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My best friend has 2 girlfriends

lunakilo

lunakilo

Well-Known Member
My best friend, who is a boy, but not my boyfriend, has 2 girlfriends.

I find this very strange, and don't understand how that could possible work.

Both girls have known about each other from the beginning, but they met for the first time about a month ago. They are not a triangle, they are just two girls who happen to have the same boyfriend.

Regardless of how strange I think this is, I don't see anything morally wrong with this since everybody involved are ok with it.

What do you think?
 
blackout

blackout

Violet.
If that's their agreement,
what of it?

I personally don't find the idea strange at all though.

There is nothing any more innately immoral about a Poly Lifestyle,
than a Monogamous one.
Good relationships in general
require honesty, good, open communication, and sufficient agreement.

It's just something our society is not (yet) generally used to.
 
ninerbuff

ninerbuff

godless wonder
lunakilo said:
My best friend, who is a boy, but not my boyfriend, has 2 girlfriends.

I find this very strange, and don't understand how that could possible work.

Both girls have known about each other from the beginning, but they met for the first time about a month ago. They are not a triangle, they are just two girls who happen to have the same boyfriend.

Regardless of how strange I think this is, I don't see anything morally wrong with this since everybody involved are ok with it.

What do you think?
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Amateur. When I was in my 20's I had 4. And they all knew.....a couple even got intimate with each other on the side. Ah, the good old days.
 
MaddLlama

MaddLlama

Obstructor of justice
Personally, I see polyamory as being completely natural for humans. Humans are opportunistic animals, so having more than one significant other is totally normal. Or, rather, should be seen that way.
 
Madhuri

Madhuri

RF Goddess
Staff member
Premium Member
It's fine if everyone agrees. It isn't cheating. It's weird because it isn't the cultural norm. That's all.
 
A

*Anne*

Bliss Ninny
It's not for me, but if it works for someone else, so be it.

There was a time when I had an...open dating policy (for lack of a better term). A man didn't need to commit to me and was welcomed to date other girls. In fact, I encouraged it. I wasn't sleeping with any of them, so I didn't feel at risk in any way.

Oddly enough, most guys didn't like the idea. A couple even refused, insisting on exclusivity or nothing. That surprised me, given how young we were. I figured dudes in their 20s would love this arrangement.
 
MysticSang'ha

MysticSang'ha

Big Squishy Hugger
Premium Member
lunakilo said:
My best friend, who is a boy, but not my boyfriend, has 2 girlfriends.

I find this very strange, and don't understand how that could possible work.

Both girls have known about each other from the beginning, but they met for the first time about a month ago. They are not a triangle, they are just two girls who happen to have the same boyfriend.

Regardless of how strange I think this is, I don't see anything morally wrong with this since everybody involved are ok with it.

What do you think?
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Had my fair share of these arrangments where I dated several people at once. Some worked beautifully. Some turned sour. And some men and women discovered they wanted monogamy through the experience.

I agree with Madhuri. Monogamy is the cultural norm, which is why this might seem strange.
 
lunakilo

lunakilo

Well-Known Member
*Anne* said:
It's not for me, but if it works for someone else, so be it.

There was a time when I had an...open dating policy (for lack of a better term). A man didn't need to commit to me and was welcomed to date other girls. In fact, I encouraged it. I wasn't sleeping with any of them, so I didn't feel at risk in any way.

Oddly enough, most guys didn't like the idea. A couple even refused, insisting on exclusivity or nothing. That surprised me, given how young we were. I figured dudes in their 20s would love this arrangement.
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Maybe they would have thought it all right if they could have all the girls they wanted, but had exclusive rights to you ;)
 
Magic Man

Magic Man

Reaper of Conversation
lunakilo said:
My best friend, who is a boy, but not my boyfriend, has 2 girlfriends.

I find this very strange, and don't understand how that could possible work.

Both girls have known about each other from the beginning, but they met for the first time about a month ago. They are not a triangle, they are just two girls who happen to have the same boyfriend.

Regardless of how strange I think this is, I don't see anything morally wrong with this since everybody involved are ok with it.

What do you think?
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I think it's a little weird that it's just two separate relationships, but there's nothing wrong with it. If that's what they want, good for them.
 
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