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Religion vs Spouse

chinu

chinu

chinu
Treks said:
Hello

Do you and your spouse/partner/significant other disagree about your religion, or parts of it?
Are there elements of your religion that your spouse disagrees with, or doesn't like?
Does your religion require you to do certain things or wear/not wear certain things which your spose doesn't like?
How does that make you feel?
Do you feel your spouse should take precedence, or your religion?
Do your answers change if you had partnered with your spouse before you converted to your religion?
And anything else you'd like to say about any conflict between your spouse and your religion.
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My religion teaches that

If your Spouse is agreed with you in all the circumstances of life, its just because of your good-actions that you performed in your previous births. And If your Spouse isn't agreed, its just because of your bad-actions that you performed in you previous births.

Now, as there's no way to escape paying back the deeds, thus there's no need to CRY or LAUGH, just focus on the goal of your life and pay back all the deeds like a gentleman. And Salvation/Moksha is the real goal of life according to my religion.

Neither will remain a bamboo, nor will sing a flute, thereafter.
 
Aupmanyav

Aupmanyav

Be your own guru
Treks said:
Are there elements of your religion that your spouse disagrees with, or doesn't like?
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On, the beard and the mustache, Treks? :) In my case, I am an atheist and she is a theist, though we are both Hindus. We carry along fine. I pretend.
Treks said:
Husband doesn't want contact with wife while she's menstruating, wife wants a hug.
Wife wants to be skyclad during mixed gender rituals, husband doesn't want her to.
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What is wrong with a hug? Oh, mixed gender rituals. Are you not sky-clad at that time? :)
 
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chinu

chinu

chinu
Aupmanyav said:
On, the beard and the mustache, Treks? :) In my case, I am an atheist and she is a theist, though we are both Hindus. We carry along fine. I pretend.
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There was one big devotee who said; One should give divorce to his/her spouse and get marry with God.

Hope if you like ;)
 
technomage

technomage

Finding my own way
I don't really see a conflict.

My wife had, for a while, considered converting to Islam. I'm Neopagan. Had she chosen to do so (and we discussed this), the very first thing I would have done is removed all pork and pork products from the house. I wold not have thought twice about it--she is worthy of that kind of respect, and I love her. How could I do anything else?
 
Aupmanyav

Aupmanyav

Be your own guru
Late. I have a 18 year old grand daughter and a 12 year old grandson. How will it affect them? The woman has been with me for 47 years through thick and thin. Is there nothing such as loyalty? What is more important at my age? :)

Moreover, Indira Gandhi's yoga guru, Dhirendra Brahmachari, said, "There is no greater poison for an old man that a young wife". Another proverb says "A wife whio has been with you for long and an old shoe are the most comfortable to live with". Tomorrow if I fall ill, this woman would not think of anything else but my welfare. Would the other one would ever do that? I don't buy the idea.
 
HexBomb

HexBomb

Member
Bouncing in to put my two cents in, with a similar example, albeit not religious, but religious parallels could be drawn, especially I think, with Hinduism and Judaism.

My Da married my Mum knowing she was Romani. He knew he was in for her keeping house her way, following her purity laws and because she was his soul mate, he wasn't unhappy with it. I think, if a partner truly cares about the other person, then things like that won't be an issue. You can find ways to work around the important bits, whether it's dietary restrictions, hygiene laws, or hair coverings. That doesn't mean always give in, it means talk it out and find feasible solutions for everyone. Sometimes that means letting one eat take out while the other eats homemade, or letting your wife do the laundry and you do the floors instead. People who want to can make everything work.
 
chinu

chinu

chinu
Aupmanyav said:
Late. I have a 18 year old grand daughter and a 12 year old grandson. How will it affect them? The woman has been with me for 47 years through thick and thin. Is there nothing such as loyalty? What is more important at my age? :)

Moreover, Indira Gandhi's yoga guru, Dhirendra Brahmachari, said, "There is no greater poison for an old man that a young wife". Another proverb says "A wife whio has been with you for long and an old shoe are the most comfortable to live with". Tomorrow if I fall ill, this woman would not think of anything else but my welfare. Would the other one would ever do that? I don't buy the idea.
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So, you love your family and your family loves you. Touch Wood!
Sorry, to give you the example of that devotee, Aupmanyav.

Actually, that devotee was very much crazy for God and doesn't want to share his love with anybody other than God.

But as you have responsibilities towards your family and you also love your family very much, Thus.. getting instant rid out of all these false attachments can put you in a big problem.

In your case you can lower down your attachments with this world by day to day practice so that end of the life you could get an easy death. As much as one is attached with the world as much is the trouble during death time, Imo. :)
 
Nakosis

Nakosis

Non-Binary Physicalist
Premium Member
I see religion and belief as a personal thing. No need for me to inflict my religious beliefs on her any more then she needs to inflict her's on me.

My kids hold a variety of beliefs. The only important thing for me is that they are able to find some degree of happiness in their lives.

Silly idea IMO that some groups have that everyone needs to believe the same as them.
 
Aupmanyav

Aupmanyav

Be your own guru
chinu said:
Thus.. getting instant rid out of all these false attachments can put you in a big problem.

In your case you can lower down your attachments with this world by day to day practice so that end of the life you could get an easy death. As much as one is attached with the world as much is the trouble during death time, Imo. :)
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I have no attachments, I have duties to fulfill (dharma). :D
 
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