Ceridwen018
Well-Known Member
The other day, Spinkles was telling me about a Christian radio show that he had been listening to, and it really got me thinking.
On the show, the man speaking was explaining the relationship between Christian husbands and wives. He said that many women were under the misconception that under the Bible's teachings, they were obligated to be completely submissive to their husbands at all times. The man on the show clarified that this was not so: If a woman was being abused by her husband, being asked to do something wrong, etc., that she should by all means refuse, (however, she still wouldn't be allowed to get a divorce, I assume).
The man on the show went on to explain just what the Bible means when it calls for women to be submissive to their husbands. He made an analogy about cars on a highway. When a car is trying to merge on the highway, and another car is in the merging lane, one of the cars is going to have to yield to the other or there will be a crash. Those are the times, said the man, when a woman should be submissive to her husband--when there's going to be a crash.
He then made another analogy. He siad that there can only be one head to a household, because something with two heads is a monster. If a couple tries to run their household jointly, it will become a monster of a situation.
Now, having said all of that, this is where I disagree: I do not think that women should be expected to "yield" to their husbands whenever there is a potential conflict. I think, (having never myself been married, granted), that a marriage is about compromise, and both partners should be expected to yeild to the other from time to time. Second, I do not think that a happy home must be limited to "one head". Of course, I can see how that could make things easier, but I don't see how it could make anyone happier. If a couple is made up of mature adults, they should be able to handle different situations together and work out problems together, should they not?
So then, what are your views on this issue, which I understand can be very sensitive at times. Are there Christian men and women who disagree with this as I do? Any who agree with it? Non-Christian replies are welcome as well, of course.
On the show, the man speaking was explaining the relationship between Christian husbands and wives. He said that many women were under the misconception that under the Bible's teachings, they were obligated to be completely submissive to their husbands at all times. The man on the show clarified that this was not so: If a woman was being abused by her husband, being asked to do something wrong, etc., that she should by all means refuse, (however, she still wouldn't be allowed to get a divorce, I assume).
The man on the show went on to explain just what the Bible means when it calls for women to be submissive to their husbands. He made an analogy about cars on a highway. When a car is trying to merge on the highway, and another car is in the merging lane, one of the cars is going to have to yield to the other or there will be a crash. Those are the times, said the man, when a woman should be submissive to her husband--when there's going to be a crash.
He then made another analogy. He siad that there can only be one head to a household, because something with two heads is a monster. If a couple tries to run their household jointly, it will become a monster of a situation.
Now, having said all of that, this is where I disagree: I do not think that women should be expected to "yield" to their husbands whenever there is a potential conflict. I think, (having never myself been married, granted), that a marriage is about compromise, and both partners should be expected to yeild to the other from time to time. Second, I do not think that a happy home must be limited to "one head". Of course, I can see how that could make things easier, but I don't see how it could make anyone happier. If a couple is made up of mature adults, they should be able to handle different situations together and work out problems together, should they not?
So then, what are your views on this issue, which I understand can be very sensitive at times. Are there Christian men and women who disagree with this as I do? Any who agree with it? Non-Christian replies are welcome as well, of course.