Can't I just stop? (masturbating)

3.14 said:

i think i found your problem,
for someone your age you should maximum only mastrubate about 5 times a week your currently doing 3 times that wich your body just isn't able to handle properly



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Ok, thanks... looks like I'm just going to have to stop masturbating... of course, how to do that is the main point of this thread, and the question most people are avoiding...

I think if you rubbed any part of your body that often and for that long it would start to get sore and chapped.Even if you poured cooking oil over it the entire time.

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That's probably it, I think...

You have reported headaches after masturbating..pain during masturbation and orgasm..now you are saying you have sores on your penis that you 'randomly" noticed that are on the verge of being open sores that you dont believe are related to masturbating.

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I've repeatedly said that orgasm itself is NOT painful, the pain is there when I start masturbating, and when I end it, sometimes with a temporary headache in between (I found that they usually go away if I stop for a few seconds). In fact, I don't seem to be able to feel pain during and shortly before orgasm, which is probably why I end up hurting myself.

As well as a general despise towards even having sexual urges in the first place.

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Well, they have caused just about every problem I've had in my life. Life would be so much easier if it was ok not to have a girlfriend...

You are in college right? Please don't tell me they dont have a clinic there or a counselors office to go to for help with qualified personel to guide you with any medical problems or emotional issues going on.

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If they have one, I don't know where it would be or how to find out. "Qualified" people are generally terrible sources of emotional help anyway. As for the medical issues, there's nothing that can be cured, I just need to figure out when to masturbate and when to avoid it.

You have been given much wisdom and advice here and you keep coming back with a "but" this and a "but " that response.

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The only responses that I have responded with a "but this" and "but that" are the people who are saying "sexual desires are good" (NO, they are not, they are only good when they can be fulfilled), "go to a doctor" (I don't know any), and the ones who tell me things about myself that I know aren't true. And that's pretty much what most people have been telling me. What I want to know is how to make the urges go away. TheKnight's advice on trying prayer, for example, was helpful and on-topic, which is why I didn't respond to it.


EDIT: Anyways, I've confirmed that the pain is from me masturbating too much. I tried this morning (or maybe it was last night), and it didn't hurt at all (well, I had to pause a couple times to make the headaches go away, but they're probably natural, and always temporary unless I try to keep going before they go away). The sores were still there, but oddly enough, they didn't hurt . They hurt a little when I tried doing it again a few hours later, so I think the pain's just coming from masturbating too much. 3.14's link seems to agree with me on this.

TheAmazingLoser said:

That's probably it, I think...I've repeatedly said that orgasm itself is NOT painful, the pain is there when I start masturbating, and when I end it, sometimes with a temporary headache in between (I found that they usually go away if I stop for a few seconds). In fact, I don't seem to be able to feel pain during and shortly before orgasm, which is probably why I end up hurting myself.Well, they have caused just about every problem I've had in my life. Life would be so much easier if it was ok not to have a girlfriend...If they have one, I don't know where it would be or how to find out. "Qualified" people are generally terrible sources of emotional help anyway. As for the medical issues, there's nothing that can be cured, I just need to figure out when to masturbate and when to avoid it.The only responses that I have responded with a "but this" and "but that" are the people who are saying "sexual desires are good" (NO, they are not, they are only good when they can be fulfilled), "go to a doctor" (I don't know any), and the ones who tell me things about myself that I know aren't true. And that's pretty much what most people have been telling me. What I want to know is how to make the urges go away. TheKnight's advice on trying prayer, for example, was helpful and on-topic, which is why I didn't respond to it.


EDIT: Anyways, I've confirmed that the pain is from me masturbating too much. I tried this morning (or maybe it was last night), and it didn't hurt at all (well, I had to pause a couple times to make the headaches go away, but they're probably natural, and always temporary unless I try to keep going before they go away). The sores were still there, but oddly enough, they didn't hurt . They hurt a little when I tried doing it again a few hours later, so I think the pain's just coming from masturbating too much. 3.14's link seems to agree with me on this.

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Well its a good thing Americas educational system sucks so much and ya'lls is superior.

