Changing Religion over love???

no, i wouldn't.

for me, i have to believe something because i believe it, not because someone i love beleives it, and wants me to, as well.

religion is (ideally) more than just performing certain ceremonies, observing holidays, or lebeling yourself as ____. it informs how you approach life, view self and others, relate to the universe, and what you hope in. that's not something i would want to try to change just for someone else.

ayani said:

no, i wouldn't.

for me, i have to believe something because i believe it, not because someone i love beleives it, and wants me to, as well.

religion is (ideally) more than just performing certain ceremonies, observing holidays, or lebeling yourself as ____. it informs how you approach life, view self and others, relate to the universe, and what you hope in. that's not something i would want to try to change just for someone else.

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Well said, I think this is the best answer I read yet.



The main reason I asked this question was b/c I was curious how love could effect religion. In my eyes it seems that changing your religion for a loved one is just like being born into a religion. Unless that is you really do agree with it.

Stevie, i agree.

i was also in this situation a couple years back. i loved a man very much and it was clear that i could not be with him unless my beliefs and his beliefs were equal. it would have been so easy to just profess his faith and "convert" to his religion, but i was not about to give up on a religion i felt to be absolutely true, nor on my worldview or beliefs without knowing or believing personally that this would be the right thing to do.

i wanted proof, and wanted to believe personally if i was going to believe at all, and that is what he wanted, too. others encouraged him to marry me and then try to convert me later, and i suggested an inter-faith marriage, but he saw that these were horrible ideas in our case, and would not work. you can not convert someone, and our marriage would have been very difficult and stressful.

Wait so you didn't get married b/c of it?

If the religion of the other person in the relationship was really all that important then we would be searching for people who think like we do. Love is blind, it knows no age nor religion. Love just happens. It's a matter of personal choice. For me personally, I don't see it as important....of course I don't have a religion and my boyfriend is an athiest...which makes for some interesting conversations. I guess what I'm saying is what everyone else is saying. Love should be more about how you feel about the person and not how you feel about their religion.