Free Love: Does It Work?

Are humans really capable of such a thing as "Free Love"? That is, are most humans capable of having sex with someone without eventually developing attachments, jealousies, possessiveness, desires to bond with just one partner, etc.... Does Free Love work in practice?

It can with the lovepotion called alcohol..

Nah really, evolutionary seen it used to be possible..

Well, I know a couple of people for whom that is the ideal they strive to live up to.

Myself, I have no opinion on it. I'd rather have the "attachments, jealousies, possessiveness, desires to bond with just one partner, etc...."

When it comes to sex, whether it's monogamy or polyamory or free love or abstinence or whatever, there is nothing that works for everybody, but almost anything, including free love, can work for some people.

Sunstone said:

Are humans really capable of such a thing as "Free Love"? That is, are most humans capable of having sex with someone without eventually developing attachments, jealousies, possessiveness, desires to bond with just one partner, etc....

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I think everyone is bound to have their own unique sexpectations.

Sunstone writes: Does Free Love work in practice?

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I would love to put this experiment to the test.

Sunstone said:

Are humans really capable of such a thing as "Free Love"? That is, are most humans capable of having sex with someone without eventually developing attachments, jealousies, possessiveness, desires to bond with just one partner, etc.... Does Free Love work in practice?

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I'm not sure if you're asking the question regarding having sex with only one person or having sex with multiple people.

If it's the former, I think it's extremely difficult to have sex continually with one person and not create some form of attachment, even if those attachments are fleeting.

If you're asking the latter, personally, I think some people are capable of having sex with many and being perfectly happy. I couldn't have said this when I was in my 20's but I know myself well enough now that if I wasn't married, I could have sex with many and have a great time and be happy. Not sure if I'd do it however. Ok, maybe I'd try it for awhile.

Sunstone said:

Are humans really capable of such a thing as "Free Love"? That is, are most humans capable of having sex with someone without eventually developing attachments, jealousies, possessiveness, desires to bond with just one partner, etc.... Does Free Love work in practice?

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If its a one night stand, its possible. But if the sex is continual, my assumption is that attachments will inevitably form.

Sex releases the neurotransmitter oxytocin, which correlates to feelings of deep union, from what I remember.

Staring into someones eyes also has the capacity of creating intimate feelings. People do this in speed dating. Staring into someone's eyes before, during, and after sex will help elicit some sort of bond. (Don't try and stare into someone's eyes in public. They will think your are creepy).

Romantic bonds also form between people that don't know each other very well, or see each other that much. Conversely, familiarity and habituation makes it difficult to form romantic feelings.

So, trying to have continuous sex with no attachments creates a situation that is ripe for romantic love and attachment to suddenly stir. Memories with the sex friend may eventually intrude one's unconscious mind--where hidden passions and instincts reside.

On an individual level, possibly. But humans tend to get caught up in drama way too quick. We are social creatures. And hell is other...well, I've used that quote way too much lately.

Sunstone said:

Are humans really capable of such a thing as "Free Love"? That is, are most humans capable of having sex with someone without eventually developing attachments, jealousies, possessiveness, desires to bond with just one partner, etc.... Does Free Love work in practice?

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It doesn't seem that way. Perhaps a few rare individuals can manage this, but I doubt that most can. I certainly cannot.


eudaimonia,

Mark

It can for some. Myself, I can have sex with someone, even several times, and not develop any feelings towards that individual.

Luke Wolf said:

It can for some. Myself, I can have sex with someone, even several times, and not develop any feelings towards that individual.

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Perhaps males have more of a tendency to do that, from an evolutionary and biological perspective. I suspect that higher testosterone males have such a capability. In parts of the animal world, high testosterone males adopt a certain mating strategy; to ejaculate quickly and mate with as many females as possible. Low testosterone males mate with less females and actually raise the offspring.
It's like a bad boy/nice guy dichotomy.

Higher testosterone levels mean you see the world in a more sexual manner.

Also, humans can lust without feeling any romantic attachments.

Free Love: Does It Work?

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Sure. Free Love always works.
Free Sex however is not always the best idea.
(unless, of course, it resides in Free Love...
ie... Love freely given...)

Free Love never clings.
It's Free. (and it's "faith"filled)
(faithful/fulfilling...
with no strings or promises necessary.)

Do you men love that you do not have to pay cash for.?
If so it works for most people.

Terrywoodenpic said:

Do you men love that you do not have to pay cash for.?
If so it works for most people.

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Huh? I don't understand what you are saying here. Would you rephrase?


eudaimonia,

Mark

Sunstone said:

Are humans really capable of such a thing as "Free Love"? That is, are most humans capable of having sex with someone without eventually developing attachments, jealousies, possessiveness, desires to bond with just one partner, etc.... Does Free Love work in practice?

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It is circumstancial. If you have sex with someone expecting something else will follow and it does not you only have yourself to blame. All humans are capable of free love.:yes: