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I think the point is to focus on the now since such things as death and suffering will happen in the now and that is when we must deal with them.
update: My strategy worked for a while, but recently it hasn't been helping. These very disturbing events are intense. I do not simply think about my family crying to me hysterically, but the thought is so extreme I can feel it emotionally. It's been showing up more and more lately and is keeping me unfocused, up at night, unejoy of life. I just can't stop seeing their hurt from the loss of me in these thoughts, it's really hard. Me laying dead on my bed and someone really close comes to wake me up to find out I'm gone. That is pretty much the most common way it works out in my head.
I don't know what to do, I don't really want to see a doctor because I'm not exactly sure if it'd help end or fade these thoughts unless they put me on meds which I too do not want. I can't open up about it to my loved ones for obvious reasons.. I'm afraid to die before my loved ones because I can just see it hitting hard. But I'm afraid to outlive my loved ones because of the fact of never seeing them again before I can even say goodbye. And I have pretty much screwed myself over dropping out of school, getting plenty of fines, and other things that tend to put me as the opposite of what they wish I would be, but there is no motivation. Sure, there is intense guilt, but still not motivated.
Not saying I want everyone to hate me, but I do think this whole situation would be easier if there were no strong social bonds. Or better yet, if I never was given life to I would not have to die. I actually FEEL the overwhelming sadness, and I actually COMPREHEND the fact I will be under the ground that at one point I will have to experience death. I look around me and a deep thought I can't control makes me remember all of this stuff will only exist in memories up to the day I die, that typing on this thread is absolutely pointless, so is learning new things, writing books, physical shape... etc. it matters now but at the end I will just think back and remember. I will look at something nearby and imagine the reality that all of these things are inside the mind of what will be a carcass. And now that I'm alive I have no way out except death, and it wasn't my choice to be born. Not to sound emo... But I do have happy moments, but lately this thought has been buzzing in me so it ruins them.
Typing it out pretty much helped I guess, venting.
I can't open up about it to my loved ones for obvious reasons..
I'm afraid to die before my loved ones because I can just see it hitting hard. But I'm afraid to outlive my loved ones because of the fact of never seeing them again before I can even say goodbye. And I have pretty much screwed myself over dropping out of school, getting plenty of fines, and other things that tend to put me as the opposite of what they wish I would be, but there is no motivation.
Sure, there is intense guilt, but still not motivated.
But I do have happy moments, but lately this thought has been buzzing in me so it ruins them.
I keep getting thoughts about loved ones dying. None are dying, but sometimes my mind will wander and I start to think that death is inevitable, that some day I will see my close ones die and that's really hard to consider. I also consider that I too will eventually die, so what difference does it make WHEN I die? (NOTE: Not Suicidal!)
I want to just end it to avoid seeing loved ones dying, but I also don't feel comfortable knowing that in doing so my loved ones will be crying which I also don't want.
I feel like it's all a curse. I didn't choose to exist, and now that I exist I have to face the inevitable.
I can't stand the thought of seeing loved ones die. Especially since I am sort of a djck sometimes to them because I have an easy temper and an hour later I will feel really bad,
Then there are thoughts that everyone around me (besides for family loved ones of course) is just using me. I'm humble in real life because I'm afraid to come off as narcissistic, but on the inside I'm extremely egotistical and seek recognition, seek rewards for what I do, and for all of the good i've done reality is in depth with me but I'll never let it know that because I'm afraid of being viewed as selfish which deep down inside of me I am.
I've tried many methods and asked people plenty of times and took reasonable advice but my mind really likes to wander unless it is focused on something. When it wanders, no matter how hard I try not to, I can't stop it from walking into these ugly, depressing thoughts. Sad thing is, I also cannot keep myself focused for very long, because if I do I will quit after too long, being really impatient. So impatient but need to be focused. Selfish but humble. It's so contradicting.