Then you can rely on random strangers including poorly educated "American's" how to teach such basics to you superiors as to how to masturbate without rubbing sores on your own body.And things like look around your college campus for a sign on a door that says "clinic" or "counselors".

Im glad you "figured out" the sores.

And you keep saying no one wants or is avoiding the question how to stop maturbating..

Im not avoiding it.Masturbation is VOLUNTARY.Just dont masturbate.Thats how you avoid it..

Sexual urges..Get CHEMICALLY castrated.(I already answered that).Another one Im "not avoiding".

But I will go with Knights advice too..pray about it.

Love

Dallas

Well its a good thing Americas educational system sucks so much and ya'lls is superior.Then you can rely on random strangers including poorly educated "American's" how to teach such basics to you superiors as to how to masturbate without rubbing sores on your own body.And things like look around your college campus for a sign on a door that says "clinic" or "counselors".

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I'm not sure what you're trying to say, but I take it you're making fun of me. Are you?

Im not avoiding it.Masturbation is VOLUNTARY.Just dont masturbate.Thats how you avoid it..

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Wait, you mean it's ok to do that? Ok, thanks... I was worried that if I stopped, the sexual urges would just keep getting stronger until I did it...


Well, I think we've about worked out the problems. I'll try resisting the urge to masturbate for a few days or however long I can and see if anything happens. Thanks guys.

Look..

YOu have been TORTURED physically and emotinally by the "urge to have sex"..YOU have described masturbation as painful dude including headaches(during after you go back and forth on that one I have been paying attention)...the WHOLE maturbation experience not ONE have you described as pleasurable to the POINT you wish you had no sexual urge at all.Now you have open blisters and sores on your penis which you clearly said were "random".

Masturbation is MORE natural and "flowing" than having sex .Its not about headaches and bleeding sores(and PAIN) and wishing sex didnt exist..INFANTS do it.Thats the physical.

YOu need a LOT of help .

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Dallas

I'm not sure what you're trying to say, but I take it you're making fun of me. Are you?

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No..you have made fun of the American educational system.Clearly you have pointed out that it is "lacking" compared to yours..

And you cant figure out how to masturbate or if on your COLLEGE campus they have clinics or counselors because "no one told you".

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Dallas

Yes, I've said this several times across several threads. The American education system is pathetic like that. It's not because I'm smart, it's because the standards are so dumb that any decently intelligent kid can walk right into college without much of a problem. Heck, college is even easier than high school so far, in terms of the amount of effort needed for homework and classes (you have to study a bit before exams but that's about it for most classes).

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Your "educational" system cant seem to teach what our children dont even have to have 50 adults talking to them about every day all day long ...What comes natural to an ape you cant figure out.

And to be honest with you I think you can figure it out..You are just trying to get attention.At 16 if you need this much guidence on how to masturbate you are behind 90% of all 4 year olds.(worldwide).

And you succeeded by talking about HEADACHES (relating to masturbation) PAIN during and AFTER masterbation... that wore off so now its "blisters and sores"...

Then in the middle of all that you are asking PEOPLE how to make sex drive "go away"..and talkign abut how sex is BAD..Sexual URGES are a bad thing.How coudl having sex with a person be a good thing?(Then you used for one David who was a CHEATER)

You need a DOCTOR who can examine you for the "headaches" which you have CLEARLY related to masturbation(and the sores that you were so clueless about and "randomly noticed)..and a PSYCHIATRIST...

ANYONE (not just you) that is that physically injured through masturbating and has your view of having the urges in the first place I would say the same thing.Go to a specialist.

Its nothing against you..you could be anybody.In fact you are.

Then again you could just be happy to talk about how you masturbate 2 times a day and how you got blisters.(and headaches and how painful the whole process is and how you think sexual urges are bad).

IOW YOU arent lookign for "help".

I got your number.

Love

Dallas

No..you have made fun of the American educational system.Clearly you have pointed out that it is "lacking" compared to yours..

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I don't know what made you think I had a different educational system. I live in America, you know, I can just see that the schools here aren't teaching me well.

At 16 if you need this much guidence on how to masturbate you are behind 90% of all 4 year olds.

