very hard to forgo , therefore even the thought of renunciation appears to be like poison , .....but in truth it is the desire for gratification that is the true poison as its pleasures are short lived and leave one only desiring more , but for one who realises the perils of being caught in the mode of passion and who seeks to atain the mode of goodness and to focus the mind on the supreme , he indeed can be called a yogi .

and i think it can't be killed but it can be transferred into something useful work.
it is enough to mindfully fulfill ones own dharma , ... as any work which done with the supreme in mind can lead the aspirant to eventual perfection .

here we are discussing lust of the physical kind , but we should equaly renounce lust for power , fame , money etc , as these are equaly distracting and take ones mind away from god realisation , so even the elders who are past the stage of sexual preocupation are not free from other forms of lust , it is something which all should guard against . .....we must all become Yogis
 
I'm a bit of an outsider here, so respectfully, I'd like to add my two cents.

I agree with what others have said. Sexual drives, like hunger or thirst, are normal. We are, after all, animals and one of the instincts animals have is to reproduce.

I don't think there's anything wrong with sex or having sexual desires. I think they're only a problem if you're disrespecting someone else, by treating them like they're objects, or if you can't control yourself... like anything in life.

Perhaps confronting the way you feel can help. Look it in the eye and try to understand it. Maybe you're just seeking that sort of intimacy with someone, maybe you have a stronger addiction that a therapist can help you with, maybe it's just that the thought popped into your head. Sometimes the more you fear something, the more you think about it and you're caught in an endless loop. That doesn't mean giving in, but just seeking to understand it better and where it's coming from, can help lead you to a solution to change it.
 

Vinayaka

devotee
Premium Member
Sometimes the more you fear something, the more you think about it and you're caught in an endless loop. That doesn't mean giving in, but just seeking to understand it better and where it's coming from, can help lead you to a solution to change it.

This could be taken right out of a nicotine quitting book. :)

The key is in understanding, not in all or nothing.
 

Aupmanyav

Be your own guru
The key is in understanding, but for those who do not understand - worship of Lord Hanuman and sit-ups/push-ups. :D
 

TurkeyOnRye

Well-Known Member
There is nothing wrong or inappropriate about lust. It is not a barrier to expanded states of awareness, in fact it can be a path to them.
 

Aupmanyav

Be your own guru
Well, in case of Goswami Tulsidas, lust (and later admonition) was a reason for devotion; when his wife, Ratnavali, chided that if he was even half as devoted to Lord Rama as he was to her body of flesh and blood, he would have been redeemed.
 
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Estro Felino

Believer in free will
Premium Member
Try to focus on a woman's beauty. If you do, you will certainly fall in love with a beautiful girl, and then maybe, you will be in a relationship with her.

Beauty is what makes people fall in love, so sex becomes spiritual not lustful
 

Musty

Active Member
Personally I face this challenge every day on the bus to work. I find myself looking up whenever the bus stops in the event that an attractive woman is at the bus stop. My approach is (When an attractive person gets on the bus) is to look at them, take a mental step back and observe how I react and then make a mental note to view them as person (Right view) rather than an object of desire.

So far not much progress and I'm still feeling the urge to look up when the bus approaches the next stop but I'll see what happens in the long term.
 

Vishvavajra

Active Member
Viewing pictures of decaying corpses is one Buddhist technique.
This is the traditional method. Then you would meditate on the image of the object of your lust, visualizing their decay, all of the physical parts that you are attracted to turning to rot and eventually to nothing. There is nothing ultimately there for you to get stuck on, so you can let it go.

At the same time, beating yourself up for having unwanted thoughts won't help. The more agitated you become, the more unwanted thoughts will arise, which will just cause further agitation. Accept that sexual thoughts are natural and that it's not your fault that they arise. But just as you are not responsible for their arising, so also should you let them pass away without grasping at them, for they are not you. They are just a thing that happens. The more you learn to regard them in a non-grasping, non-self-identifying, non-judgmental way, you may find that they actually arise less often.
 
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