I realize this is a highly inflammatory topic. I had to wait overnight to calm down enough to reply without being angry. Do not feel obliged to reply immediately if you need to do the same.
mr.guy said:
You don't get to decide what makes life "better".
Which is better: for a person to feed his or her addiction, or for that person to lack the opportunity?
Almost everyone in the country would say the latter is better. I'm informing them how to accomplish that
while still helping the homeless.
mr.guy said:
Sure, i know when i get stressed, all i can think about is how much easier life would be if i could freeze and starve on the street; i guess that would just be indulgent of me.
Some basic biology of alcohol:
Alcohol causes blood vessels to rush to the surface of the skin. This is why you feel warmer when you drink alcohol. This process causes you to lose body heat faster, which makes you more vulnerable to hypothermia. Since you feel warmer, you're also less likely to seek adequate protection from the cold. To top it off, your judgment might be impaired from the alcohol (moderate to severe hypothermia can also impair your judgment, and the effects might be cumulative).
When people die of hypothermia (freeze to death), alcohol is frequently a contributing factor.
If you want to prevent a person from freezing, drive them to a shelter. Drive them to a hotel and pay for their room. Buy them one of those super-warm sleeping bags.
lilithu said:
Is is "better" for the person to out on the street suffering from withdrawal against his or her will?
To the best of my knowledge, all rehab centers require a person to be sober when he or she enters.
Withdrawal might make someone more willing to enter into rehab. I won't help that person avoid withdrawal.
lilithu said:
Since the right to self-determination is a cornerstone of my values, my respect for the person asking for help necessitates that I respect the person's right to self-determination.
In my opinion, the addict isn't determining their own life. The addiction is making the important decisions. Without the ability to feed their addiction, that person will hopefully
regain the ability to determine their own course.
We both value self-determination. We just disagree about the circumstances that promote it.
standing_alone said:
However, with your gun scenario you are directly giving the person the object in which they will harm themselves. Theres a difference. So, your scenarios arent all that relatable.
In the last scenario, there's a middle man (convenience store manager or dealer) who will
always supply the addiction for money. In
both scenarios, the person with impaired judgment has to make the critical decision. In
both scenarios, someone else provides the means (money or a gun) without knowing how it's going to be used, and with a good reason to expect it will be used for self-destructive purposes.
To me, their not only relatable, their almost identical.
standing_alone said:
Their family members obviously dont care too much about them if they are out on the streets begging for money, then do they?
If you follow this link, you'll see a picture of Greg Mox, an acquaintance of mine from high school ... and a drug addict.
http://www.adoptedprisoners.com/display.cgi?prisoner=michigan_231008
Greg was living at home with his parents. One night he got up, murdered his parents in their bed, and set their house on fire to cover up the murder.
If you have a family member who is a drug addict, your life is difficult and complicated. The decisions you have to make are even more difficult and complicated.
A man named Joe:
In May of 1989, I was traveling with some christian friends through St. Louis. While we were in the park under the arch, a panhandler came up to us and asked us for money for food.
I would have brushed him off, but one of my friends invited him to join us for dinner. The man accepted our offer, and introduced himself as Joe.
Over dinner, Joe mentioned that he'd been sick. When we found out that he'd served in the armed forces, we decided to take him to the local VA hospital.
Upon arriving at the hospital, we discovered that Joe's real name was Demian Manley. The ER doctor had examined Joe recently, and stated that all of Joe's medical problems were alcohol related. Unless Joe cleaned up, there was nothing that could be done. Upon inquiring, we discovered the VA hospital had an alcohol rehab program. Joe would be elgible (and Joe said he wanted to enter it), but he'd have to be sober when he showed up. Joe had a bottle of hard liquor on him when he approached us for money, and he'd been drinking it all evening. Joe was far from sober.
We decided to take Joe to a local shelter. It was late, but we finally found one that would take Joe in. We asked them to tell Joe what happened in the morning, because we were sure that he wouldn't remember. We didn't know whether Joe would try to clean up, but we wanted him to have a chance. After five hours with Joe, we drove on to our destination.
I never expected to find out what happened, but one of my friends followed up. Joe did go the VA hospital the following morning, and he entered the rehab program. Two weeks later, Joe died of alcohol-related problems.
Ignoring the addicts is
easy. Giving money to the addicts is
easy. Genuinely helping a person is
hard work.
17 years ago I discovered that there was
a better way to deal with people like Joe.