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Has your life turned out the way you planned?
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Shadow Wolf
Certified People sTabber
No. I was hoping to have a better job, live at an aparntment, and a few other things.
Fluffy
A fool
I haven't got anything planned. So I guess I won't be disappointed no matter what happens.
I can see my life taking 2 routes, however. One of mutual dependancy with another who I wish to spend my entire life with and raise a family and one of total independancy with no ties and lots of travelling. Not sure which one I would prefer, each is slightly scary but at the same time very attractive to me.
I can see my life taking 2 routes, however. One of mutual dependancy with another who I wish to spend my entire life with and raise a family and one of total independancy with no ties and lots of travelling. Not sure which one I would prefer, each is slightly scary but at the same time very attractive to me.
Not in the slightest!
I wanted a good job, that would earn me enough money to allow my wife never to have to work - so that she could persue whatever hobby, or form of further education that she might like. Another reason was so that she could devote her time fully to bringing up our children - that was not something that I demanded of her - it was our mutual wish (before the equality gang get their hatchets out
).
As it turned out, I had a lousy job, many aspects of which I saw as being immoral (working in a Bank).
Luckily, I managed to stay well clear of the lending - purely because I was so useful in other areas.
I only managed a 24 year career, before both my physical and mental health made it impossible to carry on. I was extremely lucky to be given retirement on medical grounds, with a pension.
The strange thing is that Marie never felt the need to look for further education - but it is almost as if the wish that I had granted to her has now been given to me!
I wanted a good job, that would earn me enough money to allow my wife never to have to work - so that she could persue whatever hobby, or form of further education that she might like. Another reason was so that she could devote her time fully to bringing up our children - that was not something that I demanded of her - it was our mutual wish (before the equality gang get their hatchets out
).As it turned out, I had a lousy job, many aspects of which I saw as being immoral (working in a Bank).
Luckily, I managed to stay well clear of the lending - purely because I was so useful in other areas.
I only managed a 24 year career, before both my physical and mental health made it impossible to carry on. I was extremely lucky to be given retirement on medical grounds, with a pension.
The strange thing is that Marie never felt the need to look for further education - but it is almost as if the wish that I had granted to her has now been given to me!
Stormygale
Member
When I was in high school, I thought by the time I turned 30 I would be a published author living on a beach somewhere soaking up a higher middle class lifestyle. Some of that is close, I feel, but, damn, it sure is taking along time to totally come my way!!
Pussyfoot Mouse
Super Mom
I must admit, my life is even better than I had planned it. All I wanted was to be a secretary and have two kids and a husband.
I have become an Insurance Representative, I have three beautiful healthy children, and a husband who loves me and will do everything he can for me.
I'd have to say, I sure did good!:woohoo:
I have become an Insurance Representative, I have three beautiful healthy children, and a husband who loves me and will do everything he can for me.
I'd have to say, I sure did good!:woohoo:
ayani
member
no, it hasn't. but that's ok, as i never really had any "plan" to begin with!
there have been alot of surprizes and changes, some good, some bad, some mixed blessings. i've gotten to meet troves of awesome, kind, and unique people, hold various jobs of sundry surreality, live in a bunch of places, and eat lots of potatoes.
can't ask for much else so far!
there have been alot of surprizes and changes, some good, some bad, some mixed blessings. i've gotten to meet troves of awesome, kind, and unique people, hold various jobs of sundry surreality, live in a bunch of places, and eat lots of potatoes.
can't ask for much else so far!
Terrywoodenpic
Oldest Heretic
I never made plans people didn't in my day. But things worked out OK.
These days you must have a plan, things are much more cut and dried as far as the routes you must take etc.
Terry
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Amen! Truly I say to you: Gather in my name. I am with you.
These days you must have a plan, things are much more cut and dried as far as the routes you must take etc.
Terry
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Amen! Truly I say to you: Gather in my name. I am with you.
ayani
member
i agree with that observation. my family's been fretting that i "don't have a plan" for years now...Terrywoodenpic said:
"waht do you want to do? where will you live? how will you make money?"
my brain just doesn't work that way! i like to see how things will turn out along the way and take advantage of sundry weird opportunities. isn't that ok, too?
EnhancedSpirit
High Priestess
Wow, I'd have to say No. I had planned on marrying my high school sweetheart and living happily ever after. I did marry my high school sweetheart, but my happiness only lasted for 9 years.
I am single with two kids and two "baby daddys".:banghead3
I never wanted to be alone. However, that was obviously something I had to learn to get over. After Andrew's dad left, I made an oath not to become involved with anyone else until I could go to bed without crying myself to sleep. It took me three years to stop crying myself to sleep. Then I met Maya's dad, and well, that just turned out to be all wrong. We tried to make a relationship out of a 'logical' decision that was not based on any feelings, other than, why not, maybe love with come with time, but love never came.
That's what I didn't get. I did, however become an auther and writer, an ordained minister, and reiki practition, all of which I would have never imagined myself doing. I also get along with all my ex's. And my family is bigger than I could have ever dreamed of. Andrew has brothers and sisters in two states. And I have two other moms to help me raise my kids. (I am a firm believer in the village theory).
My life is nothing like I imagined, however, I did get everything I asked for. I have found that when what you ask for does not fit your destiny it will never work out, no matter how hard you try to make it successful. So I cannot say that I regret any of it, for it is through my failures that I ended up where I am right now. There is a country song that talks about this:
I am single with two kids and two "baby daddys".:banghead3
I never wanted to be alone. However, that was obviously something I had to learn to get over. After Andrew's dad left, I made an oath not to become involved with anyone else until I could go to bed without crying myself to sleep. It took me three years to stop crying myself to sleep. Then I met Maya's dad, and well, that just turned out to be all wrong. We tried to make a relationship out of a 'logical' decision that was not based on any feelings, other than, why not, maybe love with come with time, but love never came.
That's what I didn't get. I did, however become an auther and writer, an ordained minister, and reiki practition, all of which I would have never imagined myself doing. I also get along with all my ex's. And my family is bigger than I could have ever dreamed of. Andrew has brothers and sisters in two states. And I have two other moms to help me raise my kids. (I am a firm believer in the village theory).
My life is nothing like I imagined, however, I did get everything I asked for. I have found that when what you ask for does not fit your destiny it will never work out, no matter how hard you try to make it successful. So I cannot say that I regret any of it, for it is through my failures that I ended up where I am right now. There is a country song that talks about this:
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