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4 year olds don't masturbate... they don't feel sexual urges, their testes aren't even producing sperm yet...

You need a DOCTOR who can examine you for the "headaches" which you have CLEARLY related to masturbation(and the sores that you were so clueless about and "randomly noticed)

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I don't know why you need to emphasize the word "clearly" or even point out that the headaches are related to masturbation at all, they obviously are, and I don't know why you feel the need to make fun of me for being "clueless" and for my word choice of "randomly noticed" (and I did randomly notice them, it's not like I finished masturbating one time and saw them there, I just happened to see them without looking for them).

and a PSYCHIATRIST...

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Yeah, you're definitely making fun of me... you really are one of the least helpful people in this entire thread. The others have actually tried giving helpful advice without debating the fact that unsatisfied sexual urges are unpleasant and without making fun of me.

I got your number.

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What the heck is THAT supposed to mean? Are you trying to threaten me by stating that you know my phone number?

TheAmazingLoser said:

Yes, I've said this several times across several threads. The American education system is pathetic like that. It's not because I'm smart, it's because the standards are so dumb that any decently intelligent kid can walk right into college without much of a problem. Heck, college is even easier than high school so far, in terms of the amount of effort needed for homework and classes (you have to study a bit before exams but that's about it for most classes)

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I take back my shock. I realized that you can be 16 and in college. I know people who've done that. Lol.

And it is because our system is pathetic because those people I know (who are my dear friends) aren't necessarily especially intelligent.

.How could the desire for sex possibly be a good thing? Sexual attraction has been the cause of many stupidities committed by man (Samson, David, and Solomon could tell you all about this).

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Sexual attraction was not the cause of those stupidities. Sex was the oil that helped the fire burn, but it wasn't the match that started it. Misuse of sexual desires/functionalities is a result of lack of self-control.

I'm doing it just like the wikipedia article on masturbation said to, I think... I don't even know where the blisters came from, I didn't notice them after a masturbation session, I just randomly saw them one day (I think I was about to masturbate) and ignored them, and I noticed afterwards that they hurt and they were almost to the point of being open sores.

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Wow....why did you start to masturbate in the first place?

You need to seek professional help. Depending on where you are, you may not need you parents to get that help.

Sexual attraction was not the cause of those stupidities. Sex was the oil that helped the fire burn, but it wasn't the match that started it. Misuse of sexual desires/functionalities is a result of lack of self-control.

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We wouldn't need self-control if the urges weren't there.

Wow....why did you start to masturbate in the first place?

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Sometimes I wonder. I probably thought it would be fun, that I wouldn't need to date if I could masturbate. I do remember that I put a lot of thought into it, and it took me several tries acoss the span of weeks to get ejaculation. My first orgasm felt horrible. As I described it in some other thread, it felt very similar to the feeling I got when a girl I knew in high school tried to rip my soul out. It felt sort of like The Evil was trying to take ahold of me. I never wanted to masturbate again. Then about two days later, I found myself thinking about sex and rubbing my genitals against the sheets, and at some point I began hand masturbation. The resulting orgasm from that second time felt much better than the first one, and from there I masturbated almost as often as possible until it started getting painful, then I got myself to slow down, and here I am now.

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We wouldn't need self-control if the urges weren't there.

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The desires themselves are inert. For instance, you cannot blame someone's gluttony on their desire for food. It's a result of lack of self-control.

Sometimes I wonder. I probably thought it would be fun, that I wouldn't need to date if I could masturbate. I do remember that I put a lot of thought into it, and it took me several tries acoss the span of weeks to get ejaculation. My first orgasm felt horrible. As I described it in some other thread, it felt very similar to the feeling I got when a girl I knew in high school tried to rip my soul out. It felt sort of like The Evil was trying to take ahold of me. I never wanted to masturbate again. Then about two days later, I found myself thinking about sex and rubbing my genitals against the sheets, and at some point I began hand masturbation. The resulting orgasm from that second time felt much better than the first one, and from there I masturbated almost as often as possible until it started getting painful, then I got myself to slow down, and here I am now.

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Umm...hmm. What do you think about masturbation? Do you see it as evil?

