Scuba Pete
Le plongeur avec attitude...
No dude... I prefer her tongue in my ear.
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Something wrong?Ah jeez...
Something wrong?
I really can't tell whether or not I'm attractive. I've gotten many compliments, some insults. I get what you are saying. You seem pretty knowledgable about this stuff. Though, what would be your best guess given the information so far? Do you think this is definitely flirtation?Nope.
I just wouldn't have put my pic up on this thread if I were you. Then you get people actually answering the question for themselves. If they think you're attractive, she's looking at you to flirt or something more. If they think unattractive, she's playing with you. None of this matters, because whether or not you're attractive to whoever sees you here, she's the one who wants to flirt for whatever reason. It doesn't matter how you look - that's obviously secondary, because she's doing what she's doing for reasons only known to her.
Don't listen to Angellous, he's just a bit miffed because as for being everyone's Daddy, you may not resemble him.Something wrong?
I really can't tell whether or not I'm attractive. I've gotten many compliments, some insults. I get what you are saying. You seem pretty knowledgable about this stuff. Though, what would be your best guess given the information so far? Do you think this is definitely flirtation?
Don't listen to Angellous, he's just a bit miffed because as for being everyone's Daddy, you may not resemble him.
Ah, seems like a well educated guess.With the info that I have, I would say that she just wants to flirt with you.
My impression is that she's not the girl for a long-term relationship. I think this because if she has a boyfriend and she's flirting with you, and if you were in a long-term relationship, she'll do the same thing to you. The best thing that can come from this, in my opinion, is a short-term fling, whatever that may entail. Or it could be nothing. If you like her, I'd just play it cool and flirt just a little back, and if that works out ask for a number.
IF SHE'S FLIRTING WITH YOU, THE BOYFRIEND DOES NOT EXIST.
Unless, of course, he's your best friend or boss.
You seem to really know what you are talking about.
No, I was talking to a woman about the psychology of playing hard to get: why nice guys and easy women are used for money or sex. This is because the way the brain's reward system works. Elusive mates cause a higher release of dopamine in the brain's reward system, which can correlate to romantic passion. Therefore, people who play hard to get are more psychologically rewarding, while people who are too easy aren't.Excuse me for interrupting.....but, Physis did at one point ask for a woman's advice. Can I throw out a few tidbits? I hope you'll excuse my forwardness but I think it's good for guys to learn this particular lesson while they're young....saves a helluva lot of trouble later.
Please don't take this the wrong way because you are a nice looking guy....but, I would absolutely not assume she is flirting or thinks you're hot. You mentioned these staring episodes started after her friend heard you proclaim you like playing hard to get.
Perhaps, but that is based on the notion that I am arrogant, which I am not. Confident yes. Also, I had considered the possibility that she is just doing this to sharpen skills, to see if I actually have any game (since I appear to know about playing hard to get,) or to stroke her own ego.It could very well be this staring is a way of trying to "figure" you out. It's not common for a dude to say he's playing hard to get. Most guys wouldn't even think of playing hard to get. The girls might think of you as stuck up and are fascinated or repulsed by that notion. Or, she could be playing games just to try to get you to like her so she could tell you to get lost.
Yes, but there is no facial expression for limerance (i.e. romantic feelings), just as there is no facial expression for hunger or thirst. It could be limerance for all I know. Even if she smiles and acts friendly, I still could not assume anything.At this point you just don't know. And, unless she smiles at you and acts friendly in a pointed manner, I wouldn't assume anything at all.
Of course. But when someone is staring at you for long periods of time, over a period of days, there is something behind it. What it is in this case, I am not sure. This is why it has been bothering me so much. Women are too good at this. Grrrrr.Men really need to learn at an early age that just because a woman happens to look at you or even smile at you....doesn't necessarily mean a thing. In fact, most of the time it doesn't mean anything other than she's being friendly for that moment in time.
I personally have not assumed yet that this is the case, but I very much appreciate your input. It helps to hear from a woman's perspective.I can't tell you how many times in my life I've looked at a man, smiled at him and could tell instantly he thought I "wanted" him. Usually you can discern this reaction when they continue to stare or follow you around or move onto asking you personal questions. Sheeesh. Can't a girl smile at a stranger without it meaning anything sexual?
Anyway...as AE has told you, I'd not think about it again unless she continues to stare. If it bugs you, just ask her why she's staring.
I can tell you one thing it probably isn't....that she likes you romantically. If I liked a guy, I wouldn't think of staring at him endlessly. I'd be too worried he'd think I was weird. Plus, she has a boyfriend and while that doesn't mean everything....she's more than likely not looking for a guy to have a side thing with or whatever.Of course. But when someone is staring at you for long periods of time, over a period of days, there is something behind it. What it is in this case, I am not sure.
I was giving that advice not so much for this particular circumstance, but later. You can ask any woman alive if she's had what I describe happen to her and I'll guarantee most have had men take smiles and a casual glance the wrong way.I personally have not assumed yet that this is the case, but I very much appreciate your input. It helps to hear from a woman's perspective.
Well, I thought the staring thing seems kind of teen-ish. For the most part, I have tried to ignore it, although I can't help but look when I sense someone staring from my peripheral vision.I can tell you one thing it probably isn't....that she likes you romantically. If I liked a guy, I wouldn't think of staring at him endlessly. I'd be too worried he'd think I was weird.
You'd be surprised how often women cheat. I'd say about half of them do, single or married.Plus, she has a boyfriend and while that doesn't mean everything....she's more than likely not looking for a guy to have a side thing with or whatever.
Yes, definitely an important thing to point out. It can be very annoying for a women to have a guy misinterpret her body language.I was giving that advice not so much for this particular circumstance, but later. You can ask any woman alive if she's had what I describe happen to her and I'll guarantee most have had men take smiles and a casual glance the wrong way.
You're welcome. I don't know how much help I was to you however. It's really a crap shoot at this point. Heck, she could be attracted to you or maybe not. It is odd though. Generally a person doesn't stare for this long!Again, I really appreciate your input. It helps to see other possibilities/perspectives.
You've been a major help! This is helping me put everything in a very logical perspectiveYou're welcome. I don't know how much help I was to you however. It's really a crap shoot at this point. Heck, she could be attracted to you or maybe not. It is odd though. Generally a person doesn't stare for this long!
She's the one who has initiated most of the conversations. I just don't care, for the most part. The first time I had initiated the conversation. But, most of the time I just didn't look at her or anything. She's very attractive, so maybe this created some sort of intrigue, as beautiful women are used to men leaning onto them, and not away from them.Why haven't you initiated conversation?
I dunno. I know a man who does this the moment he sees someone stare, and it usually makes women laugh because its so unexpected.