i am catholic. . .whatdo i do. . .

i think that she might want to have sex though, i get the sense of feeling that she wants to, but i will be strong and tell her no

cat-dog said:

i think that she might want to have sex though, i get the sense of feeling that she wants to, but i will be strong and tell her no

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Follow your heart, your gut instincts, not necessarily your crotch, and I believe everything will work out for the best.

Sunstone said:

Follow your heart, your gut instincts, not necessarily your crotch, and I believe everything will work out for the best.

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well, i shure hope so

i think i have a bible, but it is a childrens one, it is HUGE, but i know my parents probly have one around, i thought i had one in my room, guess not:bonk:

If you need one just give me our address and I'll send you one!


Really...

i will look tomorrow for it, i know i have to have one. . .

if not, just let me know.

If you feel like you're missing out on something, keep in mind that those who are having pre-marital sex are missing out on even more. They will never be able to completely give themselves to another person, and in the end, I firmly believe that any sensible person would view that as being much more important. You will be able to have a much more meaningful relationship. Additionally, fornication is a sin because God created sex as a means to display our love, so much so that we are willing to bring another human into the world for it, and to throw it around as if it were meaningless is offensive to Him. So look at the tradeoff you're facing: you can either have a few meaningless relationships that feel good for thirty seconds, or you can have infinitely more meaningful relationships with God and your future spouse.

i will be strong and tell her no

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I would not suggest that. Don't just tell her no because 'you don't believe in it' or whatever.

Let her know that it's for her. Let her know your reasons.

The dangerous thing is that if you just say 'No, I don't want to' she may think that she's not good enough. Let her know that she IS good enough, that it's BECAUSE you love her and care about her that you're not doing it.

http://www.pamstenzel.com/

There's Pam's website.

By the way, she's a child of rape, she was put up for adoption. She worked with pregnant teens for years, and apparently got really sick of hearing about how teens didn't know the benefits of abstinence. So, voila, she started speaking.

if you want a black and white answer. the answer is that the catholic church sees premarital sex as a deeply offensive sin that blackens your soul unless you should recieve the sacrament of reconciliation. although hard to do (look at it like its your cross to bear at this time in your life) with prayer and spiritual willingness you can devoutly stay away from the sins that blacken your soul. they darken your soul in many ways including guilt, sorrow, sadness and ultimately your separation from Gods grace. Premartial sex is considered a mortal sin. you can face some dire circumstances such as cheaping your body-therefore-losing self esteem. you could easily become pregnant and ultimatly commit an act of abortion-which in turn steers you further and further from the love and mercy of our Lord. From an act such as abortion which is directly connected with pre-marital sex-you would at sometime come to terms with the fact that you have paid money to commit a murder of the worst kind-to an innocent baby that has been sent by God. there are many many other terrible things that would be in direct correlation with sins such as pre-marital sex. i will get off of my soapbox now. but know that Christ does not want you to fall from his grace. not in that way. it is a horrible feeling knowing that you have separated yourself from him by letting some guy get in your pants. hope you make the right decision. keep your soul clean.

I just want to say something to the topic starter because I think I was in a similar position. Sort of. I wanted to lose my virginity when I was 16 because I was dating quite the knockout and I thought everyone else was having sex too. Thankfully I was to shy to ever try to push a physical relationship past just a kiss or two.

Thankfully I started dating the woman I am going to marry near the end of my senior year, adn I was glad I had saved myself as we were both virgins the first time we were intimate. Also I found out that only one of the people who had bragged about sex had actually done it.

Not sure if this helps at all, but I'm just saying that you're not the only one who has had those feelings.

Saint Xtreme said:

I just want to say something to the topic starter because I think I was in a similar position. Sort of. I wanted to lose my virginity when I was 16 because I was dating quite the knockout and I thought everyone else was having sex too. Thankfully I was to shy to ever try to push a physical relationship past just a kiss or two.

Thankfully I started dating the woman I am going to marry near the end of my senior year, adn I was glad I had saved myself as we were both virgins the first time we were intimate. Also I found out that only one of the people who had bragged about sex had actually done it.

Not sure if this helps at all, but I'm just saying that you're not the only one who has had those feelings.

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thank you, and everyone that has posted :woohoo:


by the way, i keep on hearing things from others, like, oral and stuff, my dad said that oral is more than sex, what does this mean? thanks

My friend, just don't have sex until your married. Just be safe. I knew a guy who was in a similar predicament, and he gave in. Now he is about to become a dad at the age of 17. I know he will love his child, but, his life is very very limited now. he won't have money to go to college, and he feels really crappy about having sex in the first place. There was actually a poll that said, married couples, enjoy sex more then unmarried, so just wait. It's really not that, hard, if you pray to God for guidance, and maybe say a rosary or two.

I agree, it really isn't that hard to do. If you pray for guidance and keep busy doing things that you love to do, and not care what everyone else is or isn't doing. You won't have a problem.

Well the Bible talks about fornication being a sin, and I can't really think of any Christian denomination that would condone it. Not only that it just isn't a good idea, especially when you are so young and don't know how much you will change in the future, find out who you are before you give yourself to somebody else, that's my advice. Because once you lose it there's no going back.

ok, dont worry everyone, i wont do it. i am ok without it.
but, about my previous post. . .any words?

That's kind of weird because usually it's seen as the other way around, but I think his argument would be that it's more personal or something. I don't really know.

oral and stuff, my dad said that oral is more than sex, what does this mean?

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I'd guess that StX is right. That's the only thing I can think of that your dad means!

Just so that you know, as many STIs (sexually transmitted infections) can be gotten from oral sex as well as intercourse. Don't think that it's 'safer' The only thing 'safer' about it is that pregnancy isn't possible.

As far as religion goes, premaritial oral sex is considered just as bad as intercourse.

woo-hoo! my first post!

I just wanted to say that I just turned 19, I'm in college, and I haven't had sex. I love the fact that I've kept myself chaste, even though I don't know anyone here who is in the same boat.

Oh, and one more thing: when I meet a guy who is doing the same thing, he becomes very attractive.