Umm...hmm. What do you think about masturbation? Do you see it as evil?

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No, I never had any moral problems with masturbation itself. I just dislike pain, and I dislike having urges and desires that I can't satisfy.

The desire for sex itself, however, can sometimes be from The Evil. It is not evil itself, but The Evil will often use sexual desires and confusion to drive me insane and to try and tempt me (although it usually finds that tempting me with sex doesn't work very well, and usually sticks with driving me insane). In most cases where I really like a girl, I later look back on it and find that it was unnatural, that the feelings were engineered by The Evil, and it was those crushes that tended to get me into trouble. The Evil loves to use sexual desires to press it's will, because sexual desires are hardwired in our brains to have priority over cognitive thought, and because sexual desires are usually thought of as "natural" and "good." Of course, not all sexual attraction is from The Evil, but it is wise to be wary.

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No, I never had any moral problems with masturbation itself. I just dislike pain, and I dislike having urges and desires that I can't satisfy.

The desire for sex itself, however, can sometimes be from The Evil. It is not evil itself, but The Evil will often use sexual desires and confusion to drive me insane and to try and tempt me (although it usually finds that tempting me with sex doesn't work very well, and usually sticks with driving me insane). In most cases where I really like a girl, I later look back on it and find that it was unnatural, that the feelings were engineered by The Evil, and it was those crushes that tended to get me into trouble. The Evil loves to use sexual desires to press it's will, because sexual desires are hardwired in our brains to have priority over cognitive thought, and because sexual desires are usually thought of as "natural" and "good." Of course, not all sexual attraction is from The Evil, but it is wise to be wary.

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What is "The Evil"?

What is "The Evil"?

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The Evil is to Satan as the Holy Spirit is to God. Think of it as the "unholy spirit." It's a god in the sense that it derives power from human worship, "worship" being the act of anything evil. The Evil is omnipotent and keeps God busy and away from the world most of the time, and will continue to do so until there are no humans left to give it power (this is why God has been out of the miracle business for some time, and why we can no longer hear him answering our prayers). God will win in the end, of course, but humanity will have to be destroyed in the process, because as long as there are still humans to worship evil, then The Evil is immortal (this is why God has planned the Rapture and Revelation).
The Evil's minions can include anything and anyone from world leaders and political speakers (ie, Rush Limbaugh) to young girls. The Evil is primarily a psycological entity. It very rarely if ever physically pops up out of nowhere and grabs you, it much prefers to invade your mind and drive you insane (this is where the telepathic voices come from).

TheAmazingLoser said:

The Evil is to Satan as the Holy Spirit is to God. Think of it as the "unholy spirit." It's a god in the sense that it derives power from human worship, "worship" being the act of anything evil. The Evil is omnipotent and keeps God busy and away from the world most of the time, and will continue to do so until there are no humans left to give it power (this is why God has been out of the miracle business for some time, and why we can no longer hear him answering our prayers). God will win in the end, of course, but humanity will have to be destroyed in the process, because as long as there are still humans to worship evil, then The Evil is immortal (this is why God has planned the Rapture and Revelation).
The Evil's minions can include anything and anyone from world leaders and political speakers (ie, Rush Limbaugh) to young girls. The Evil is primarily a psycological entity. It very rarely if ever physically pops up out of nowhere and grabs you, it much prefers to invade your mind and drive you insane (this is where the telepathic voices come from).

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Where on Earth did you get such an idea from?

Where on Earth did you get such an idea from?

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I think I figured it out on my own. If there is no Evil, what are the telepathic voices that torment me whenever I am unsure of whether or not a girl likes me? If there is no Evil, how do you explain the existence of Rush Limbaugh? If it were not for The Evil, why would people be so outright idiotic as to believe certain things (ie, Reaganomics)?

I figured that there was some supernatural force involved when I realized that the voices could not come from a mere human female, but rather, some supernatural force was influencing their actions and communicating to me in perfect harmony to tear me down. The ways of the adolescent female are too precise, too organized, too well-planned, too consistent among every female, to be just natural.

