Father Heathen
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agreed. tho many wouldnt see it that way. but thats why we have herpes.
Even without the risk of disease and pregnancy, I would question whether or not promiscuity is emotionally healthy.
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agreed. tho many wouldnt see it that way. but thats why we have herpes.
Even without the risk of disease and pregnancy, I would question whether or not promiscuity is emotionally healthy.
I wanted to chime in on this too. I think at some point in a humans life they feel some sort of desire to have a "multiple partner experience," I guess you could say. I think that with different people the severity of it's pull and reasons behind it are different though. For some the desire is so weak it might as well not be there, and others have a much stronger pull.What interests me is that you assume that all people have a natural instinct to have sex with multiple partners. You see the doctrine of monogamy as damaging to women--a kind of oppression.
I wonder how many men (specifically teenagers and young men) are interested in sexual monogamy but feel pressure to have multiple partners. After all, "free love" has died down a bit since the 60s, but our cultural sexual permissiveness hasn't, much.
So if you're just hooking up with some guy/gal, I mean, you might as well just be masturbating.
If the sex isn't meaningful emotionally, I think it's inescapably degrading. It's using a body for self-satisfaction, and even if it's mutual self-satisfaction, it DEGRADES both the experience of sex AND the status of the partner(s) to a purely physical one. It just ignores the fact that there's more to us than our bodies and our bodies' desires.
That's why promiscuity isn't ideal. It's not the end of the world, but it doesn't fulfill the potential.
To each his own. Personally, I prefer mutual monogamy. When I was single, I went through a promiscuous stage which was fun for a little while, but then it began to feel very empty and lonely. It's hard to describe - but I didn't feel cherished or protected or honored and I really like those feelings to be part of my intimate relationships. In my monogamous marriage (and our immediately monogamous relationship leading up to marriage), I have found the trade - instant gratification for honor and faithfulness- to be what I much prefer.
Not to mention the sheer DRAMA of extended promiscuity - the risk of STDs, pregnancy, or (the most common risk in my opinion) the emotional entanglement involving third parties, or even the two involved who thought this would be just a little fun for a little while.
I also don't like the damage to one's reputation. If your promiscuity becomes well known, you can try to kid yourself or say you don't care - and maybe you don't - but your reputation WILL take some bad knocks.
I like the person I have sex with to know that it's not casual to me - that if I am going to have sex with them, it's special, because I'm not having sex with anyone else. And it's based on trust, respect, and honor. I have yet to meet a man who truly would not care if the woman he loved slept with someone else, though I'm sure they're out there (takes all types). Personally, I'm not interested in having an intimate relationship with someone who doesn't care who I share my body with.
I absolutely adore and cherish every inch of my husband's body. I cannot IMAGINE sharing him with someone else. I simply wouldn't do so.
I enjoy being married and being monogamous. I much prefer it to promiscuous singlehood. And I was never able to really pull off the Best Friend with Benefits thing myself.
I like my sex to be served up with passionate love, trust, respect, and monogamy.
And the part about not being able to "describe it"..We are called "jealous" and insecure" for beign "botherered or "caring " if our husband want to "spread their love" with other women..Because we are "insecure"..
Um no ..Im not insecure..but I am righfullly jealous..I dont want to "share" him..And why should I and if I dont why is that a bad thing"?/..
And I also agree on your point it would quite frankly disturb me if my husband didnt care if I slept with other people..
If he and I "agreed " that both of us could have sex with someone else whenever we pleased with some "safety nets in place"..Everything special about us being that way together would vanish..It would just be carnal.And it would be carnal with the other dudes because who in the hell has time! ..
I don't know why, but I find the idea of jumping into bed with complete strangers on a whim a little disturbing. It gives the impression that a person is "easy".
What's wrong with being "easy"?
i know exactly why he thinks that.
Right. It's their life, their body, their choice. I'm all for personal freedom, and personal responsibility. however I do find it hard to respect people if they don't respect themselves.
This I agree and disagree with you on, from my personal experiences. I see your perspective and another. See, my cuddle-buddies so I called them, were truly good friends. We were physically attracted to each other and to each others personalities, but due to other elements in our lives, we BOTH decided we were not relationship-compatible. I told you guys I am brutally honest about myself... lol. It was a mutual decision to not get into relationship, but we were still attracted to each other on a few levels. It was not degrading to either of us at all. We were good friends with benefits. There was no jealousy, no clinginess, we hung out and had fun and sometimes tackled each other and it was whatever. If we were with other people we were interested in, it was cool, we could all still hang out and there were NO problems. It was like a sort of "friendshio-love, adn that was all.
Only if my bf cheated on me behind my back, is when I think something would be lost. If we settled on introducing this new thing into our relationship to provide... I guess you could say, an outside stimulus, being with each other wouldn't lose any of it's special quality, because what we were doing we would be doing together in open dialog. When dialog is not open, or cut off, that is when things go bad I think.
ok i hope there haven't been any recent threads on promiscuity, but i've been thinking about it for a while.
im assuming the majority of you here believe in sexual exclusivity, that having sexual relations with one specific person for life is the ideal setting. i have heard the arguments that promiscuity is wrong because it is irresponsibly indulging in your desires, and that it leads to treating women like objects rather than people.
my view is that monogamy is unnecessary and is often taught to women as the way she is suppose to live her sex life. sexual monogamy is a way to have women ignore their instincts and those instincts are often condemned as perverse without any justifcation.
so, i would like to know, what are your arguments for sexual monogamy, or against promiscuity?
I was always much happier when I was single and hooking up with friends (and friends of friends) once in a while with no strings attached than I was when I got stuck in a monogamous relationship that wasn't right for me in order to try to make sex "legit".