Old thread but I'll answer anyway. Most people tend to show love the way they feel loved. One of the best books I've ever read was "The 5 Love Languages". My husband and I read it together and it just kind of clicked. I realized that part of my difficulty in not feeling 'loved enough' was that I wasn't being loved in the way I 'needed' to be loved. I show love by 'acts of service' because that's how I feel loved. My husband shows love by physical affection (loves holding hands, just sitting next to me rubbing my feet while we read, lightly brushing against me when we do dishes, etc.). Once we realized this, we made some changes in our lives (and continue to do so). I'm not a touchy/feely kind of person so I had to make an effort to not pull away when he took my hand while walking or in the car. He makes the bed every morning (he's last out) because he knows I like getting into a made bed every night. He couldn't care less. We do other things, but you get the gist.
I still continue the 'acts of service' because that's how I love him...but I also make sure to include the physical affection that he needs to feel loved.