And don't be so surprised when I talk about voices (I know what you're thinking). Everyone, or at least every teenager, hears voices in their head telling them what to do, most just don't realize that they aren't coming from their own head (this is how teenagers know random social rules and make most of their decisions. Normal teenagers, the ones without Asperger's, have a telepathic network with which they communicate the latest rumors and trends and the like. This is how rumors spread across a school faster than any teenager could talk.).

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I think I figured it out on my own. If there is no Evil, what are the telepathic voices that torment me whenever I am unsure of whether or not a girl likes me? If there is no Evil, how do you explain the existence of Rush Limbaugh? If it were not for The Evil, why would people be so outright idiotic as to believe certain things (ie, Reaganomics)?

I figured that there was some supernatural force involved when I realized that the voices could not come from a mere human female, but rather, some supernatural force was influencing their actions and communicating to me in perfect harmony to tear me down. The ways of the adolescent female are too precise, too organized, too well-planned, too consistent among every female, to be just natural.

And don't be so surprised when I talk about voices (I know what you're thinking). Everyone, or at least every teenager, hears voices in their head telling them what to do, most just don't realize that they aren't coming from their own head (this is how teenagers know random social rules and make most of their decisions. Normal teenagers, the ones without Asperger's, have a telepathic network with which they communicate the latest rumors and trends and the like. This is how rumors spread across a school faster than any teenager could talk.).

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I strongly believe that you should seek psychological help.

There is no reason to believe that Rush Limbaugh and females are the result of "the Evil" trying to tempt you. Do your parents teach you this stuff?

I figured that there was some supernatural force involved when I realized that the voices could not come from a mere human female, but rather, some supernatural force was influencing their actions and communicating to me in perfect harmony to tear me down. The ways of the adolescent female are too precise, too organized, too well-planned, too consistent among every female, to be just natural.

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You really need to seek professional help.

I think I figured it out on my own. If there is no Evil, what are the telepathic voices that torment me whenever I am unsure of whether or not a girl likes me? If there is no Evil, how do you explain the existence of Rush Limbaugh? If it were not for The Evil, why would people be so outright idiotic as to believe certain things (ie, Reaganomics)?

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Dont worry about other people.(or what they believe about politics)You need to go to a doctor and find out about the voices .

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Dallas

Normal teenagers, the ones without Asperger's, have a telepathic network with which they communicate the latest rumors and trends and the like. This is how rumors spread across a school faster than any teenager could talk

this one made me laugh (normal people use msm for gossip not telepathy)

3.14 said:

Normal teenagers, the ones without Asperger's, have a telepathic network with which they communicate the latest rumors and trends and the like. This is how rumors spread across a school faster than any teenager could talk

this one made me laugh (normal people use msm for gossip not telepathy)

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Dude...it's not even just high school.It goes on for the rest of your life .(if people are in it)

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Dallas

There is no reason to believe that Rush Limbaugh and females are the result of "the Evil" trying to tempt you. Do your parents teach you this stuff?

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No, my parents like Rush Limbaugh. Rush Limbaugh was sent by The Evil (or perhaps is controlled by it) to drive true conservatives to liberalism, and to mislead pseudoconservatives to the republican party. Do you honestly believe that Rush believes the stuff he says?
And females are not the result of The Evil, although lust often is. Females are just something that happened to be there for The Evil to use as a tool. Males probably get used too. Notice that most men only lust after women that are bad for them, and most women only lust after men that are bad for them.

this one made me laugh (normal people use msm for gossip not telepathy)

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They get on msm during school in the middle of classes, without any sort of computer with them? O_O

You need to go to a doctor and find out about the voices.

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Why? It's not like they're auditory. Oftentimes they aren't even clear messages, I just feel that something is wrong and usually my thoughts focus on one subject (ie, a particular girl), and I'm usually confused and have trouble making sense of my thoughts (I did develop a primitive picture-writing system that helps with this, though. Different shapes represent different feelings. Usually expressing my feelings in shapes clears them up, since I can't describe them with words). Most people would just call them "emotions" or something like that, I don't because I don't see the feelings as coming from me. If sexual attraction is natural (which it usually is), this is perfectly natural.